My ex of 2 years was dating another woman while was with me. why didn't broke up before?

[Anonymous]

I had 2 years relationship with my ex. Was quite serious. Our family knew each other and we were to engage. two last months I notice that he follows and unfollows constantly a girl. When I asked about her he said to me that was a friend from college. The last month that we were together he didn't follow her but became distant from me. We eventually broke up and now someone said to me that he was dating her.
Now that I figured out he was dating her before, after my back. now that are together, following each other again.
Why he just didn't break up with me first? I feel betrayed and stupid.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you are feeling hurt and betrayed by your ex's behavior. It's possible that he didn't break up with you earlier because he was struggling with his feelings and didn't want to hurt you. Alternatively, he may have been trying to keep his options open and see where things would go with this other woman before ending things with you.

Regardless of the reasons for his behavior, it's important to focus on your own healing and growth. It's natural to feel hurt and upset after a breakup, especially when you feel like you have been betrayed. However, it's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who is honest and committed to you.

Take some time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship, and focus on building a positive and healthy future for yourself. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor if you are struggling to cope with your emotions. Remember that you are not alone, and that with time and effort, you can heal and move forward in a positive direction.

[devilish-cutie]

because some people are just disrespectful and not loyal so cheaters, i know it hurts but dont feel bad blaming ysf, it says mostly about him, not you, you just learn from it and move on, dodged a bullet

[Anonymous]

Because he was getting sex from two different women, and some guys really get off on that.

[In_Trance]

you were a backup plan

[Asker]

How I can be a backup plan when we have two years relationship, I knew his family and we were planing to engage?

[In_Trance]

He wasn't planning to engage. He was dating her. He didn't end it with you in case it didn't work out with her.

You were the backup plan