How long does it usually take to get over a break up that lasted 2 years?

Wow, our stories are parallel in many ways. Mine was long distance as well. We were together for 2 1/2 years. Our breakup was more complicated but included the "I've fallen out of love". I really thought he was the one. We talked about marriage and kids but never set anything in stone. I never thought it would just end like this.
Anyway, I know how you feel. It's been a month and a half since he broke up with me and I'm still crying. I've been trying no contact, but have been failing miserably. Today is day one again of no contact. If you can master not communicating with him, that'll be a step towards moving on.
As for dating, I'd suggest to put that aside for now. I've found it more hurtful because I size up every guy to him and they fail. It makes me feel even more that he's the one. So with that, I've stopped dating for now.
How long will it take to get over him? It varies for everybody. I know for me, it'll take at least 9 months. I say this, because we had plans up through next summer. New year's together this January. My birthday and international trip next March. 3-year anniversary in April. Apartment hunting in May. Etc. Once those milestones pass and he doesn't contact me, it will set in more that it's really over.
Right now, do your best to stay busy. It gives you another focus and helps time fly. I just signed up for a gym membership and volunteer organization. I may sign up for other things too. It's not easy getting over the love of your life. But you've gotta do it.
The crazy thing is, he is already moving on, and it just sucks because it's easier for him. His best friend makes the best wing man, and he has had a ton of practice. I just know it that he has moved on, so it seems. I just think it is crazy that the last time I saw him in October, I never thought it would be the last time in this life time. The funny thing is he got a gym membership and was trying to change himself from the last two years so he told me. But those are all good ideas.
I feel your pain. My ex lives with his brother, who is the ideal wing man, too. I just found out a few days ago that he has thrown away every item in his apartment (including photos of us) that reminded him of me. He's moving on, yet I still hope that he'll come back. Never thought our last visit would be the last too. It'll be tough getting past this, but time will heal us.
Feel free to message me if you want to. Maybe we can support each other through this.
Usually it takes 2-3 months to get over someone. However, it may be different for you because you didn't see him much anyway. If you don't see someone often, you'll drift apart.
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