Was this a good reply towards my ex boyfriend?

[Vesuvius87]

I've blocked that sociopathic-narcissist in Oct 2021. He never paid my money back either. He fakes future with other women, promising marriage and kids but never follows any promises. He was after my grandma's house and once even tried urging me to investigate about my father's living will.

By Friday and Monday, he tried contacting me, demanding me to call him as if nothing ever happened. This was my reply towards him on Monday:

I've already reached the stage of blind rage and contempt towards him that I really had nothing else to say. I thought I was going to say nasty words but instead ended up blocking him after refusing to acknowledge him.

What do you think? Was that good or should've added more?

[DaveJord]

I would say you said you said too much. But yes, you did right.

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you. I just didn't recognize that number. That's why I asked who it was. If he tries under another different number, I'll just continue blocking him.

[DaveJord]

Thats 100% what I would have and would do going forward. I mean I have had random numbers pop up, but it's like you can tell it's someone you know... so, curiosity kicks in. Then when you find out, your like HELL NO!

At least you are not one of these types, that acts like they want nothing to do with this person, but then gets in a texting war with them. Like why? I do not know.

[NathanDavis]

that's great, and enough...

could probably have added

- Vete a la $#@!$, @!#$@ Juan -

but is not worth it though

[Vesuvius87]

That's what my mother would've said if he tried calling her number. I just didn't even have the energy to say nasty words. I didn't want to speak with him at all and never want to ever again.

[NathanDavis]

I hope you're safe... and make others aware of this, in case he wants to get stupid as well, in person

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you. We're very far from each (long-distance) other so it's impossible I'll run into him in person.
However, I've informed my other FB contacts to block him if he sends them a friend request. My grandma had to change her number because he kept calling at random times.
These narcs really have no common sense at all. If you hurt people badly and you're blocked then it's very obvious you're never welcome ever again.

[NathanDavis]

glad to hear you've taken measures in advance

[Alex-Snow]

Do not give him the right time of day... block his ass

[Vesuvius87]

yeah if he tries contacting me through another different number, I'll just keep blocking him.

[Jerre]

You did a good job. Time for you to move on.

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you. I'll just keep blocking him if he tries contacting throught another number. He has already tried sending a friend request to two of my friends and they got instructed by me to block him immediately. Those narcissists don't give up easily.

[Jerre]

@Vesuvius87 Thank you for the Like

[Jerre]

@Vesuvius87 I wish you the best of luck in the future.

[BadApple69]

I would strongly suggest you go to the police station and file a restraining order on hit. He doesn’t sound stable.

[virtue2332]

Sometimes in life people don't even deserve a reply. No explanation just act as if they don't exist.

[Vesuvius87]

That's how I'm treating him like, refusing to acknowledge his existence. The only reason I asked who it was it's because initially I didn't recognize the number and it could've been anyone else. But once he identified himself, I went straight to blocking him. If he tries again under another different number I'll continue blocking him.

[virtue2332]

You look like we are related are you from Texas

[Vesuvius87]

No. At this moment, I'm in Lima, Peru.

[virtue2332]

Oh that may be why you looked familiar are you peruvianl

[virtue2332]

The high cheekbones

[Vesuvius87]

Yes I'm Peruvian.

[virtue2332]

So was my high school sweet heart. Love the food

[Vesuvius87]

Cool

[bededazzle]

i don’t think it matters as long as you are no contact

[Vesuvius87]

I'm on permanent NC with him. He's the one that keeps breaking contact from time to time and trying to reach me under another number. I'll just continue blocking him.

[bededazzle]

ok good. well i think it would be better not to engage at all so maybe you could ignore strange messages? if it comes down to it, you may have to look into a restraining order but hopefully not. i think you should look for a specific npd forum for support

[BoopBoopBeep]

Short and sweet. Never message him again.

[Vesuvius87]

yeah these narcs (short for narcissists) clearly have no understanding how they hurt people nor even boundaries. They act like some school bullies that all of the sudden greet you years later, as if nothing ever happened. Their lack of common sense (if you wronged someone and you've been blocked by them and their family, well that means you're never welcome ever again), shame and empathy is shocking.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well sadly that's because a good percentage of the time it works. They act like shiteheads, they suffer no lasting consequences, it reinforces bad behavior.

[The-Stud]

You did the right thing

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you. I really thought I was going to say more if he ever contacted me again but ended up surprising myself with my own response. I had nothing else to say. It's like when you get past the level of agitation, disbelief, and anger that all of the sudden you just don't care.

[The-Stud]

I agree.. this was the perfect response.. nothing less nothing more..

[Fireguy17]

Good for you.
Kind of hard to argue that point.

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you. Those narcissists won't give up. I'll just keep blocking if he tries with another number.
Last year he blew up my grandma's phone until she changed her number. He just wouldn't stop calling her, trying to reach me. None of my friends nor family want him either. He's not welcome in our lives.

[Fireguy17]

That sucks, hopefully he will just fade away over time.

[FenixG45]

Good for you! Stick to your guns!

[ThrillSeeker01]

Cut him off. He's not worth a thought.

[Vesuvius87]

I've blocked him on every social media. He came under a different number and I blocked him again.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Good 👍 just keep blocking him. He'll get the message sooner or later.

[hbg84]

You did good.

[Jennz6]

Good for you

[Vesuvius87]

To be honest, I really thought I would've said more but really had nothing else to say. I just don't want to ever hear from nor see him ever again.