Who is your one that got away, how you get over it?

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A highschool sweerheart whom I loved is my one that got away... but still not over him...

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

My best friends brother i’ve liked since 2002. Our friendship ended around 2005 when he freaked out from her telling him i was in love with him and wanted to marry him and have his babies asap. Like she totally exaggerated. Of course i wanted those things but i would never admit that to her nor him since we were 12 and under. He came to my house 2007 after she told me he said some rude things so i was too hurt to really flirt with him. Then i passed him at a store maybe 2010 and he didn't even realize i was standing there. Then i went to his graduation in 2012 and my mom tried to force us to hug and it was the longest awkward silence where neither of us made a move. I ran out crying which was embarassing af. Then in 2013 his hotter older bro tried to make a move on me and i thought about it but was still to into him so i turned it down. And now here I am single... everytime im single he crosses my mind and his name slips out my mouth. I ran into his sis like a year or two back and she was funny acting. It really hurt considering she ruined my friendship with both of them. Before my friendship ended with this other girl, she advised that i mail him a love letter. I dont wanna look freakin obsessive 😂 I mean i never directly told him i liked him and he never directly told me he didn't like me. Its all word of mouth through his messy little sister. I really wanna sit down and talk it over with him. Im just scared. My mom thinks he's gay/bi now. Lmao i pray not because damn i’d be over him so fast. But yea i refuse to call him the one that got away because im not letting him go until i get some closure or a reaction or some shit😂😭

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I remember mine: it was a guy I knew back in high school. Perfect guy for me too: a geek, he got a vasectomy in his 20s because he didn't want kids, and a bit cynical like myself, lol.

It just seemed like the timing was never right for us. When he tried to ask me out, I was with someone or not ready, and when I wanted to date him, he was seeing someone or the timing wasn't right.

Eventually we lost touch, but by the time we reconnected, he had gotten married :|
However, he did get divorced, but by the time I found out, he had moved out of state and now he's seeing someone else. I gave up, LOL. It just wasn't meant to be.

As for how I got over him? Time of course. I rationalized with myself that there's a reason things didn't work out between us and even analyzed his cons, and why it wouldn't have worked out. Trust me, with time you'll slowly forget about him or find someone even better~

ItsTheNephilim · Accepted Answer

Not exactly someone who fits precisely in the description of 'one that got away' but she was the only girl in my HS who ever got my attention and gave the chills.
God I wish I hadn't been so aloof and arrogant for 3 continuous years while she was trying to get to me. Some jealous a-hole backstabbed me later and told her some shit about me and she never seemed to care to look (at least not in confrontational manner xD) after that. I later came to know the amount of dudes that were in 'love' with her but she never paid any attention to them! But hey! I had the 'hotties' of the school after me too so that'd make us two a good match ;). The only reason I have managed to get over her is again, my detachment, unsettling and uncompromising nature. Oh and there is always someone better so yeah.. toodle-oo HS crush!

jgokgotit · Accepted Answer

I am in the exact same boat as you. You will NEVER truly get over "the one that got away". However, you are young and will change as a person. As you change, there is a time where you will look back and realize "I am a different person from who I was when I loved him/her, he/she is likely a different person and we may not be right for each other at this point". You will ALWAYS remember you first true love (who is usually the one we consider "the one that got away"), but you will grow into having a different taste as you get older. I loved her so much, but I doubt I could stand her now. Also, try to reflect on if you really loved that person or just the idea of love. When you accomplish this, you will heal. Healing does not mean going back to the way you were before meeting him. It means not hurting anymore.

CapricornHoney · Answer

My very first boyfriend from college. Another time, another place it might have worked out but it just wasn’t meant to be for this lifetime.

It took me ages to get over it and I’m not even entirely sure how I did. Staying away from him and no contact with him helped immensely but ultimately it was time that was the healer.

ElissaDido · Answer

It's hard to tell.
When I was around your age I also thought that my high school crush was the one that got away but I liked a couple of other guys after him..
And now I think that my last crush is the one who got away and I'm trying to forget him.

Alice2398 · Answer

Thank fuck you broke my heart because now I appreciate what it really means to be loved by someone and I would have never met the love of my life if you didn't.

I got over him by realising love should be something that makes you go to bed at night smiling not crying and but I shouldn't be putting in so much hard work for someone who has zero respect for me. Once he got out my life, he got out my head space and me and a good friend helped regain my conference and self worth back. Why the fuck was I crying over someone who wasn't worth it and was never good to me deep down, he didn't deserve my tears at all and i should be happy I dodged that bullet and he was the best thing I never had.

Phoenix98 · Answer

A long time ago I thought I had met/gotten with someone who could have been the one and when things didn't work out for a while I thought she was the one who got away but as I became to think about the relationship and see it for what it was. And I realized that I was better off without her and that there was someone better out there for me who could actually give me what I want and what I need in a relationship and someone who I could be myself with and like me for me and love and appreciate what I did for her.

chriss · Answer

To get over it, you need to keep and slowly the mind forgets about the person.

It could take up to a year depending how attached you were.

The trick to move on faster is to delete the person from social media and block them and never speak to them again.

Just remember that the mind heals and moves on.

devilish-cutie · Answer

If he didn't want me when i wanted him i can't be bothered
I do my best to get over and not care about people that didn't appreciate and value me or see my worth
If the guy from the past wanted something w me, hed have to give me stars for me to even consider him which i think is really unlikely to happen if he was keen type of person before

rishabhgupta54 · Answer

I also felt the same few days back. I cried for her. I tried everything to get her back but none of them worked. It's like she don't want to be with me. Believe me or not this thing will work.

Put the headphones, listen to sad songs at full volume and cry out loud. All the hard part will automatically flushed out from your system...

I am sorry for your loss...

jaevlogz · Answer

This was very recent actually, my ex boyfriend broke up with me on December 4th, 2019 after 3 months of us being together.
We were both absolutely infatuated with each other. He still has feelings for me and I somewhat moved on, but it just isn't right. We still keep in touch but it's just hard to get over. We were each other's first kiss, first sexual intercourse, first everything. He said he would never forget me and will always be here.
But he did leave. He just isn't the right one for me. I'll never forget the experiences we've had together.
All it takes is just time. You'll begin to heal and it'll turn out better for you.

Jjpayne · Answer

I've never had one like that yet... But I will say when I was young in gymnastics there was this one girl named kelly I had such a crush on her and there was another girl named Gwen if did not more around as much to different schools I wondered what would have happened in a different life

Anonymous · Answer

We were hooking up. I caught feelings for him at some point. He didn't want me and he blew me off. Then he start to play hot and cold to keep me around (for sex)

Even though I had feelings for him. I had to cut contact and find a guy who will give me a real relationship. I "physically" moved on. I removed him from my life. However, I still think about him, and I was thinking if I wouldn't left, something would be different. But I did the right thing at that time.

I'm not sure if I will truly move on. And I stop to being obsses about "moving on" Everyone has "The one that got away" they will always remember. We maybe should just embrace this fact.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Here's mine, and I haven't either :(

GloriaMc · Answer

A teacher, first time we meet right there and then we made eye to eye that last 20 minutes as friends says seems the world stop as everyone is looking at us, unfortunately he is married he tried to catch me but as soon as I know his status I had to got away myself lol 😂

Sweetnessxoxo · Answer

A while back my ex i got over it because of time and a lot of Crying. My ex left me for another girl by the way when i was 16 I haven’t had an ex after that

JustJen · Answer

There is someone I still love and would do anything for. He didn't want me.

stardust101 · Answer

The one that got away I reunited with a few years ago. Had two kids with him and now a restraining order against him because he’s psycho. Lol now I wish he never found me

TrulyPink28 · Answer

Don't live with regrets x

Anonymous · Answer

My first love. No love since has been the same. I still think about her all the time. She recently had a baby and is happy now I think. I hope I'll feel that love with someone else again someday.

jss123 · Answer

Someone I met at work. We were thrust together by circumstances.
My best friend at the time was very jealous (I had no idea as she was married at the time) and did her best to cause a rift by spreading lies and the woman eventually married someone else. I only found out the truth years later that she was that jealous. Her son told me.. A few years ago.

It took me years to get over her. Its amazing. You never seem to love someone else as strongly as the first.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I've gotten over many girls. It's all a matter of accepting the fact that they're gone and moving on with your life.

soleil2666 · Answer

There isn't one, lol. To some people I am the one that got away. I was never a mean bitch, so it hadn't happened.

crazy8000 · Answer

Doesn't have anyone like that yet. but I'm the one that got away.

fewqw · Answer

It happened a long time ago.  Never found anyone with that level of understanding and emotions and intensity.  I got over it after few years but yes that feeling is still missing

Guardian45 · Answer

Love is bittersweet. There are highs and lows, but there's ALWAYS The One that got away!

Anonymous · Answer

She didn't get away. I married her.

Dean269 · Answer

The one who do not move on time destroys him/her

COMMODOREII · Answer

I had to move on.

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