If you were close with an ex's family, would you still try to stay in touch with them after the break up? Or is that inappropriate? What do you think?
Is it okay to stay in touch with an ex's family after a break up?
I'd try staying in touch. I've just got separated from my wife of 22 years and have always through those years gone to family dinners, holidays. When they found out she wanted a divorce they were texting me letting me know that I was still part of the family. According to my ex she said they were on my side and not hers even when she explained why. So I'll try and stay in touch. If it becomes weird then I'll deal with it when it happens. I'm an only child so they were the closest to siblings I have. So I say give it a chance.
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I have heard this happen before. 1 girl I once knew, she was in a serious relationship with this 1 guy for 12 years. They broke up, she stayed over at her ex's family's house or farm or something like that & his family was okay with that.
About 5 to 6 months later, those 2 began to talk again. Whether or not if those 2 got back together again,.. I don't know.
This is totally my best friend. She is one of the nicest human beings on the planet. Everyone who meets her loves her including all of her ex's families. She goes to their family BBQ's, Christmas parties, whatever if she's invited, which she often is. The families will like pull her aside and ask if there is any chance they can get back together. She freely admits she likes their families way more than she ever did her exes.
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Na go ahead. If it was a clean break up then there is no problem. If it was a bit more emotional then I would let ya ex know that you're going to stay in touch. But sure go ahead. If it is making YOU uncomfortable then just think about it as you make friends through a mutual friend who you are no longer friends with.
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Definitely inappropriate if you aren't on good terms with your ex. I loved my ex's sister to bits, we got along very well and it made me sad to lose her as well. It's only necessary for the healing process
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Yes it is fine to remain froends with an ex"s family. Long as you are not trying to stay in contact with the family in hoping to get back with the ex.
My fiancee from high schools. We broke up about 8 . months after graduating in 1987. I remained friends with all of her family but her. Over the years they would invite me & later on my wife & kids to the family cook outs. The ex had stopped talking to her family long ago so was no problem for me to ve there with my wife.
I love my high school swerthrart's family has much as my in laws. I even went to her fathers funeral. Just 5 years ago. She & her husband was there we were like brother and sister.
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It depends on the circumstances of the break up. Like if you dumped him or cheated on him it's inappropriate and very mean especially if he was serious about you and you broke his heart. It's also inappropriate if your using his family as a way to get back together with him or ruin his chances with other.
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Yeah~!! My brother legit almost married a girl, kissed her goodbye, then went and married some other girl XD. If you really were close to them, they'll still be your friends. The family of the girl my bro dumped are some of my best buds. Don't worry about your ex, as I say, "If the loved you once, they can't completely hate you."
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"Inappropriate" or not, if I was close to them in the first place, I would continue to be close to them. Many families actually feel the family member's ex is nicer than the family member. lol
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No, it is better if you stay away from them anymore coz that will not help you move on. Unless are still expecting that your ex will come back to you again. But if you really think that your relationship with him/her is totally end then you should cut all the connections with him. :)
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I think that's perfectly fine as long as you don't end up focussing your conversations on talking about your ex. If the conversation narrows to discussing your ended relationship then it will eventually make everyone feel uncomfortable. I do think you should confide in your ex that it's what you want though.
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Yes it's fine. And I did. As long as the family wants too. Of course in my case I stayed close with my exs mom. She was also our sons grandma. The only person that had a problem with it was my ex's new wife. She actually told my ex's mom to choose. Lol! I don't get that kind of jealousy. We should all be friendly for the sake of my son. But still his mom and I were close and that didn't have to end because her son f'cked up and cheated.
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Well it actually depends how why you broke up & if you and the family was on good terms before you broke up. I was with my ex for 3 years & been broken up for 3 years. I always talk to his mom and sister, since we have contact with eachother they love having me over to talk, have a coffee or even a smoke together.
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My ex and i are still on very good terms, no bad blood just lost feelings, she was a lovely girl and my family really liked her, i personally think you shouldn't disconnect from potentially great people in your life like an old partners family just because of a breakup. Obviously if the breakup was messy its a no though
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Depends on the relationship before you and your ex started dating. If you are friends with a sibling or you were good friends with your ex before you started dating than yes it's okay. Time is the other key. Give your ex time to get over you (work through there emotions) before you start hanging out with their siblings or family again. The best thing is to talk it through with your ex.
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Nope, it's just a reminder of the ex and an excuse to see what is going on in their lives. Move on, nothing wrong with chatting if you happen to see them somewhere but the next person you are with wouldn't like that very much. If you stay single for awhile focus on other things.
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It is OK but from my experience most exes family members turn on you just as much as the ex does. I was very close to my exes mom and dad but we will split I was pretty much black-listed. They went from mom and dad to total strangers overnight. The bottom line is most people are fake and only want you around till they have no further use for you.
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If you were married for a considerable amount of time, maybe, but if not, no. It would be okay at first, but it would soon get awkward and with you not dating the person anymore, what reason does the family have to talk with you?
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I think it’s inappropriate. The family comes as a package with the boyfriend > if you break up with the boyfriend you kinda break up with the family aswell
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Mm I think it's kind of sad but it's not really fair on your ex, cause it's his family and they're meant to support him and he should feel like they're on his side
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I think that's fine, like calling on birthdays and Christmas and all that. I do that, and my ex's mom calls me on these dates too. If they really liked you, why not.
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Breakup: if the family loves you I would stay in touch but stay in touch with them not your ex. Don't bring up the ex unless they do. Keep it casual and cool not curious. Divorce: completely stay in touch. Doesn't matter whatever just stay in touch. However for both if they did not like you as their relatives spouse then just move on.
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It depends, I stayed in touch for my daughter’s sake. Ex disowned his family, lol. He didn’t think communication between us should occur. We were married for 10 years
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I wouldn't think it's wrong. But it's more like see what your ex feels about it. Bc that's there family. Don't want to ruin family relationships
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