How do I break up?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl in my class, we started off as friends. Got close, and started dating this January. She comes off as a mean and rude girl but actually a very sensitive girl from inside. But we often get into fights because of some things I say. She says some mean things to me in exchange but we make up soon after. She has had a lot of relationships before this but this is my first one. I don't know what to do anymore. I tried helping her, and she says I'm the reason she's alive. But today she tried drowning herself because of a fight we had. Can someone suggest what I can do so I can break it off with her gently?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, breaking up is never easy, but this situation sounds super toxic and could even be dangerous. Here's what I would do:

Focus on her mental health and safety first. Tell a trusted teacher, counselor or friend what's going on right away. They can help make sure she's not left alone and gets the support she needs.

Then it's best to have a serious talk face-to-face if possible. Be calm, kind but clear that the relationship isn't working and you need to end it. Say you care about her well-being, but the fights are hurting you both.

Having it at school ensures she can't threaten self-harm to manipulate you into staying. Be prepared she may get upset - stay strong but don't add fuel to the fire.

Make it clear you need space, then leave or ask to take a break. You're not responsible for her actions, only she is. Block her on social media if needed.

See counseling yourself too, breakups are hard. Tell close friends/family for support. And whatever you do, DO NOT get back together no matter how much she pressures or threatens. You made the right choice getting out - stay free, bro. You got this.

[Anonymous]

I understand your concern and willingness to end the relationship gently. However, considering her struggles with sensitivity, past relationships, and recent suicidal behavior, it's essential to approach the situation with empathy and support.

Before breaking up, ensure she's in a safe and stable state. Encourage her to seek professional help, such as therapy or counseling, to address her emotional struggles and suicidal tendencies.

When you're ready to have the conversation:

1. Choose a private, comfortable setting.
2. Express your concern and care for her well-being.
3. Avoid blaming or criticizing her.
4. Explain how the relationship dynamics are affecting you.
5. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements.
6. Listen to her perspective, but prioritize your own emotional safety.
7. Offer support and resources for her growth and well-being.
8. Set clear boundaries and be firm in your decision.

Remember, her behavior is not your responsibility, but showing empathy and support during this challenging time is crucial. If you feel overwhelmed or unsure, consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional or a trusted adult.

[OlderAndWiser]

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