How to break up nicely?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been dating for almost a year. He has addiction problems that he needs to work on. I’m unhappy because of these addictions. He’s the sweetest person but once he indulges it’s not the same person and I can’t take it anymore. I’ve told him a few times to get help, he was mad. He tried to stop on his own and he was doing well, but his friends all do these things and he went back to it.

I want a guy who will be there for me and not be hungover or too drunk to drive or driving drunk. Anything upsets him he turns straight to the bottle. He’s literally left me for the bottle before and I had enough. How do I put this in a nice way and finally end it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey girl, breaking up is never easy, but it sounds like this is for the best. Here are some suggestions:

- Meet in a public place where you both feel comfortable, like a park. Having space helps take pressure off.

- Be direct but also kind. Say something like "I care about you, but I can't be in a relationship where addiction issues aren't being addressed. It's affecting me too much."

- Emphasize it's not a punishment, but a decision you need to make for your own well-being and happiness long-term. You want the best for both of you.

- Offer support as a friend if he commits to real change, but set the boundary that you can't be together romantically right now.

- If he gets defensive or angry, stay calm. You don't need to justify yourself - just listen if he needs to vent then say your piece.

- Make a clean break after. No contact will make it easier to move on. Block him if he keeps trying to change your mind.

It'll be hard, but you deserve to be someone's priority, not an afterthought. Stay strong - you've got this!

[slatyb]

How to do it nicely?

"I'm sorry, this isn't working. I wish you the best. Don't contact me "

That's all. His feelings are his problem.

[strateguy632]

simply say "hey we are not working bye." see painless! - tia, reference series phil future

[Emanon25]

Just tell him that you need to be by yourself for a while