Does taking a break in a relationship really work?

[maldroid]

If you’ve ever taken a break in your relationship, what was the outcome? I’m currently struggling in my relationship and unsure if I suggest a break to give us time to think or considering we should just break up. Any advice would be appreciated.

[PeachyPie93]

Taking a break doesn't usually fix things it can help you see the person in a better light since you miss them, but when you go back it will just be the same mess.
It is better to try counselling or something to fix the issues but if the other person won't go, or won't change it is better to just end it.

Don't go on break if your real plan is to try and find someone before you "really" breakup. Most people go on break to try and find someone else and if they can't, they are secure because they can go back lol.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Breaks only teach people how to live without each other. Once someone tastes how much better the other options are, the original relationship rarely works out.

Either roll up your sleeves and both of you decide what behaviours to change or you break up. If you're in a relationship both people have to be willing to take feedback, make changes, and also to support each other during the "hard times."

[Finchie40]

Not really , it just adds more resentments to the relationship if you do choose to get back together eventually. People that love each other and care about each other , don’t need breaks from each other , they choose each other and fix what’s broken together , the partner that is requesting the break? just wants to weigh their options and fuck around so you are best just the end the relationship and move on if you don’t want to fix things with your partner together

[MikeyObrien]

Taking a break means she will go see other men to see what her other options are. If she does this she doesn't value you and you should leave now. You're looking at this through rose colored glasses man.

[Peridot25]

Wouldn’t he do the same thing with women? 🤔

[MikeyObrien]

Probably. So if a man says he wants to take a break you should do the same.

[hannah]

Taking a break in a relationship can sometimes work, but it really depends on why you're doing it and how you handle it. When both people agree on why they need space and what they hope to figure out during the time apart, a break can give them the breathing room to think things through. Communication is key here—setting some ground rules about how long the break will last and what’s okay or not okay during that time can prevent misunderstandings. If both people use the break to reflect and work on themselves, it can lead to a stronger connection. But if the break is just a way to avoid dealing with bigger issues, it might only delay the inevitable.

[Explorer91]

Depends. I have wanted a break several times from one person I was in a 2 year relationship with. They had borderline personality and schizophrenia and honesltly I felt they werent aware the amount they were putting onto me their personal issues. I felt I was always in a lose lose. If i was nice about my boundaries they wouldn't take it seriously.. and if i was mean about it.. they would call me a narcissist or any word to make me feel guilty about my boundary. So it kept making me need to get away. But what stopped me from actually breaking up... was this person was fulfilling a lot of my needs. Finanically and also a lot of other categories. If i didn't need them I would have ended it. To me when you need a break from someone it means you want to break up but something is stopping you.. what stopped me was the need I had for them finanically. I eventually chatted to a counsellor who was able to get me to become more independant so i stopped wanting a break from this person and was actually able to break up.

[serious]

Well taking a break in the relationship will inevitably lead to break up. Hence 99% taking a break in the relationship will not work.

As for me I have always been single and hence not applicable.

[RavVid]

I think if you need a break, it s really breakup time. Maybe both should look at what is not working and think about if it can be fixed

[Anonymous]

It usually means one or both wants to fuck around for awhile.

[DrPepper12]

Take it if you feel youneed time and space. My eventual wife and i did and we both fucked around while broken up. Do what feels right. Trust your gut.

[Twalli]

If you beak up abdcthrn to decide to get back together, that can backfire. If you just cool it down and take a break, but stay together, that's overall better fir continuing your relationship

[Peridot25]

Just break up so that both of you can find someone else.

[Nikki1989]

Wanting a break means it is the start of the end.

[RedInnocent69]

Not really. It’s difficult to come back if you’re with other people. Probably worse if only one of you is.

[Anonymous]

no. it's just an excuse to whore around without consequences

[Straight2thepoint]

The person that's asking for the brake has their heart elsewhere.

[LiamJHayden]

For me, no. I just assume she wants to test drive other guys and I end it.

[In_Trance]

Taking a break means going to fuck other people guilt free while your current partner waits around

[Account]

It works if you want to break up for good.

[DishLady]

Nope.

[msc545]

It works if you want to break up.

[the29thhuman]

Ask Ross and Rachel

[jahaims]

Nope

[Anonymous]

yesssssss

[noohair]

Never worked for me.