Is this normal when your EX’s parents stay in touch with you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I and my ex fiance broke up 7 months ago. He cheated and left for the girl he cheated with.

His family loved me and they were very close to me.

To this day his mom messages me everyday, sends me gifts, saves my pictures in photo albums, sends me songs, teaches me things. Tells me I am her 3rd child. She also tells me she wants to see me happy and encourages me to be happy.

My ex doesn’t go home anymore, I don’t know whether it’s because of the guilt or because he feels ashamed of his parents that his new love story is based on betrayal and lies.

I just wonder if it is normal for your ex’s family to love you and stay in touch with you, long after the break up.

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That being said, I was indeed a very good girlfriend and I’ve loved my EX the way not many people are capable of loving.

I feel like maybe his parents feel guilty and they also think that I was a better match for him, as his mom told me, last night he went home and he was drunk and unlike himself and that he thinks even though in a new relationship, he is not happy. But she still tells me I should move on and forget him.

[dynamicyandere]

It sounds like you cultivated a genuine friendship. With how his mother thinks you should move on from her son while simultaneously giving you gifts and wishing you well. You sound close to her heart as a person in her life. If you didn’t date her son. Perhaps she still would have had a wholesome relationship with you if you were like the sweet girl next door sort of thing, ya know?


Pretty rare. But I can see how it could happen.


I remember when I used to sell security systems door-to-door, a sweet old Asian couple really enjoyed my personality and company, invited me in to have lunch with them, and by the end of it said they wish they had me as a son.


Something between you made you feel like the daughter that she wish she had, or maybe the woman within her recognizes and cherishes another woman with a kind soul.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think that’s because I’ve shown her more care than her children. Her children are always busy and rarely contact her.

I am busy too, but I enjoy the attention I get from her, so I’ve been attentive as well.

She said she recovered from her illness because she had me talking to her and she thinks that I am a wonderful person.

I wonder if his mom loves me and his dad loves me, after all he is made up from their genes, why couldn’t he love me enough? 😄

But yep, I feel close to her and treat her like my older friend. I’ve always felt close to older people.

[dynamicyandere]

Sounds like a very wholesome friendship. 😊

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She just told me she feels like she will always worry and miss me doesn’t matter where I go, because I almost became her daughter-in-law.

[dynamicyandere]

That’s sweet of her. 💖

[Guy13]

No this is very rare. Unless they think you are a risk to yourself OR they really think you are perfect for their son.

[Anonymous]

i think it's a bit odd and they're holding on to something that can never be again...

i mean here and there is fine. but every day and sending gifts etc? I don't know...

[TrueConfection]

It's unusual and it's wrong for a parent to keep a relationship with their son or daughter's ex unless there are children involved.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Her child f**ked up big time. I was his fiance, he cheated with a girl who is a good manipulator and is dating her now. I think his parents see that he made a huge mistake.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That girl knew he was engaged.

[TrueConfection]

Of course they do, but he's still their son. They shouldn't be keeping up with his past relationships.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, maybe. Because I can’t imagine her having a good relationship with my ex’s new girlfriend unless she lets me go.

And in China, parents approval is very important for the marriage, so I have no idea what my ex hopes for - building his new relationship based on lies, cheating, betrayal and also on the base of disagreements with his family.

He’s been drinking lately, He hides from the social media and feels ashamed to post pictures with his new girlfriend.

I have no idea why he chose to do that. I think that’s the most stupid choice of his life.

[TrueConfection]

Lots of people make BIG mistakes. I recommend you move on. How will you explain your relationship with your ex's mother when you meet someone new?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep. I know. But his mom tells me that girl is a manipulator and has been scheming to get him for a long time and she doesn’t support her and wants us to get back together, as she thinks I was his first girlfriend and a fiancée.

[Alex8736]

they probably know he's a problem child and or know you were a perfect fit but he messed up

[EaterPeter]

I would not say normal or not normal. But unusual and happens though

[Yellovv]

Maybe his family feeling guilty for her son act, that's why they doing that...

[MementoMori777]

Yea it's somewhat normal, it happened to my friend

[Brando10222]

I wouldn't be in touch with ex's parents