Do you think "taking a break" can save a relationship?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Always look at what your ultimate objective is and how your choices will affect that outcome. If I never plant seeds, will I be able to enjoy a harvest? It may be necessary to cool down, so we can think straight, but absence of contact will not add anything to a relationship. Often, when people return after a break, it's because they discovered the grass wasn't greener or they were disappointed in their ability to acquire what they wanted. Upon returning, they have a sense of settling, which lowers their self-esteem and the value they see in their partner.

Now, it is possible for two people to reconnect at a future date and discover they've both grown and are very different from the people they used to be. Since they are different, it would be like a new relationship with a new person.

Taking a break with the hope of your partner discovering he/she can't live without you will generally backfire. That's like saying you want a divorce when you actually want your partner to fight to hold onto you. Sometimes, all people need is permission to leave the relationship, and then they're gone.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

No, "taking a break" usually means "I want to break up but I don't want to feel guilty and I don' want the drama of a break up talk, so I'll just say that we need to take a break, and we won't see much of each other, and eventually, we won't see each other at all. And that way, it will be much easier for me than a normal break up."

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

Rarely.

i have found when a Break happens (like on Friends), one or both parties hook up with someone else, and that causes more issues IF/When they get back together.

"but we were on a Break, so it doesn't count"

For me, if a Break/Space is needed, it is time to move on.

I took a Break for 3 years, but Karma finally put her hand out to me and helped me up and gave me another chance with the man i loved.. still love. It is not the ideal situation i wanted in 2015, but i have him in my life again at least

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

If we take a break, i won't want them anymore. I dont want someone who gives up, even if its temporary. If you need a breather, leave the room but come back before bedtime or something. Once we call it quits (or a break), I’m moving on

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

No I think the opposite. I think taking a break is the beginning of the end of that relationship...

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

It honestly depends on the issue and reason why they called a break in the first place.

But from my experience, no. If someone wants to take a break, it just shows that they aren’t a compatible couple or can’t work out the issues in the relationship together. There doesn’t need to be a break to make things work/save the relationship.

nonratracereality · Answer

Reality time!!! You're dating you hit a snag if you don't see eye to with a 10% chance that you accept each other's lifestyles then taking a break can yield many things those that you didn't plan for or the awkwardness that ensues because it's a road less travelled. Then hey you or they find someone is it complicated. Living arrangements bill sharing friends for convenience etc. If you are not real to discuss then you're only fooling yourself. Your level, page, status etc. Those that know know and then those that think they know get along until they're found out. Standards. Keep it close or either looks and class or a real life person. Be real enough to lay it out. If you can't be upfront which most people aren't because there's too long a list of checks and balances to go through so you do the quick assessment and find out did you or they screw up. Or one day like it can happen to about 60% of the people you wake up and now you see everything crystal clear scary right welcome to reality.

nachosaresexy · Answer

I think a "break" can be good, but not necessarily as a way to save a relationship.

First off, a break suggests something is already cracked and so you're already in damage control mode. Sometimes what's partially broken ain't worth bothering to fix, but other times...

A break can give peeps space and a chance to gain a better perspective on what's going on in their own dang life, and how their partner fits into things.

Most stuff in life that's already cracked is tough to repair like new, but if errrbody always just threw things away at the first scratch/dent/crack that'd be pretty short sighted as well.

Lliam · Answer

Nope.

I think "taking a break" means wanting to try out other people. It's wondering if you can find anyone better. But it's way more honest than cheating.

One person may not think that they have enough life experience to settle down yet. That's understandable. And "taking a break" is just a way of breaking up while still holding your options open.
But it also may be a way of letting someone down gently.

If two people actually want their relationship to work, they talk about it. Communication is the key to any relationship.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

taking a break is girl code for I wanna break up but I'm too childish and immature to break it off, so let's pretend this is something else.

I'm not sure a guy ever suggested taking a break, and if he did, I have no idea what he could possibly have meant by it. Men simply don't think that way.

TheorionMage · Answer

Only to the extent you can determine the actual personal 'worth' of your SO's companionship... however,
you must be willing to risk that puts HIM in the open market for any who might be waiting in the wings to warm YOUR former side of the bed. Auditions may be held~

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

NOPE! I've never seen it work. I don't mean a break like going to separate rooms for the night... But everytime I've seen the stereotypical "Taking a Break" happen, it was just because one party wanted to eff other people. They might as well just be swingers.

ohshee · Answer

I think that really depends on the two that are taking a break and why they're taking it I mean most of the time if something's going on and somebody should just take a break I'm just going to end it right then and there I'm one of these people that if there's a problem I want to deal with it right then and there take care of it but there's other people I think that it might be able to fix things I think it just depends on why you're taking a break

molonski2 · Answer

Long term no it cannot , the same problems will always resurface , they have not gone anywhere , you may spark " Gee , he / she is not that bad compared to xyz " , none of this changes the issues , and when you come back together the sex may be better for a while , all the issues will arise back.
Worse still , you find out he was banging xyz3 during the break ( as per the regs ) , you feel pissed off , and you create even more problems. NO It doesn't work.

DaveJord · Answer

I have seen this question asked several times... and my answer is that if your in a relationship with someone... and that person is the right someone special then you two should be able to come together and work through any issues.

See when to people just know they are right for each other they make it as easy as possible for each other... so the second a lady or even I think I need a break... I end the relationship. If we meet again down the road then maybe... but probably not.

t-8900 · Answer

Why take a break? To give a license to sleep with other people and than say "but we were taking a break though"? If we're done we are done and that's that. If you need breaks you aren't for each other.

TrueCaliGirl07 · Answer

I think that can cause more problems most who do take "a break" don't take that time apart to really focus on fixing the issues in the relationship. I think you should work together and deal with the issues while staying together. People give up on relationships to easy because they don't want to put in the effort.

Heartache0405 · Answer

No. Taking a break allows you to find someone else and majority of the time one of the two do. And then there’s this big issue of thinking they’d get back together but now that one of the two found someone else now they gotta break up for real. Breaks always lead to break ups in my opinion. I know others have different experiences but those are few and far between compared to the majority

Crmolon · Answer

I am so sorry you are going through this! 🙈 I have been there! When a guy or girl says they want to take a break, it really means they want to break up.
More often than not the person saying it is too immature or selfish to note respect, needs etc. Stay strong ❤️

OddBeMe · Answer

umm... possibly. I could see a mental break to get perspective. Sometimes when my wife and I have a row we go in separate rooms, sometimes all day. Then have great makeup sex.

But like taking a break before college... the chances of you going back is slim. So I'd say be careful if you like the relationship.

mickeystoned · Answer

It's all depends on the situation for the break because it was something simple maybe they want to see other people or do other things then obviously they are not sure that and depending on the length of the relationship they ought to reconsider their situation and maybe go to counseling or something more suited for dealing with those kind of situations instead of just taking a break but yeah that's possible to save the relationship

Anonymous · Answer

It’s almost always means “I want to break up” and usually ends in a breakup….. the thing is I seen a friend use it often with the same person because they get tired of each other but then get back together after their break of several weeks. It’s really unhealthy but I think it takes a certain mindset to work. A couple with that mindset can think of it as taking a vacation away from each other and not worrying about the other person for a while. The other way of going about it is they are unsure if the relationship is going to work so let’s test that out with a “Break” and most find themselves feeling better.

Anonymous · Answer

A girl said "let's take a break" to me before via text. 10 years later we're still on "a break". So, no, it doesn't fix anything. It's a woman's way of permanently breaking it off the easy way because they're too weak to break up with you to your face.

MannyFrs · Answer

maybe but i highly doubt its usally brought on by someone really wanting to break up but doesn't have the guts to be honest with that person that they are getting the deep dickens now from your neighbor etc

space and time away is a good thing but i believe it more than likely won't change things unless there's a genuine want to continue the relationship

BCA6010 · Answer

No. It's over at that point. One or both parties may be in denial, but if they think getting away from each other is going to make things better, then the relationship is no good anyway.

otaku_owl_91 · Answer

Heck no, and women are usually the main ones that say it because most don't like being direct. It's simply translation for I don't love and / or respect you anymore. Also, there's more than likely another guy's d*ck she wants to suck. Guys: tell her "f*ck you", move on, and work on yourselves. Women are fickle.

TheAfrikan · Answer

The moment you take brake he will move on in a single blink of an eye, unless when you two are residing somewhere far away in the deserts. Where he won't see no other female in a long ass run.

So talk it out between you two if it fails take your separate roads. @Desconhecida

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Not for me, but others I know it has. Taking a break for me, seems to show how much happier I am without him.

FreyaRed · Answer

Nope. Even if no one cheats while time of the break, few days long yearning for each other confirm just mutual addiction. It doesn't mend emotional wounds or solves fundamental problems in a relationship.

NHI2017 · Answer

No. If a girl tells me we need to take a break,

dont be mad or supprised. When i start sleeping around Or looking for a replacement.

your gunna be in this with me 100%. Or not at all. I dont play those games

Lionman95 · Answer

No I don´t see how it helps the situation either you can solve the problem or can´t. I´d rather prefer other people like friends or counselors to step in for help but I don´t see how taking off should help.

jaybee281 · Answer

I think it does quite the opposite - It does what happened to Ross and Rachel - you'll have me screaming "WE WERE ON A BREAK" all along as I somehow try to explain to her how I love her but I still easily slept with someone else

BCRanger10 · Answer

I don't think so. If I hear someone say they're taking a break, my normal assumption is that the relationship is over.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Sometimes, or it can lead to cheating and infidelity during the break and that is not helping.

male_guy_the_dude · Answer

This on again off again thing shows that y'all's dunno how to talk things through... Don't get me wrong, there is a difference between a bit of space to cool down and taking a break, I think the former is good... It gives one clarity, time to cool down etc etc but once this (really short) period passes, things must be dealt with. The latter is ass for we struggling to communicate effectively.

Also don't take my opinion seriously 😜

demonics · Answer

11 times out of 9 "taking a break" = "wants to bang other people with it being considered cheating." Men, if those words ever leave her lips, break up with her on the spot!

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

A break destroys a relationship. Because you're just breaking up. If you need time away from someone then clearly you need to stay single

MrOracle · Answer

I don't believe in "breaks" - you either work through problems together or you break up, but breaks never end well.

hawkeye92 · Answer

Taking a break leads to experiencing other women and options in general, which is NOT recommended if you want to make things work with your current partner.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't think so. I've never been in such situation but taking a break is giving you both the opportunity to meet other people and that's actually the opposite of saving a relationship.

horatiohornblower · Answer

No, it's more like saying it is over without admitting it right away. Sort of like slowly removing a bandaid rather than just quickly ripping it off.

Nigjt · Answer

No because if there not willing to talk about what ever then then u might as well give it up for good because taking a break only leads to sex with other's. God Bless

exitseven · Answer

Usually when one person says they want a break it means they already have found somebody else.

MelonSoda · Answer

I feel like all this is is a way to postpone a breakup and give whoever proposed it time to fuck around, honestly.

Flower7 · Answer

No, absolutely not. All it leads to is dating other people and/or having sex with other people.

Subarugirl · Answer

There is no such thing as “taking a break” you are either in a relationship or not

prakhindev92 · Answer

It will destroy relationship , just talk out the things , which hurts each other , and respect each others emotions , you will be fine , taking a break is not a good option , well incase you don't know, taking a break means 1 of you wants a breakup

Guido · Answer

No, that is a first step in moving on. Some use it instead of outright breaking up while they look for a new partner. Its dangling one on the hook if they don't find somebody else, they keep the option open.

Finchie40 · Answer

Usually taking a break means it’s over , if you both can’t fix it together how can you fix it apart

douride2 · Answer

In my experience taking a break usually ended things.

AncientWisdom · Answer

Nope what a break usually does is provide the distance to make a break up easier.

MarkRet · Answer

Isn't the guy in that picture showing too much cleavage?

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think it may or may not. Depends if you can work out your issues when you get back from the break.

LZPanzer · Answer

No you should feel energized by your partner. The only break you should need is a weekend worth.

Luopio27 · Answer

Dont count on it. But font forget, sometimes former partners become partners again. I have a friend who was on a 4 year break and then got back together.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.  I never took breaks. If a girl wanted a break... that was a break up and I'd just move on.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Nah. I think once it gets to this point it’s over. The two people are just not compatible with each other

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If it's a 1-day break, yes. Anything longer than that, no.

Massageman · Answer

Not most of them. If the relationship is to that point professional counseling, etc. hasn't already helped them out, hopes seem rather dim.

genericname85 · Answer

i think taking a break is a direct admission that this isn't gonna work out while not having the balls to end it.

admles · Answer

I don't know, to be honest, because I don't do breaks. Either we are together or we aren't.

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope. It's proof you cannot commit to a relationship.

sourabh26 · Answer

Not at all, what does it mean taking a break? No break is required it's life and if life breaks then you are dead. Similarly no breaks are required in this case as well. What you can do is take a next birth I mean move on.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

It deponds on how the break but most of time is never go the right way and lead to break up.

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