Do you believe in ‘taking a break,’ from a relationship?

Question

It just seems ridiculous to me, you just end it up or go on with your partner, that's it!

lemonette · Accepted Answer

On one hand, taking a break can be like hitting the pause button on a song to catch your breath. Sometimes in a relationship, things get so heated or confusing that you need a bit of space to clear your head. It's like stepping back from a painting to see the whole picture.

But, and it's a big but, taking a break can also be like putting a Band-Aid on a broken leg. If the issues in the relationship are deep-rooted, and the break is just a way to avoid dealing with them, it's like kicking the can down the road. The problems won't magically disappear, and the break might just prolong the inevitable.

The success of a break often boils down to a few things:

Communication: Are both people clear on why the break is happening, and what they hope to achieve from it?

Boundaries: Have they set boundaries for this break? Like, are they seeing other people, or is it a time for solo reflection?

Goals: Is there a plan to eventually come back together and discuss things, or is it more of an indefinite 'let's see what happens'?

Self-Reflection: Are both parties genuinely using this time to work on themselves and ponder the relationship's issues?

In some cases, a break can lead to a stronger, more aware relationship. It's like pruning a plant – it seems harsh at first, but it can lead to new growth. In other cases, it can be the beginning of the end, a gentle letdown before the final curtain call. So, do I believe in taking a break? Yes, but with a healthy dose of caution, clear communication, and specific intentions...

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

That is exactly the way I think about this "Take A Break" idea. Either your together or your not and I've heard so many stories from my young female employees over the years about being pissed off because just as soon as they are on break the guy and girls as well are fishing in someone else's pond. Then they bitch about the other getting this sex while on break! DUH what do they think is going to happen?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Taking a break , pretty much means the relationship is over , it’s a selfish way for the person that wants a break , to weigh their options , and if things don’t go the way they expected it to go , they will try to come back to you acting like they always loved you. My advice is kick them to the curb where they belong , never wait for someone to love you the way you deserve to be loved and valued , if someone truly loved you and valued you, they wouldn’t need a break from you period. Realize you deserve better than that shit. I dated a girl that told me she wanted to take a break , I said that’s fine , do what’s best for you and I walked away with open arms to another girl that didn’t want a break from me. When she decided to come back to me , I told her too late , I met someone else that doesn’t need breaks from me. I’m sorry you did t meet the man of your dreams on your break, but I met a girl of my dreams , during the break.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

Nope that all sounds like excuses, in marriages there's no taking breaks, if you require a break for someone genuinely, they just aren't the right person, you should be with someone that you know you can be with for lifelong, if it requires a break, it's most likely that they aren't meant for each other.

Paris13 · Answer

i Thought I Had Done Some, Hun, When Breaking Off Indirectly with my LDR Last Year... xx

AutumnSerenity · Answer

7 years into my marriage (7-year-itch) my husband and I decided to take a break. We were bored and stressed but we still loved each other. We wanted to see if moving on without each other was for the best. The break lasted three months. We’re going on 20 years of marriage.

Explorer91 · Answer

I don't know.. for me if I say that to someone its me saying I kind of want to be with you still.. but I feel kind of suffocated by you. If we can have a break and I can breathe and you can back off a bit and get the hint to give me more space then maybe we can work out. If not then yea the break is going to turn into a break up.

HawkPerception · Answer

If you ever think about taking a break in a relationship, it's most likely not going to ever work out. In marriage it's for better or for worse, through thick and thin. Every obstacle you have, you get through together. A relationship is not marriage, but it should be a good indicator for whether or not you should continue with a relationship or not. If you want to take a break, it means you've given up on your partner.

Bricealan · Answer

My view, about 'taking a break" OR "finding myself' is just a bull shit justification or alibi for a person wanting to screw someone else for a time, and not having the balls to break of the relationship. Supposedly that would ease his/her conscience for fucking another person while 'on a break"

DextroShade · Answer

That's just something women say to a guy they're with when they found another guy they like better. They go on a "break" with their current guy and fuck the new guy while hoping he will give her a relationship. Usually the new guy is just a fling and would never take her seriously and when she realizes this or is ghosted she comes crawling back to the original guy having failed to trade up. Then she can say it wasn't cheating because they were "on break".

IslaTheWitch · Answer

In general, I don't see any objections as long as everything is transparent and clear. People are different and have different needs. I think spending a few days alone in the woods on the lake would be great.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Some people want a break to see if they still love you or not.  But if they need a break, the relationship is mostly over. They just don't have the gall to say it because they are scared to be alone.

worldscolide · Answer

Taking a break is usually code for " i want to fuck other people and not feel guilty" The reality of the matter is this.. If a woman tells me she wants a break my one and only response " Nah, We are done.." And i block her.

Al_Musafir · Answer

No, it's a lame excuse for people to cheat or consider other options. You're either in it or you're not.

LazerBean · Answer

Taking a break is just a frail attempt to save something that was a failure from the beginning.

exitseven · Answer

Taking a break just means that she wants to bang another guy just to see if it is any better than me.

JacobJordan · Answer

A break is short for break up. Relationship over. Every "break" is just a way for 1, the other, or both to sleep with someone else

aceleon · Answer

nope, it is just an excuse to cheat or getting ready for a break up.

Wise4myage · Answer

I agree, I think its pointless. And some people use it as an excuse to cheat, and then get back together. 🙄

elduderinosupreme · Answer

Nah. I've seen that cause all sorts of problems. If it's over it's over. Pretty simple.

rebeliouse · Answer

so true seems like you have your head screwed on right @nurse

Annonymousmissy · Answer

Can’t image taking a break from a relationship that’s going well.

RageBabe · Answer

No, we are either committed or not.

BadApple69 · Answer

There is no break…. Only breakup.

sheikalana · Answer

No, just break up.

cherriibly · Answer

I don't believe it, it's just an excuse

Jennz6 · Answer

I’m taking a long break

Christoff92 · Answer

Sure. Just to unwind.

OddBeMe · Answer

Tha fuck? You didn’t use Friends pic for this?

HouseMoat · Answer

"breaks", are death sentences to relationships

KrakenAttackin · Answer

No, this means the relationship is over.

eagle1951 · Answer

only if it's going no where

jahaims · Answer

Nah.

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