My boyfriend wants to break up, what should I do?

[Private101]

Due to him staying at a girl's place, my boyfriend and I got into an intense fight. I communicated to him tjaf I am uncomfortable of him sleeping in a girl’s house, but he continued in doing it. He said he didn't want to keep returning to my condo because his friend is an hour away. He said that she was a single unattractive overweight lady and that all he wanted was his money back for their “Timberland" bag business, along with some unsold bags. Because his friend (girl) will be leaving for another country, the woman and her family is requesting him to stay at their home. He claimed I was being extremely insecure and selfish of not allowing him.

I have explained to him that he can sleep with me and I am not stopping him to meet them but then he said, he doesn't want to keep traveling back and forth and put into stuck. He argued a lot and said that he will break up with me.

What should I do?

Updates

8 mo

He said, he has Known her and her family for 8 years. I said You never consider my feelings into sleeping in a girl’s House.

[RoseySarah]

One hour drive is so nothing! We traveled 2 hours to see each other for years!

If he won't consider your feelings on this then he won't ever consider your feelings! Just a friend or not!

[Lokiion]

Yeah but we don’t know what his schedule are like and everything

[Mamaliv]

Even if he has nothing going on with this other woman, it is a huge red flag if he is threatening to leave you because of your feelings!! That’s manipulation, and a HUGE NO! move on, you need to be able to trust him but by him saying those word, buhbye!

[ObscuredBeyond]

It doesn't sound like you're ready for a relationship. And he's definitely not in the place to give you one. Sounds more like you need a journey of self-discovery or something, not a relationship.

[BigDog1989]

Let him? i mean, if he doesn't want to be with you, let him break up

[provokeesmokee]

Sounds like you're making assumptions on his relationship with this other girl. But frankly, 1h to drive isn't much for someone you love.

I don't think you're losing out on much.

[Spongebobssocks]

This is harsh but he doesn't love you. If he did he would listen to your feelings and go home to you. Break it up and move on to someone else

[midnightmoon05]

He is not your boyfriend. He has another woman.

[Anonymous]

Dump him. He clearly doesn't care about you or your opinions which is a red flag in any relationship.

[jeffend888]

You’re 28 and this is clearly not the right fit for you.

[shades777]

break up, it takes two to tango, or hear him out if its something small

[slatyb]

It's his decision, there's not much you can do.

[Ms_Facesitter]

And when are they going to leave?

[Anonymous]

Tell him see ya. You deserve better anyway.

[Sasha0426]

Let him leave 🤷‍♀️