Recently, I graduated from college and moved back home to the same town as him. He picked up another job and started school, so his days are very long. He works ALL day, or goes to school all day. Lately he has been picking up extra shifts at work that are overnight, making his work day 20 hours long. At first, I would get mad at him for being so busy and not trying to see me, especially now that I live closer to him. It was hard for me because I wasn't used to that- he ALWAYS made time for me no matter what.
He started acting distant as soon as school started, and I know me getting mad didn't help with the stress. I apologized and became more understanding. But over that next week, things started to go downhill.
I asked if we were okay and he said no. I called him and we talked for 2 hours. Basically, he was offered an interview for his dream job in a city 3 hours away. He always said that was his plan in the future, he even said last week he wouldn't take it now. He wanted to wait. But all of a sudden, he feels pressured, like he was to take this job now or he's never going to get it again. He's pressured to figure out his life and future all of a sudden. To cope with the stress, he is burying himself with work to distract himself and feel like he's doing something he "should." He does this when he gets stressed, he works too much, but it usually passes with him. He always works a lot, he always has during our relationship, but he always made time for other things too. Now, with the stress, he doesn't make time for anything but work.
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