Is it common for married couples to threaten Divorce in an argument?

[Finchie40]

Every time my ex wife and I had an argument , she would say she wants a Divorce , I would say fine , where do I sign , is it normal for married couples to threaten Divorce to each other?

[hello2024]

It's not uncommon for couples to bring up the idea of divorce in heated arguments, but it's also not a healthy or constructive way to handle conflicts. Using divorce as a threat can add unnecessary stress and strain to a relationship. I would talk about it with her. Communication is SOOO crucial to a relationship, many people undermine it. Put a boundary (no saying divorce in your household) protect your marriage by cancelling that word from your mouths and fight for your marriage for goodness sake, even when you hate each other, you still love each other. Do whatever it takes, but you also can make someone stay. But you can choose what you do, and you can choose to communicate about what you feel and how you don’t appreciate that word in an argument. And also if it’s at this level, a good way to fix this is to:

-plan dates, not just sex. Have quality time with each other Where you get to know each other and where you guys are at

-Go to couples counseling

-have married friends you can meet with once a week and talk about life (not issues in your marriage) but simply about your lives and what’s going on. It’s important to socialize in a Healthy way in your marriage.

-Make your spouse a priority not an option otherwise, it’ll never work out

-remember your vows, daily. And make news ones to her and to yourself about her. Write them on a paper and put them about your bed.

-personally. I also recommend going to a non denominational Christian Church. God loves you and this isn’t a “you have to go to Church or you’ll burn in hell” cause that is not what I believe. This is a Jesus loves you so much and your wife and wants to protect you and he died for you so that you can be with him forever. He is good and will always be despite our circumstances. Our circumstances change. God doesn’t and that is a God you can trust. Cause His character will never fail. Also God loves marriage, He made it to be so beautiful and if you begin to read the Bible you will see in the New Testament about marriage and their roles and so beautiful in love. Also I pray that as you read this, God will place it upon your heart to seek Him. God bless you and your marriage. Never forget that God loves you despite everything! Go to Him, I promise He will help you!

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Not if you like each other, no that’s not normal. That kind of threat is toxic and manipulative to just be thrown into an argument and every argument at that. I could see if it were a discussion about irreconcilable differences that you kept having.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's normal if one or both want a divorce.

We both know which gender is more likely to walk away with all the cash and prizes. So... with that said... if she's bringing it up first, she's probably going to take a stab at taking resources and then go seek out some penis (if she hasn't already).

If it's the guy threatening, she's probably cheated, is a super bitch and can no longer be tolerated, or she has some serious problem (drugs, weight gain, money management issues, or is just useless [even for sex]).

Picture time...

It's funny because it's true.

[ArrowheadSW]

I don't know how common it is, but it isn't a good way to deal with conflict in a marriage. Then not only do the partners in the marriage have to deal with whatever the conflict is, they also have to deal with the threat of divorce.

[sage2021]

If they're in a heated argument it's probably more common than we think.
The other person probably doesn't actually want a divorce, they just want the argument to stop.

If they were serious about a divorce they would get one. Saying that is their ammunition to try to hurt you.

I really wish you two would love on each other more ❤️

[LeeTina]

In fact, it's often because you don't give her enough sense of security, so she can only use this method to protect herself in an attempt to make you cherish her.

[NathanDavis]

I would say that would be more common among stupid and toxic, immature people...

but not among the "normal" couples...

[Flatmanlewis]

Not in my experience. That’s like the atomic bomb dropping. Things are already in a bad way if that’s being thrown around.

[Unit1]

If it comes so far, then it can be considered that they are ripe for a divorce. Lawyers are gonna be happy. They have room in their garage for a Ferrari if they weren't too obese to fit into one.

[rosemilk]

the only people i've known to threaten divorce is people with borderline personality disorder

[Finchie40]

She has PTSD , anxiety and Depression

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Common I’m sure it is however it is probably more common for married couples to actually get a divorce nowadays. I’ll pass on marriage.

[electromagnetic]

Anyone who does this is straight faqqed in the head.

[slatyb]

No, that's abusive. I think you should go ahead and get a divorce.

[LazerBean]

No, but it's usually kinda obvious which couples are going to have that problem tbh

[RedInnocent68]

That sounds, excessive. Wouldn’t giving each other the silent treatment until one or both of you is horny be more constructive?

[DextroShade]

My wife has never threatened that in any argument we have had. Obviously divorce was already on her mind and she was just looking for excuse.

[LiamJHayden]

Sounds like one or both lacked a true commitment.

[Finchie40]

Yes, we both made mistakes , and tried to save our marriage but it just turns into pointing fingers at each other , she suffers from PTSD anxiety and depression, one of the hardest relationships I ever been in , underneath her mental illness she is a beautiful caring person but when she has a mental break down she turns into this evil demon that attacks me and belittles me and criticizes me , I learned to just walk away and try not to let her words bother me , but sadly they slowly are tearing me up inside. She will come back to me and pretty much act like we didn’t even have a fight , so the whole thing is crazy to me , I know walking away for
Good , is what I should do but I still love her and I know I am only hurting
Myself by staying in a relationship like this

[Kelly6]

No it’s not common.

its a red flag to show that this marriage is about to doom

[IslaTheWitch]

not my experience...

[Nikki1989]

That seems to be very common.

[HaveNoName]

Sign of a troubled and unhealthy marriage.

[Ladyblanche]

No unless they want to leave the marriage