Have you refused to date someone because you thought he/she was too good for you?

[Anonymous]

We all know the bs excuse "you're too good for me." or "I don't deserve you."

Today I found myself making that excuse, but I also found myself reflecting on how I'm really feeling. To be honest, I really did feel insecure and unworthy in a way, but I thought about if I'd really refuse if I found someone who is the complete package, and I don't think I would.

I realized I def did not think this person was good for me either because of multiple factors so even though I wasn't feeling super confident, I felt this person didn't have a personality that I saw myself with long term. So this just got me thinking, have any of you actually genuinely refused someone who you thought was such a great and attractive person with no major flaws because you just thought you weren't good enough? I feel like this has to be very rare but maybe I'm wrong.

If you did refuse, please tell me what happened afterwards and how you feel about it.

[Summeroflove]

Nope. If it isn’t meant to be it won’t be meant to be. But you never know unless you try. But you choose who you want. But…. Could be your loss.

[dophix]

My ex was kind, gentleman, smart, etc. People find me lucky when we dated. I broke up with him due to his nihilism of life. Also, he is mentally and emotionally unstable. He is denial. He doesn't know how to help himself🙃

[jennifer_bloom]

No. But I will look for evidence the guy is not playing me or going to cheat on me if I believe he can get many girls more attractive than me.

[panamared1]

I have

[Asker]

Do you mind sharing why? I would really like to hear your perspective

[panamared1]

she put me on a pedestal, i did not feel i could live up to it

[Asker]

So how did you turn her down or end things?

[panamared1]

Just told her I could never live upto her opinion of me, so I said bye

[panamared1]

She was a very nice person, think about her occasionally