Do you struggle with breaking up with people or do you just rip the bandaid off?

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I try to make myself clear from day one of what I want in a relationship. If down the line, he’s doing more of the opposite, I still find myself struggling to end things. I pull crazy stunts to try to get the person to leave. They rarely every work. Then I try to be annoying in hopes they breakup with me. That also rarely ever works. Once my bag of tricks is empty, then I just lose my shit and tell them nicely why I don’t see a future. But then they use the excuse of wanting to switch things up and work things out. I usually fall for that BS until I see nothings changed. Then its no more nice girl and I turn into She-Hulk and get all cutthroat, nearly killing the mf with my words until we are finally through. Lol In the future, I hope to be more forward and straight to the point, but I know me and I’ll probably continue to beat around the bush. What do you usually do when looking to end things?

Do you struggle with breaking up with people or do you just rip the bandaid off?

#FeelFreeToList #IsThisTheEnd

LovingLoverReturned · Accepted Answer

Yes hard... I feel deja vu in this question though.

First is funny but also sad. Got to kill him first 😂.

James one is a good idea but too harsh.

Confirm the one with guy in construction cap and walki talkie with me. People say "over" to mean they finish speaking on walki talkie? 😂 ...

I am very clear, stop any relationship stuff, kind but clear... allow them to slowly move on if they want to be friendly (though dangerous) but once you do it right, no longer messaging them much... like weaning a baby. It's sad because finding love is tough so I feel sorry but it isn't myself responsibility... they can go on an adventure and find love.. I try to give encouragement.

belle_kai · Accepted Answer

I end up initiating it but then I backtrack its like I end up feeling suffocated or I pick things that are wrong and want to end it but when it happens I still need the communication etc. #amitoxic

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

Men should pay attention to what you said here. When women aren't happy and want to break up, but want the man to be the one who does it, they tend to act out and do more absurd and unpleasant things to get them to do it before giving up and just saying they aren't happy and doing the breakup themselves.

Women DO do this. Sucks, but it's true. At least you came out and said the unspoken bit that many guys are probably ignorant of. Men, pay attention to to what Dizzy says here. This is a fact. I have seen it and experienced it.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

I’ve only done the dumping a couple of times. The first time was easy. She cheated on me. I was done and didn’t struggle with that decision at all. The second time i struggled with the decision to break up. Once i decided i made it happen forthwith.
I rarely struggle with communication. I am entirely open and honest with people who are important to me. I never lie to anyone anymore, and rarely withhold a meaningful truth. I despise deception in most every form. I do luv magic tricks and pleasant surprises!

Guy13 · Answer

You make me Dizzy... I enjoy it though.

RavVid · Answer

Yeah. Laughed a lot at the pic of the girl who says 'you don't have my permission'. There is a funny BBC series Couplings where the girl won't accept without getting a say in it.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/JpduBS_kNPQ

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Had that experience. After I told her she was highly unsatisfactory she would hook me back in without me noticing I was being roped again. She was really good at it.

Eventually I did pull the bandaid off and said 'I don't want to fuck you anymore'.

Most of the time, breakups have been quite mutual and we both wanted out.

msc545 · Answer

Breaking up with someone can be a difficult and emotional experience for both parties involved. It is important to be honest and clear about your feelings and to consider the other person's feelings as well. Some people find it helpful to take a direct approach and "rip the bandaid off," while others may prefer a more gradual approach. Ultimately, the best approach will depend on the specific circumstances of the relationship and the individuals involved. It may be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional to help navigate this process.

NathanDavis · Answer

just like some other things in life... I did struggle with it, but that is not going to stop me from doing what I have to do and especially to do them right

so yes, it can be a struggle but my commitment is still into it and then I just soldier through it

trina_x · Answer

in my op

its a bit manipulative to pull stunts to try to get him to break up with you

when im unhappy or anything in a relationship, i normally wait a long time and keep trying to make things better - if it doesn't get better then ill end it

JDavid25 · Answer

"Lol In the future, I hope to be more forward and straight to the point, but I know me and I’ll probably continue to beat around the bush."

I would hope you don't look to do that again and that the next guy is the one for life.. 😂😂.. Geez.. But, I have a hard time as I get pretty attached.. Usually know when something is over, but I still hold on because I'mma sap..

xJayleenx · Answer

I would struggle I’m always afraid of hurting people’s feelings. I did initiate one breakup when I was younger but only one and I struggled going on with it because I was too nice so the guy had to say something to make me hate him like that he was getting back together with his ex for me to go through it and block him lol he has sent me multiple friend requests on Facebook but I’ve blocked all of his accounts for me there has been no looking back lol I’m happy with my man.

kellytheman · Answer

I always meet up with her (never call or text to break up) and I try to end it on good terms. I don't insult her and I stay calm and say why things are not working out. Sometimes we might not break up right away and see if we can put some effort to make it work but it kinda hard to do that since we want different things in the relationship. Usually it's the girl that's wants to break up or if she cheats on me to end the relationship.

exitseven · Answer

I had a long distance relationship and I really felt like it was over. I just did not feel the same way anymore. It took me 4 months to actually call her on the phone and break up with her. The next day I wondered if I made a mistake.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don’t struggle with it but I do like to at least attempt to work things out first. Because if you can save a relationship and the issues are fixable then an effort should at least be made.

Reece12345 · Answer

It's a struggle for me. I always feel I'll never find anyone better, even though I know that's not true.

Labokachulaa · Answer

I struggled with the first guy, but my current partner? If he messes up, he knows he's gone. Lol it's very easy for me to cut people off now.

Pink2000 · Answer

I struggled with breaking up with my last boyfriend. It was hard even after everything he did. I still love him. Even with my boyfriend before him I had a hard time breaking up with him.

SnowedIn · Answer

Just end it. Be polite, thoughtful, don't say mean stuff, but end it.

AdithyaR · Answer

I don't know, I've never been the one who dumps someone. I've only ever been the one who gets dumped soo. Plus I've barely had like 2 very brief dating periods, no actual relationship.

melanieeeB · Answer

It takes me some time to decide to leave but once I make that decision I rip that shit off fast

DavidRaul · Answer

Never been in a relationship myself, so i don't know what would my reaction be. But if i am going to date, i would date to marry.

Shamalien · Answer

If at any point in the relationship I saw a future I would try and work it out. How my ex could see these things and then bail so quickly I don't know, I’m so fucked up

nawtee_me · Answer

I am a rip the bandaid kind of guy. If you have a problem breaking it off just give me a call. I don’t mind jerking it off for you, wait that doesn’t sound right…. lol

Sparkie460 · Answer

I just rip off the bandaid and move on. Cut ties and move on. I'm usually subtle in telling her but to the point

TallAnon · Answer

I've never had to officially break up, but I've had similar circumstances and I'm definitely not emotionless.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I try to work things out until I go fucking nuclear. But thats no longer an option at my age because kids are involved

collie22 · Answer

I've only broken up one time , it was the worst thing. Took my like 2 seconds

AimeeKyle · Answer

I struggle…. Because it isn’t bad all the time…. I need to do better at it, for sure.

ZenJen444 · Answer

I rip the bandaid off. If the guy isn't working then adios. Men are very aware of their actions and behaviors.

MzToffeeSweets · Answer

It's an immediate emotional reaction. For men it's a delayed emotional reaction when they actually get past their own egos.

LiamJHayden · Answer

lol The meme of Mr. Obama. If it isn't working I just end it immediately.

DevinAM · Answer

I've never been the one to end it, only officially been in two though.

Agape93 · Answer

Rip it off. No half measures.

ariadneR · Answer

Just get up and leave

Anonymous · Answer

Never had this problem.

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