How to leave a toxic relationship?

[robot]

This is not me, this is one of my close friends and she is experiencing a really toxic relationship and even not avare of it. How can I help her?

[hannah]

Here’s a bit of a roadmap based on what I've seen and heard in various discussions:

Acknowledge the Situation: First off, admitting to yourself that the relationship is toxic and detrimental to your well-being is a huge step. It's often the hardest part because it involves confronting some harsh truths.

Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist who can offer support and perspective. It's crucial to have a support system in place because leaving a toxic relationship can be emotionally draining and challenging.

Plan Your Exit: Think about the logistics. This might include finding a new place to live, separating finances, or even legal actions, depending on your situation. If you're worried about safety (yours or your children's), reach out to local domestic abuse services for advice on how to leave safely.

Set Boundaries: Decide what level of contact, if any, you're comfortable with after the breakup. This could range from no contact to limited, strictly defined interactions. Stick to these boundaries firmly.

Be Prepared for Emotional Turbulence: Leaving a toxic relationship can be an emotional rollercoaster. You might feel relief, grief, anger, and even temptation to return. These feelings are normal, but remind yourself why you left.

Take Care of Yourself: Focus on self-care. Reconnect with parts of yourself that might have been neglected in the relationship.

Reflect and Learn: Once you have some emotional distance, try to understand the dynamics of the toxic relationship. This isn’t about blaming yourself but about learning from the experience to avoid similar situations in the future.

Rebuild: Gradually, start rebuilding your life and your sense of self.

Seek Professional Help if Needed: Don’t hesitate to seek professional help.

Making the decision to leave is incredibly brave...

[Tina19]

It's difficult to leave a toxic relationship compared to leaving a healthy relationship because in toxic relationship or brain gets in trauma bonding with the abuser leaving your abusive partner is like coming off drugs there is this weird craving just like when you want to eat healthy but the moment you see pizza you can't control yourself to have a slice and then you regret it this is exactly what it feels when you know they are unhealthy for you but you crave that biochemical rush in your body when you are with them and then you regret it and to end this cycle most important thing is to accept they never loved you as a person they only loved the advantages they were getting from you and they will keep you hooked by emotional manipulation you will have to go no contact block them on all social media you have to burn the bridge so that they are not able to contact you..

still you will feel the craving of having them back but that is a temptation you have to overcome you need to break this addiction of that toxic person by having strong self control

And if nothing works then ask yourself what did you loose after the end of this toxic relationship?
You just lost someone who was exploiting you you lost someone who was manipulating you since start
And they lost someone amazing like you so eventually it's their loss

[MissStrawberry912]

Sadly we can’t make decision for others even when we see they’re in a bad situation or hurting… 🥺 all you can do is be there, express your concerns, and guide them when they’re ready. I’d like to ask open questions “does he/she/they make you happy? Do you think this relationship is serving you? Do you think he/she/they is presenting what you’re looking for, needing, and asking? What makes healthy relationship vs unhealthy relationship?” Just to help them think about it on their own. Usually people have to learn it on their own. If it is DV, definitely give them resources in the community to consult with a professional or go with them when they’re ready. Hope this helps!

[Finchie40]

Why can’t she leave? What is stopping her from leaving? Are you sure she is in a toxic
Relationship? are you sure she isn’t the one that is toxic in the relationship? Is she asking
You for Help to save her? or are you just assuming she needs to get away from her partner? As a friend , the only thing you can do for her is give her advice , but you can’t tell her what to do , unless she is getting physically abused or she is being forced and threatened by him , but if not stay out of it , but if she is , then yes, step in and put a stop to it and call the cops and get her out of there , But if they are just arguing and talking shit on each other , then you are best to stay out of it , it’s not your relationship and not your problem, so ask yourself are you trying to make it your problem? If yes, then my man you need to back off and let her deal with her relationship , if she is that unhappy in that relationship, then that’s her decision and choice to leave , not yours. So for
Me to give you better advice , please explain how her relationship is toxic

[Fireguy17]

First they have to want to end it, then make the decision to leave and finally it's thank you and good bye as the door closes behind you.

She is a long way away from leaving, it sounds like she doesn't know that it is not a good relationship for her to be in.

[Paris13]

Advise her to Leave. It don't Change. xxoo

[mobiusforniner]

Been there. It requires them to want it. From my experience, you make an attempt to share your feelings. If your feelings are denied or ignored, you go no contact.

ill tell you right now, sometimes the most powerful action is intentional inaction.

[RavVid]

Well this seems to be your judgement, not hers, as she is not aware of it.

Inherently it is not for you to judge. You are granting your self licence to poison her relationship. I am wondering if your design is to replace and take over.

[mkkkkitan]

Slowly detach your self until you’re ready to fully cut him off… if it’s a toxic relationship it’s gonna take some time to fully have the courage to walk away, but it’ll happen, just don’t give up

[lightbulb27]

Help them to see what is going on is nit heathy. Some people want and need toxinin order to grow. Most dont want to change… so they stay in the same rut.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Step 1. Become aware
Step 2. Make a commitment to yourself that you deserve more (this is where most people fail)
Step 3. Leave.

[rachel776]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hTEwrLZZZsg

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[Anonymous]

packs her stuff, leaves, and gets a restraining order?

[boobliker]

get the stuff you want to keep out over the week and at the weekend get your self out too

[KrakenAttackin]

She put you in the simp/friend zone for a reason. Let her fend for herself.

[Unycorn]

Make a decision and stay that way.

[Unit1]

Badbye!

[LiamJHayden]

Open the door. Walk out. Keep going.

[Anonymous]

Prison or just plainly walk away.

[888theGreat]

Walk out the door

[katiesmuff]

Just fucking leave!

[mkkkkitan]

Easier said than done

[Anonymous]

Convince her to see professional help.

[DreamLife7]

Mind your business

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just cut them off.

[jimmy2]

Humm lets see, bye