Have you ever held back or turned someone down because you truly felt they were too good for you?

[DizzyDesii]

Im not saying that you didn’t feel you were good enough for them. Sure you are. But like say you just felt they were too good for you. Like you didn't even want to ruin them with your complexity. Yet you still see them as an inspiration and they somehow motivate you to want to become a better person... i think shakespeare is hitting me hard tonight 😂 Lemme logout 🤣

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[Msputiton]

This is kinda similar for me but for a different reason.

I turn people down constantly that i would love to date. Not because i think I'm not good enough for them. I know dating me usually breaks you. I am hard to date. I am a great friend, but by far a horrible girlfriend.

I lose interest extremely quick, i don't want to make time for someone I date. I don't like feeling trapped by dating someone. I like being free to do what i want without having to think about if my action might upset someone I'm dating.

[DizzyDesii]

Im kinda the opposite. I think im a great girlfriend but a horrible friend. Yet i do begin feeling trapped in friendships and relationships if i begin to notice we’re too different

[Msputiton]

And that makes complete sense because you figured out y'all ain't compatible anymore.

[Pink2000]

Honestly yes. This guy slid up on my story on Snapchat and he wanted to take me out. I said yes at first and we exchanged numbers and talked on the phone for almost 2 hrs. The conversation was good but I realized that he was honestly too good for me and I’m not mature enough to appreciate someone like him which I told him and I told him I don’t wanna waste his time.

[DizzyDesii]

Yessss like i dont think i’d waste their time but i def feel like i haven't reached that level of maturity. Ughhh 🙈

[Pink2000]

Exactly. at least we can both see that though.

[Chazmatazz269]

It was never about the idea that they were actually too good for me so much as that they might think so and reject me. I’ve always been pretty sensitive and when i was young i wasn’t adept at managing my vulnerabilities, so i remained guarded more often than not. That definitely included not approaching girls who i thought were the bee’s knees.

[DizzyDesii]

I probably should put my guard back up

[Chazmatazz269]

Maybe. That depends on the results you most desire. Naturally, being closed off severely inhibits your ability to make meaningful connections. Obviously, i’ve never had the advantage of being female, but even then it can’t help. Ell oh ell! If you find the content of solitude more satisfying than the excitement that chance and challenge provides, then guarding is almost certainly best. But life is long and people come and go for a wide variety of reasons. A commitment to either choice is foolish, i think.

[DrillBeats]

I’ve turned down great, kind, innocent women because I didn’t want to break their heart. Not that I was out to intentionally hurt women but I wasn’t trying to settle down. I knew that’s what they wanted and I didn’t want to string them along or ruin their love experience.

[DizzyDesii]

I definitely dont mind committing. I prefer to. But im also a flirt and yea

[DrillBeats]

I’m not against commitment now but at the time I wasn’t with it.

[ChillaxingLove]

Nope. If someone says that then they have deeper personal issues to work on, I’m not perfect but self esteem is one thing I’m not struggling with. No one is too good for anyone because no one is better than anyone. I hate that saying “out of your league?” How egotistical can one be. And usually it’s because the person is being super shallow they think they look so good that your below them lol.. let’s check back 60 years later and see if they still hold that “out of your league” view. Relationship-wise some people are circles and some are triangles, maybe you 2 just don’t fit well together, doesn’t mean you’re better then them.

[DizzyDesii]

I didn't say i was better than them. I said they’re too good for me. Like literally goody two shoes

[ChillaxingLove]

I wasn’t talking about you it’s just an example

[LovingLoverReturned]

Probably.. don't want to be held accountable for corrupting someone. Not that I'm so corrupt... it's just I'm sure there is someone too good for me.

[DizzyDesii]

I hear ya

[RavVid]

Can't say I have thought that. I have backed off due to thinking they are too attractive and cute or that they had their life far more in order than I have mine.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh well those are understandable 😂

[Justneedtokno]

Yes absolutely this guy that like me now he’s always being thoughtful and there’s been some things that are red flags for me but he would be great for somebody a wonderful husband. I just can’t be with him.

[DizzyDesii]

Man its the worst feeling

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah, he gave me money, and I gave it right back to him. Besides, I’m not impressed by money.

[DizzyDesii]

I agreeee

[exitseven]

Truthfully, I struggled with this when I met my wife. I was going through a really bad time in my life and I wondered if I should drag her into my abyss.

[DizzyDesii]

Aww but at least something good came from it

[exitseven]

@DizzyDesii We hjad a rough first few years, We got pregnant about a month after we got married and it was tough to live on my crappy income but I somehow finished college and got a better job and never looked back.

[Rudon00]

Yet you still see them as an inspiration and they somehow motivate you to want to become a better person...

It all of that same reason I want them in my inner circle and value them in my life instead of turning them down.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't say i have yet turned him down but im not actively making moves until i work on myself

[Rudon00]

Excellent decision. Just don't take too long to improve on the new you my friemd👍👍

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Lol! Oh sweet dizzy! You def need to get out of your head!❤️❤️❤️

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i hate overthinking

[Wish4UrB00ty]

That’s when I turn on some music or go for a walk.

[mstbooblover]

Very difficult to answer honestly such a question, but still, when I hold back or turn down someone, it's not because I don't feel good enough. More accurately, I let my instinct take the decision, although some elements are obvious, as most importantly what they expect, the circles they belong to, how they behave with me, etc.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i can't act on instinct

[mstbooblover]

Why not? Instinct is basics. And one has still the choice to give in or not. Instinct is capable of going far beyond appearences.

[DavidRaul]

Nahhh, i wouldn't 😂. I would give her a shot if she approached me

[DizzyDesii]

Haha

[DavidRaul]

I mean if we have different personalities, we can both help each other in every aspect of life. This would actually be fun

[DizzyDesii]

I would be disappointed if he were the opposite personality

[TrillXHippy]

Yeah I’ve held back before or turned down someone before because of that reason and I just never been confident in myself at all

[TrillXHippy]

I can relate to the last 3 gifs so much especially the 3rd one

[DizzyDesii]

Yes sometimes we’re such a mess

[Anemone978]

Yes a few times, I am trying to have more confidence in myself now...

[NathanDavis]

nope... I've never felt that way in the first place but I know for sure that I would still not let go, if I truly had a chance with someone I am really into

[DizzyDesii]

Well you are truly bold. The risk of negative results stop me from taking a chance. When i care about someone, I can't stand the thought of unintentionally ruining their purity (no matter how attracted to the person i am)

[JDavid25]

Nah, I have hardly turned down many people.. But when I did, it definitely wasn't because they were a great person.. LOL.. Unfortunately..

[DizzyDesii]

Loll

[Anpu23]

No, when I was dating around I really was an F boy. so I didn't really think like that at all.

[DizzyDesii]

Dang glad you changed

[Anpu23]

Just grew up.

[LiamJHayden]

Not initially, but as things progressed and it became clear that her goal was marriage and a family I ended it in fairness to her, since I did not foresee even considering those in the future.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow

[AimeeKyle]

No. I have felt some of the ones I have chased in the past felt they were better than me though. I also think most of us have felt that from others at some point.

[DizzyDesii]

If i sense a guy thinks he better than me, i automatically lose interest. Its one thing to feel like i dont want to ruin a person who’s too good for me (in terms of the always being optimistic) but if the guy is like cocky or arrogant or something than he can go

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Yes. I was not their worth.

[DizzyDesii]

Awww

[RoastedToast]

No lt personally no but I've been turned down by before because of this

[DizzyDesii]

Did you understand that she truly felt you were too good for her

[RoastedToast]

Didn't know her well enough to say. It was one of those I shoot my shot we hit it off for a bit then later that same day. So not really my place to say it's their choice

[RoastedToast]

Just going by what she told me take it how you will