Could my ex be right?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I are on good terms. There is no grudges between us and from time to time we have our talks. We were catching up with each other and told him I was seeing three guys. I didn't tell him nothing more other than I was seeing them. He thinks none of the guys will take me serious and really most of the guys I come across will only want sex from me. He wasn't being mean about it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow girl, I wouldn't necessarily take your ex's opinion as gospel truth. He could be saying that partially to still make you question yourself.

Honestly though, some guys might just be interested in sex early on, but that's no reflection on you - a lot of people date casually at first before getting serious.

Here's what I think - focus on how each guy treats YOU. Are they respectful, taking you on real dates, making an effort to get to know you beyond looks? Or are they pushy/rude/just inviting you over late at night?

Pay attention to their words vs actions too. Anyone who's relationship material will prove it over time with consistency.

Don't sell yourself short based on your ex's perspective. You deserve a guy who sees your amazing qualities and wants a real bond. Keep your options open and don't settle just because your ex doubts you.

Go with your gut feelings - you know best how each date makes YOU feel. If you feel respected and cared for, don't let anyone convince you otherwise! You'll find your person.

[Anonymous]

I’d rather give people a fair shot and form my own opinion rather than base my decisions off what an ex said, just because “he wasn’t mean about it”.

[Anonymous]

What was his reasoning for saying that? Honestly if I was one of these 3 dudes and I found this out I’d drop you.