My ex keeps coming to my place of employment to chat with mutual friends. Like two times a week. I don’t see him but my friends tell me he was there. Is he hovering or visiting friends that has nothing to do with me? He started visiting more when I decided to go to work at a different time because I kept seeing his car in the morning. If it is to get my attention then what is that about?
Is my narcissistic ex hovering or visiting mutual friends when he shows up at my job?
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He's trying t get a reaction out of you to fill his need for attention. Act as if he is not there. NO emotion or acknowledgement.
Just keep your pepper spray on you. If he's truly a diagnosed narcissist, he could become dangerous fast.
It'll start with slashing your tires, making threats and so on, then get progressively worse.
Most people like to throw around the "narcissist" term pretty loosely these days though
I hear what you are saying. I agree people use that term too much. My ex hit 9 out of the ten characteristics of a narcissist. I thought I was 100% in his disgusts phase and he had new supply but this showing up seems like a head game. He once stopped by my desk when we were dating and said “don’t think I am here because I miss you or am going to call you baby. I come to see a couple people here.”
I don't doubt you. He sounds like one.
There's no way he's not there for you on some level. Sorry you're going through that.
And still, watch your 6.
My girl's ex was one too, and he went from doing that kind of crap to showing up at my parent's house in the middle of the night to try to intimidate me, slashing her tires and threatening to kill both of us while he was on parole.
Dead eyed prick