As it relates to relationships, does time really heal all wounds?

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Personally, I don't think it does on its own. It certainly helps, but that is not the only thing that is needed to get over someone.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Sure time will make the pain less painful but I think the key ingredient is when something happens you have to accept it once you accept it and it has to be honest you have to be 100% honest once you accept it you acknowledge it but you have to be honest

And when it first happens cry let your eyes cry make sure you let your heart cry because that's where the most pain is but then accept it and understand from that moment on you are the only person that is inside of you so you are the only person that can make yourself happy or sad

It's a choice how long do you want to feel bad for yourself because that's basically what it is you're hurt you feel hurt and you make up all these scenarios inside of your head and hurt to keep it going and keep it going and keep it going forget that crap accept it and move on

There's some days you just have to take that pain and the deeper the pain is welcome it with open arms get it over with take it to the highest peak and get it over with be done with it and start all over

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Time does nothing but exist. If you focus on your ex for 20 years, nothing will heal. If you move on and focus on what will move you forward, you'll start feeling better about yourself and your situation much quicker.

Our last experience is what tends to pop into our head whenever we think about particular subjects. If you think about relationships and haven't had one since your ex, you'll automatically start thinking about your ex. If you think of pies, and the last pie you made turned out terrible, your mind will automatically go to that terrible pie. If you don't want to keep focusing on a negative experience, replace it with a similar positive experience. Otherwise, you'll end up projecting the past experience onto any new experience and setting up a self-fulfilling-prophesy.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Time can certainly heal.

However it also requires effort to reflect, learn, and move past (where time really comes into play).

If you don't reflect and learn, and instead stick your head in the sand and refuse to process, then time can fast forward and you still won't progress.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Time is irrelevant if you’re still not over that one person. You can be married to someone else but if you’re still hung up on that person even after 5 years, time doesn’t heal all wounds. You have to heal you!

Paris13 · Answer

Each Passing Day Gets a Bit Easier... xxoo

Lynx122 · Answer

I think it's mostly mindset. Having the right amount of expectations and understanding when it's time to move on. Just in general maturity and being realistic about it helps. And if you protect yourself and don't let other people hurt you or abuse you etc. Then you only have to deal with the actual break up and lingering emotions but those are not that hard to deal with if you accept it and go through with it and don't try to keep going back like some people do. It sucks yes but if you go down your new path without wavering it will be over soon and you can live your life normally again.

smashleyy · Answer

No I’ve learned that time by itself doesn’t heal shit rather that be relationships or just in general. Sure it will likely fade from the forefront of your mind but will go on to subconsciously impact your decisions and lead to resentment. You need to actively work through issues

Anonymous · Answer

Not time itself. Time can help the wound fade by the scar is still there and if the wound is deep enough the scar can always be tender.

But a lot has to do with closure. Was there ever a sincere apology? I try to forgive regardless. Because I don't want to care that burden around. But that doesn't mean I forget.

SnowedIn · Answer

It's part of the healing process, sure, so in a pedantic way, yes. However, I selected "no" because it's not only time that will move you on.

molonski2 · Answer

Time and thought are important , analysis also , its not just time , but time plays a part into " all of the above ".

Still-alive · Answer

i think its different for everyone but for me no contact works well. its still gonna suck for that first couple months though, but eventually you start to get over them.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I think time is part of the equation. Another part of the equation is the individual who is grieving needs to recall how they were happy prior to being involved in the relationship which ended.

BadApple69 · Answer

Wounds never really heal. They just change the way we think and act. In some cases we learn from the wounds. In other case the wounds damage us for life. It’s up to us how we deal with these wounds.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it doesn't. I haven't been with my ex-fiance in decades. Because of her profound betrayal of me, I have no desire to have any contact with her... and she hasn't reached out either. I'm sure she knows she fucked up. Time is just time. It's not medicine.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Its been different for different breakups, so now, time alone does not heal wounds. It requires change in oneself.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Fuck no... One of my exes fucked me for life. We split 2009 and it still haunts me to this day.

RealMarek · Answer

I think time usually helps. It helps more if one can process what went wrong in the relationship or at least come to a point of acceptance.

Grovermint · Answer

No, it's ultimately up to the person to find ways heal during that time. If you're still full of vitriol towards an ex, then you're not helping yourself.

MissBoogus · Answer

No, it doesn’t. Although it can help. The passing of time allows you to find more ways to cope with it, that’s about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Women leave a mark on a guy or man if he really digged her. I’ve heard and apparently “studies” done that women in general tend to move on faster or that men/guys tend to hurt longer after a break up or divorce.

Christoff92 · Answer

Attention and Novelty also play a big part on this to. Make peace with it with tons of practice and care 😀

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Yes, but the trouble with you young kids is you haven't lived long enough. Physical healing is quick but spiritual healing takes much longer.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It depends on the situation and how much is someone hurt from the other... Also if they still have any feelings left for the other...

Xawyx-2 · Answer

No, time can only help, but it can't heal every emotion.

Mansearching · Answer

It does. But will always remember what caused it.

SunnyRS · Answer

No it doesn't heal the wounds, it just makes it a little easy to handle them.  You need to work on it though nothing heals on it's own.

Guardian45 · Answer

I like to believe Time heals all wounds, but perhaps that's NOT true!

Rollingstones84 · Answer

Not time alone, you need to be able to put in the work to do self-reflection and grow personally

Abdulwahh · Answer

You learn to control your emotions in time yes but it will still hurt if you see that person with someone you close to.

Yellovv · Answer

Depends which kind of story you have, yes time can change a lot of things in our life..

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Some remain scars unfortunately

Viktor001 · Answer

I wish it did, mine have only been becoming worse.

Andres77 · Answer

Some take longer than others.

shades777 · Answer

depends, im sure time dont heal a chopped head

Alex8736 · Answer

It's what you call "life goes on "

CubaPirate · Answer

Probably not in all honesty

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Definitely not for me

Zoi86 · Answer

I say 50/50

jahaims · Answer

Nope

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Mostly heals

strateguy632 · Answer

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