How to politely break up?

[RandomAnonPerson132]

I’ve been together with my boyfriend for 8 months, I’ve known him since 2015 though.
He’s a wonderful person, but I’m realizing I don’t feel the same about him as I used to..
I love him as a person, but I don’t feel *in* love with him…I’m still deciding on what to do, but if I decide to breakup I want to do it in the nicest way possible, any advice or tips? <3

[jahaims]

Do you want to break up or are you only doing it because you aren't in love? Did you let the love die? It takes a lot of effort to stay mutually in love. It doesn't just happen. He is your boyfriend you should know him better than anyone here. So you should know the best way to breakup

[TommyMountainFigure]

Before I help you, are you 100% sure you aren't in love with him? There are some mistakes you can never recover from. Some in fact that could last you your whole life.

[RandomAnonPerson132]

I’m mostly sure, I’m gonna give myself some time to really think things through before I fully decide on anything, but I’ve been feeling this way for the past month or so
He’s done some things that have really hurt me and ever since then I’ve been feeling incredibly distant

[TommyMountainFigure]

Did you confront him about them?

[TommyMountainFigure]

I hope you don't mind.. I just went through your previous questions and replies to other people who answered them.. So I have a lot more background with which to work with now. I can't advise you to stay OR leave in truth. Whilst there are WAY better relationships you could be in, you do seem to find abusive ones, and that is what worries me. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, but your radar regarding bad partner choices is what is way off.

[RandomAnonPerson132]

I did, we’ve had several talks about it. It’s difficult because he won’t admit to things at the beginning, so it spreads out over months. It always starts off with him lying and making me feel crazy, promising whatever excuse he tells me is the truth, then like 3 months later he admits that I was actually right 🙃

[RandomAnonPerson132]

Yeaa I know what you mean, I definitely have to figure my shit out seeing that’s it a pattern.
I don’t think my current boyfriend is a bad guy though, aside from the things I posted that he’s done he honestly does treat me really great, I just want us both to be able to be happy

[TommyMountainFigure]

IF you wish to leave him. And I'm still not sure it's the right thing to do, then just say "it's the lying, not knowing where I stand.. I mean how am I supposed to ever have trust if I'm always being lied to?

[TommyMountainFigure]

I will just add one more thing.. Once a liar, ALWAYS a liar. so if you DO stay with him, it is just something you're going to have to live with.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I really hope you can both work through it..