Why do men have so much suspicion in marriage? Shouldn't two people trust each other and be honest with each other? Why does this problem happen?

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HighValue · Accepted Answer

For generations women have use marriage as a financial plan and divorced men, taking much of what the man had worked for and earned, and then many of those women use the courts against the men to steal their children because when she has majority custody she gets child support. Marriage is just a way for women and courts to abuse men and children and to steal. If women didn't want to abuse men, they would get the laws changed for no alimony, the man gets to keep everything that he earned, easily provable by income tax forms, along with receipts. There should also be automatic 50/50 custody unless abuse is actually PROVEN, not just by word of mouth with the woman lying as the majority do in order to benefit financially.

Many men are tired of being abused by women, and in modern times they can share their experiences with others so the newer generations can see what really happens, and can also look up statistics to see how bad the majority of women actually are in our society.

Any woman that doesn't agree to a prenuptial agreement so the man is protected is pretty much admitting that she is an abuser and a thief.

Also, the women on social media that pretend to be on men's side are lying. Even when they have a large following, none of them ever do anything to help initiatives get on ballots to make actual changes. They just lie and pander, telling people what they want to hear so they can get attention and views for profit. If people look into it, plenty of the ones that pretend to be traditional on their YouTube channels actually have a promiscuous past themselves, and some are even covered with tattoos. And over time, some of them are now divorcing too and doing the same things that they pretended to be against.

JacobJordan · Accepted Answer

Men didn't have any suspicion in marriage until quite recently when divorce rates started to sky rocket and women turned into thieves stealing the guys money. You know the marriage vows are "till death do us part" personally I think divorce should not be an option. You get married you stay married end of story. "But what about the abusive husbands" what about them? They were abusive as boyfriends she didn't end things. He proposed she said yes despite that. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. And yes I think it goes both ways. If a man is being abused by his girlfriend/wife too bad. He knew before he proposed. "Well what about if one cheats" then take the path of the Roman's. The victim is given a gun and told "if you wish you can shoot one the other or both" meaning the cheater and the person he or she cheated with. "That's so callous and heartless" oh boohoo cry me a river. It worked and cheating was fairly uncommon just because we claim we are "more civilized" doesn't mean we actually are.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I'm sure he isn't a possum that hasn't heard that so many people cheat on each other probably now more than ever.

It doesn't hurt to reassure your man that he's the only one for you and you have no desire to cheat on him because you love HIM.

It is maddening to have a suspicious mind wondering if the person you love might be cheating on you.

And you have to admit that no one wants to be blindsided and find out they've been cheated on.

It is very painful and hurtful when someone you love has betrayed you by cheating on you.

When I found out my first husband cheated on me, I went in the bathroom and threw up! And while I was throwing up, I could hear him on the phone with her making plans to meet up.

I was in love with him when he cheated on me. We only argued a healthy argument about once or twice a year.
Our friends were envious of us because we got along so well. They said we were the epitome of a married couple.

So, naturally I was blindsided when it happened. I had no idea what he was up to and I was a very good and faithful wife to him. He used to always say I was the best wife a guy could have.

Don't make your partner suspicious of you if you aren't going to cheat. It's not right to do that to someone, anyone.

If you are going to cheat, have the decency to break up or get divorced before you cheat.

Let's treat people like you would want to be treated. There is enough sadness and not enough love in this world anymore.

SugarSugarplum · Accepted Answer

Maybe in 1950. Today men are routinely robbed by marriage and family courts. Some courts have even thrown out prenups just to screw guys over.

The problem is that modern women want to be treated like equals, but family courts still see them as helpless, uneducated little waifs and victims who need to be cared for. And the State sure as hell doesn't want to care for them, so the husband is on the hook.

Men need to be careful for this reason.

HawkPerception · Answer

Trauma, baggage, social media. Women these days (especially the ones that need to broadcast their lives on social media for attention 24/7) are not really trustworthy. Trust is built from your actions. If you are not telling your partner where you're going, not inviting them places, not communicating enough, not letting them see your phone, saying every guy that likes your pictures on social media does not have a thing for you and would not have sex with you given the chance, then you are delusional and don't "only need your partner."

My advice for a successful relationship... get off social media and stop broadcasting every moment of your life. Go back to the old times where we didn't even have all that crap and disconnect from it. Connect with your partner. Give them no reason to doubt you and they won't.

normalice · Answer

Because men want to have sex with basically every reasonably attractive woman they see. So a newly married man will know every guy who sees his wife will want to have sex with her. So all she has to do is say yes. It may take a while for a guy to know a woman well enough to know that she wouldn't..

SotiCoto · Answer

People keep asking  "Why do men"  or  "Why are women"  then describe things that both men and women do / are equally. Stop trying to make this into a gender issue. It isn't. Society is just built on a framework of lies and misdirection... and the modern age in particular allows people to lie constantly to wide audiences full of people they have no personal investment in and don't give a shit about. It would be weirder if people weren't utterly fuckin' paranoid and suspicious about everything.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Oh I'm just betting there will be multiple response blaming women and saying it's a financial thing.

Yannae · Answer

Because the divorce rates skyrocketed.

I didn't think anything bad of marriage before, I thought "That would be pretty cool, if I could find one to marry". But now, I'm thinking of a well planned out prenup that she's going to have to sign. Majority of divorces are instigated by women. What was it..60% or even 70%? Some divorce for financial gain, which is absolutely disgusting to me. It's like those vows you say before your family and God were all a lie.

It's better to be safe than sorry. No matter how good she is to me, she'll sign it.

Anonymous · Answer

You wonder why Men a backing away from marriage?

This is how Men see Marriage today!

Step 1: get married

Step 2: have kids with the wife

Step 3: do something that the wife uses as the reason for Divorce

Step 4: wife gets a lawyer to take him to the cleaners for child support and alimony + half of all financial assets

Step 5: wife does what she wants now because she has a steady income.

So long as Divorce is incentivized and prenuptial agreements are ignored by the Divorce & "Family" Courts there is no reason for Men to get married.

hahahmm · Answer

For 99% of human history men did not trust women. Some of us have learned the hard way to trust our male ancestors more than modern women.

That said.. if a woman conducts herself in a trustworthy way then she will be more trusted than the other women. Still, he will never trust her 100% because then he would be a fool. A fool in love, I think they call it.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I know that it's out of the topic but somewhat it answers your question...

1. do you have a problem to submit to your husband

2. will you cook and do the house chores

3. do you believe in marital rape?

4. do you believe in divorce other than for the reason of cheating?

5. do you believe that men are men and women are women, equal but have different roles in life?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because since the advent of "No-Fault Divorce" in the USA, men disproportionately get screwed over when the marriage fails. Even if she cheats, she gets half plud alimony plus 5/6 of the time physical custody of the children.

Or more simply, why would I bet half of everything I work for plus a percentage of my future earning on the hope that she will not change her mind and blow it up at some point in the future, like most do?

Vegasrunner · Answer

First I like to point out the lack of "Not all men" comments. The answer is pretty simple, marriage doesn't benifit men at all so they are suspicious about the type of person wanting them to enter into this disproportionate arrangement.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I had no doubts proposing to My Wife, and she had no doubts accepting. Still don't, and never will!

genericname85 · Answer

if a man has trouble trusting you, you're either not trustworthy or he has trust issues. in either case, you should probably not continue with this relationship, cause relationship without trust can't work.

Anonymous · Answer

Even I know the reason. Women initiate the vast majority of divorces and men don't exactly get treated fairly in divorce.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It’s not a male thing to be insecure. Being suspicious in marriage stems from a lack of trust

katiesmuff · Answer

The problem exists for either men or women and it is likely because in some cases it's the biggest decision one will make in there lifetime.

JonCobretti · Answer

I mean , understand the risk  The woman can declare a divorce anytime and loot the hell out of him and also take the kids away

Emanon25 · Answer

Not as you think, I don’t think any two couples get married without having trust between themselves, it could happen but not as much as you think.

Redstang88 · Answer

Because +80% of divorces are filed by women

Staximus · Answer

Why are you using other women's photos from Instagram as your profile picture

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Because girls cheat. Even among birds that mate for life…

dolemite58 · Answer

Cuz divorce is a nightmare for us and most women don’t really empathize or care.

LazerBean · Answer

I have not noticed such

PreferNot2Say · Answer

Because women actually cheat more than men do.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because so, so, many women cheat.

jahaims · Answer

It has nothing to do with gender

Twalli · Answer

People don't go into marriage with 100% certainty.

Loner111 · Answer

Because today, it is very easy to cheat.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

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Why do men have so much suspicion in marriage? Shouldn't two people trust each other and be honest with each other? Why does this problem happen?

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