My bestfriend betrayed me with my ex. Should I take her back?

[JustMyLuck05]

The same exact thing happened to me a few days ago. We broke up and I was still getting over him. I was heartbroken at the time. I spilled my heart to her before I figured out that she hung out with him without me knowing before we even talked and she didn't even tell me the truth. His bestfriend told me that and I called her crying. Of course she denied at first and then told me the truth. From there I knew it was going down hill. I forgave her with no strings attached at first. I mean she was my friend since kindergarden and I needed her more than ever at that time. We started fighting a little about it because I knew she liked him. I hated the fact that he wanted to hang out with her again and I still was crushed over him. My other bestfriend called her on her cell phone and told her off politely telling her about how I felt. Finally I snapped and told her off about not helping me but making the problem worse. I have tried to forgive her again and agian but it just hurt me more. Figures that he asked her out and later I got a text from him saying that I called his "girlfriend" an idiot. So they both attacked me through text with hateful comments. I cut off contact from both of them now. I have a wonderful boyfriend right now but I miss my bestfriend like crazy. I don't know if I can take not seeing her again or the being betrayed by my bestfriend. I need advice. Should I take her back or should I just give up on her?

[NirvanaCobain]

Never. I say never accept a friend who betrayed your trust. First off, is she was a "friend" she wouldn't have even thought of looking at your boyfriend let alone her being your best friend. Sweetie that is not even a friend at all! you don't need people like that in your life. Sure you may miss her but you can find a better friend :) I did and I don't regret letting go of all the shitty friends I had and I love myself more for it. If you do think about taking her back think TWICE before doing it, don't let your boyfriend around her and don't trust her as much as you did in the past. Real friends wouldn't betray their friend that way. Good luck :]

[Anonymous]

Best friends would NEVER do that to each other. That's the worst thing any friend can do to you, and that's even without the fact that she lied to you about it afterwards.

If you want to stay friends with her, that's up to you, but it'll take more than an apology or your history for you to go back to that level of friendship you two had, and she'll have to prove her worth to you first. Until then, you have to keep your guard up babe! Protect yourself OK?

And there are a billion other people out there who you may not have known since kindergarten but who are still fun and sweet and who would never betray you =) Good luck babe!

[Keela-dequila]

She seems like a selfish person and a bad friend. She was dishonest when you gave her the chance to fess up. I would forget about this girl and your ex. They both sound like shady characters. You really don't wanna be her friend, do you? Just let go of this situation and delete the fakes from your life.

[raz0rblastz]

the question is really for you to decide.if you can stand being with her and ur ex again sure why not.but its gonna be tough and the last thing you want is to break down again and scold her for being a backstabbing bitch(which is TRUE).frankly from my POV.i would suggest you don't because you won't want a best fren whom you can't trust.

[xxHangingOnxx]

NO!

Real friends don't betray you.

Real friends listen and are there for you through it all.

Real friends will cheer you up in any way possible, even if they're annoyed with you.

Seriously. She doesn't deserve to be your friend! Especially if she does stuff to you that you wouldn't do to her and vise versa!

Okay? Just don't. You'll miss her, but come on, she'll probably do it again!

[Anonymous]

If you honestly can't forgive her, then just move on. They are being crazy attacking you. I would just stay away from her. I think it will take time for you to feel better, but once you realize what you want in life then it will work out. Honestly, I wouldn't feel she would be entitled to my friendship, dump her. Let her come crawling to you wants he dumps her.

[arty14]

nope! don't do ot!