My Boyfriend treats me like I’m a child?

[BasSaarebas]

I’ve been dating this guy for a while now, and we’ve always had a few problems, but since we moved in together, I can’t stand it. I cook, I clean, I take care of the puppy that he got. It wouldn’t bother me so much, since I currently am out of work, but lately it’s been feeling like he encouraged me to quit my job so he had something to hold over me. He gets angry at me for stupid little things, like vacuuming while he’s trying to watch Television, bringing up that he pays the bills so I don’t have a voice. It’s like when parents say “my house, my rules.” He sets curfews for me. I play Pathfinder with my friends on Friday nights. It’s the only thing I do with my friends all week and he demands I be home by one every night. I’m okay with being home at one but when he set the curfew he said “You will be home at one on fridays or we'll have a problem.” I’m a very independent person, but I’m also very open to listening, and I can compromise. But it’s like I don’t get a chance because he’s so set on “this is what you’re going to do”. He gets upset if I don’t feel like cooking one night out of the week because “you just wanna go spend money,” um no I just get tired of cooking the same five meals every week because he won’t eat anything besides meat and pasta. The little things I used to do just to be sweet are now expected of me like if I don’t mix his pre workout for him while he sleeps in, I’m the one who fucked up.
He invalidates my opinions and feelings. He’ll ask me in a nice way how I feel about something, I tell him honestly how I feel and suddenly he gets angry and claims I’m just “making things up. Creating a problem where there isn’t one.” Okay so why did he even bother asking me if he didn’t want my honest answer?
i don’t mind compromising for my guy, but I feel like I just end up doing what he wants.
Im working on finding a new job as quickly as I can so I can leave after our lease is up if I need to, but I’m wondering if I’m just overreacting.

[ShadowSec]

... Honestly not thinking this is even relevant to a child. Even mother and fathers let them enjoy their lives somewhat. I think your boyfriend has some growing up to do. He isn't treating you like a child... he's being a sexist asshole. Look at what he's doing to you... ever hear of the joke guys used to say in High school "girl go make me a sandwich". Yeah you have no freedoms at all and the fact you want to better yourself and not live like that makes me look up to you. He is treating you like a slave and your are bending to his ways. If I were you I would stop him like a fly and worry about you and not guys for a while. The right guy will find you at the right moment in time. Don't do all the work to find him. It seems this guy also doesn't love you. If he truly loved you then he would be valuing your freedoms and being more of loving and caring.

None of this probably made since. I'm new to this so. If it did yay.

[elizabeta]

Feminist 😑😑😑😑

[Nik1hil]

Leave him,
he is basically trying to OWN you, like has ownership over you.
he made you quit the job,
begin by getting the job back and if he controls , leave him...

he needs to learn how to love you, not how to own you,
and you are wasting time taking care of his dog.. WHAT A WASTE OF TIME,
It is his dog , if he wants to waste his time over the dog he should take care of if, you should not be wasting time over it..

And as the good help try finding your old friends both Guys and girl and get help from you old guy friends who are married and the husbands of your old girl best friends in case this boyfriend of yours comes after you , and becomes a trouble after you leave him

or you can press charges against him after you leave him,
that he was slowly trying to own you..

[Dog19]

He treats you like his child. I don't blame you

[spartan55]

You're not from the sound of it. Wouldn't you like a 'do over' on moving in together? I really doubt he just all of a sudden became this controlling, condescending asshole when you moved in together though. But now everything is magnified... and it sucks.

[Streamhopper]

Mirror image of me; I'll keep myself safely anon just in case. But I know what you're going through. We aren't to the "rules" stage or anything, but I could totally see it coming. The sad thing is, I'll probably let it. I'll end up getting hurt, wait awhile, and do the same stupid stuff all over again. :P

[HereComesDrTran]

You chose another scumbag Poss because you were left to your own female choices again.

It will happen again. And again. And again. Because women despise good men and love trash.

This cycle will continue until all of humanity is back in the mud.

Thanks, women. For tearing down all that good men ever built up.

[MadeInAmerica]

Your not overreacting he is getting more and more controlling now that you are out of work.

[daler101]

Consider getting 2 jobs ! Sounds like it's time to go.

[jata1234]

Sounds like emotional abuse tbh

[reptocarl]

No you’re not overreacting

[weaponsdude]

I see you not living there in a month or so.

[chasedaking91]

Your man is insecure.