Is it time for a divorce?

[Anonymous]

Me and my husband got into a fight last week about some issues that have been previously discussed (communication and compromising). Now he's being childish and we haven't talked in a week. We live together and have been ignoring each other, however, I feel like every time we do fight, I'M always the one who goes to him first to try to bring our relationship back in peace. This time I'm tired and I feel like im being taken for granted. Is it time for a divorce?

Yes, it's time for a divorce

Not yet. Keep fighting for the marriage

[strateguy632]

this situation is neither divorced nor childish he is taking the higher moral ground to avoid arguments. his behavior deserves respect.

the next step is being more careful that conversation doesn't become an argument. some suggestions in book "men from mars" seem helpful and relevant to your situation.

[Asker]

The problem with this is that every time that there is a fight, he will just flat out ignore me until I make the first move and talk to him. It honestly gets tiring always being that person. Like we have gone the longest a week and a half without talking and we live together so that makes it even more awkward. I'm just tired and it makes me feel like he doesn't even care to try and make any effort to keep our relationship intact. And when I have been the first one, he always play the victim even when he's clearly in the wrong...

[Anonymous]

You are a classic example of why the divorce rate is so high today, and women file 80% of divorces.

[provokeesmokee]

You are being taken for granted.

If you've not yet tried couples therapy, is suggest that over divorce first. Unless you're just done with him, then just leave.

But, especially if you have kids, consider therapy first.

[Asker]

I don't have any kids with him but I don't know if therapy would help because he didn't even listen to my mom who had a talk with both of us the last time we got into a fight this big. She pointed out to him that he shouldn't just leave the house without communicating with me even when we're fighting because that's just going to lead to trust issues and he still does stuff like that. I feel like this is something that will never change. And she's also explained to both of us that we both need to compromise more with each other with different things. I've been compromising with him, doing things that he likes, for him, yet when it comes to compromising for me, he has a whole attitude about it.. I feel like even if we went to a licensed therapist, things still wouldn't change...

[provokeesmokee]

Then it's time to leave him.

You don't deserve to be put through what he's putting you through.

His lack of emotional control and communication skill is not your fault, nor are you expected to tolerate it.