Wow, our stories are parallel in many ways. Mine was long distance as well. We were together for 2 1/2 years. Our breakup was more complicated but included the "I've fallen out of love". I really thought he was the one. We talked about marriage and kids but never set anything in stone. I never thought it would just end like this.
Anyway, I know how you feel. It's been a month and a half since he broke up with me and I'm still crying. I've been trying no contact, but have been failing miserably. Today is day one again of no contact. If you can master not communicating with him, that'll be a step towards moving on.
As for dating, I'd suggest to put that aside for now. I've found it more hurtful because I size up every guy to him and they fail. It makes me feel even more that he's the one. So with that, I've stopped dating for now.
How long will it take to get over him? It varies for everybody. I know for me, it'll take at least 9 months. I say this, because we had plans up through next summer. New year's together this January. My birthday and international trip next March. 3-year anniversary in April. Apartment hunting in May. Etc. Once those milestones pass and he doesn't contact me, it will set in more that it's really over.
Right now, do your best to stay busy. It gives you another focus and helps time fly. I just signed up for a gym membership and volunteer organization. I may sign up for other things too. It's not easy getting over the love of your life. But you've gotta do it.
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Feel free to message me if you want to. Maybe we can support each other through this.
Usually it takes 2-3 months to get over someone. However, it may be different for you because you didn't see him much anyway. If you don't see someone often, you'll drift apart.
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