Why I s my Ex boyfriend I broke off with always sniffing around on special occasions?

[Anonymous]

I am new on here. What is ur opinion. Any help would be helpful, please.

[Anonymous]

He remembers things differently than you do. Also men usually react to breakups differently then women do.

Women usually (as you have) do the break up and/or divorce. Guys are usually more likely to be caught off guard.

When you break up with someone you have already weighed out all the benefits vs drawbacks. You are usually mentally prepared for the repercussions and what the future is going to be like without them. You got things planned out in advance. You made your decision (right or wrong) at your own volition. You may have to deal with the guilt but yet you are in control.

When you get dumped you have zero real control over the outcome. Especially if you didn’t want it to happen you are powerless to change the other person’s mind. You can only change your own mind that it’s over. But you do not have a say in the decision. It’s a feeling of powerlessness that men (and some women) have trouble with.

Also women have the luxury to mourn and process their emotions when they get dumped. Men are under societal pressure to be tough about it. But it’s easier said than done to just “forgot about it” when it’s something you didn’t want to end and were powerless from influencing. So guys often internalize this and some of us never really get over an ex. Instead we just “manage it”. Most women really don’t understand that.

Anyway unless this guy is a legitimate threat or something I would just forget about it. He’s never going to completely forget about you. Even if he marries someone else. But unless he’s knocking on your door or something just go about your business.

[NYCQuestions1976]

He probably misses the family/holiday events. Do you have a closer and/or larger family than he does?

[Asker]

Maybe. No, We have never met each others family. I used to though hand him out gifts on special occasions?

[NYCQuestions1976]

That's possible.

[Asker]

Our 4th yr anniversary is coming up May 3 I will message u here. hahaha Thanks for the help, dude.

[NYCQuestions1976]

No problem. I'm a pillar in this community and morale for the masses. 😉👍😂

[MysteriousDarkness]

You say he is your ex boyfriend but in a reply say your 4 year anniversary is coming up in May. That makes no sense