Boyfriend reacted like a child after I brokeup with him?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my boyfriend because I found out he’s been on tinder, went to go get my stuff today and he had all my stuff thrown on the front yard. I understand why he was on tinder, obviously had one foot out the door/didn't want to be in a relationship whatever the BSA reason was. But what I can’t wrap my head around is how you can act so childish and vindictive when I am the one that broke up with you for something YOU did wrong. Instead of being an adult about it and just parting ways.

does he not understand the saying “don’t burn bridges”

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I don’t understand, if you were on tinder in the first place and didn’t want to be in the relationship. Why not just end things in general? But instead act like a child when you get caught and treat the other person like crap.
I don’t understand it, and it hurts.

[Saiesh30]

When was the last time you saw someone admitting to their mistakes?
Well, that's the world we're living in right now. Let them do whatever they want, right or wrong but the moment you point out to them their wrongs be prepared to witness the hypocrisy and dumbest of reactions.
It's beyond my comprehension how people have transformed.
Words like originality, respect, loyalty are just meaningless to such people.
Sorry you had to deal with that nuisance but it's really better to cut such a person who wants to travel in two different boats at the same time.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear about your experience. It sounds like your ex-boyfriend may be struggling to cope with the breakup and is reacting emotionally. While his behavior is immature and hurtful, it's important to focus on taking care of yourself and moving forward positively. It's understandable that you feel frustrated and confused by his actions, but ultimately, how he chooses to handle the situation reflects on him, not on you. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and give yourself time to heal from the breakup.

[Nikki1989]

Most men are like big babies, so this is hardly surprising.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've seen so many men and women act like this.

I got caught doing this shit once and I was just honest. I was just doing it for research purposes. Oh... the cocaine... I don't do that stuff, I just like the way it smells. Oh the hookers... they're just part of my studies baby... dayum girl, you know I love you.

Just be honest... and she will still be sucking your dick. Throwing your shit in the yard and all of that... sounds like some female shit to be real.

[KrakenAttackin]

@D_Bone_Steak. My man!

[Flatmanlewis]

I’ve seen men do this kind of childish behavior.
I’ve seen women so this kind of childish behavior.
It’s just the trait of immature and selfish people. Nothing you can do expect try and identify the same potential in future mates and avoid them. Sorry you had to put up with that. Sounds like he’s a man-child.

[ProbablyClueless]

Why are you expecting logic in a situation like this? 😂

He's clearly not an emotionally healthy person, if he has a secret tinder account. The guy knows he's in the wrong and his ego is wrapped up in the situation, so he would rather be a jerk than than admit that he messed up

[JacobJordan]

What bridge? I get your point but dear there is no bridge to burn. A bridge implies that there could be reconciliation in the future and if you are being honest with yourself and everyone here you would not get back with him. Of course dude is an absolute clown and yes he acted like a child. I would say least he saved you from finding out after marriage he was a pos.

[slatyb]

Be happy you got your stuff back, and that you are rid of the man-child.

[JoePro_]

I agree, childish reaction, particularly since he was the one in the wrong. Look on the bright side. Red flag seen, and bullet dodged. Consider yourself blessed.

[nawtee_me]

Were you wrong for snooping, yes. However, if he was on Tender then it is better you find out sooner than later…. Oh and I bet you rock any color even orange…. lol

[Twalli]

You left him and he made sure you're stuff wasn't in his house anymore. Did you expect him to be thrilled with you leaving?

[JayBones]

Whybeven spend your energy on why. Pick your stuff up and move on. He was a turd.

[Jmmmfi4]

I DEFINITELY WOULD DO THE SAME THING

[Anonymous]

So you were swiping through tinder and saw him?

[spartan55]

I think there is some info missing...

[Asker]

Such as?
He was on tinder and I found out about it?

[Asker]

I mean I went through his phone if that an the info you are assuming I’m not being honest about the stupid ass left it wide open, not only that it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out if something is off in a relationship. (I am sure you have heard of women’s intuition?) which is what I did, and it did not fail me. Am I in the wrong for snooping? Yes, but I am not in the wrong for being cheated on a betrayed.

[spartan55]

Women's intuition is hardly infallible

[Asker]

Infallible? Yet I saw the tinder swipes and messages.
Go argue with someone else on the internet please, and learn empathy since you want to throw big words around.

[Asker]

I misunderstood what you said, I apologize. I am not in the right state of mind.

[Billlewis]

I'm sorry you had to put up with that.

[Asker]

I appreciate your empathy, I just don’t understand people or guys in general.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I understand. I just started following you, and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[sirderpsalot123]

He isn't your problem anymore, just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Throw his shit in the yard

[Asker]

Tried to, didn’t want to go to jail today.

[Asker]

The orange is not a good look for me

[OtterMan68]

good thing he's your Ex. Keep it that way

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆