My boyfriend asked for a break to rethink about the relationship coz we don’t seem compatible does it mean its over?

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So, like any girl i ask those questions will u love me if … , my boyfriend is caring and protective over me he showed me how much he cares about me even through little efforts, i sometimes bring up topics that creates arguments he told me sometimes he is afraid to talk with me coz i would creat a fight he just needs peace, however i give him his space and i don’t annoy him when he is out with friends im not that much aggressive but he may see me that way i have no idea before we would communicate and solve it, this time it just made both of us so mad and he told me we don’t work.. then said should at least take a break and think well but he told me this break is not an excuse to do bad things ( coz when im mad i smh do mistakes small one) he told me we r like we r from different planets, if we met at young age maybe we would be married now but now we r on different ways …he is older than me
and recently we found out that im so naive and too nice to people and i believe whatever they say to me he also told me to take care of myself and not be fooled by people.. I don't know if that break will be the end of it but im living a breakup pain it hurts a lot i cried at night till sleep woke up with wet eyes still and im in so much pain I don't know will i be normal
Again ,’ I don't know that break will benefit the relationship or its already over he said at least one week break
I don't know how can he do that even im not able to

Lowly_Grump · Accepted Answer

This boyfriend of yours, sounds like a real drippy tap! He's older than you, yet he's acting like a toddler who's had his lollipop taken away. "I need peace," he whines, while simultaneously causing a storm in your heart. What a contradictory crybaby!

And now, he wants a break to "rethink the relationship"? Pah! What a load of dragon's burps! It's clear as a fairy's giggle that this fella is as spineless as a jellyfish in a blender. He's probably off gallivanting with his friends, feeling all high and mighty, while you're left crying into your pillow, feeling lower than a snake's belly.

But listen here, Zahia1112, don't you go blaming yourself! This relationship breakdown is not because you're "too nice" or "naive." Oh no, my friend, this fella is just a glittery glue stick—all sparkle and no substance. He's trying to shift the blame onto you, claiming you're from different planets. Well, I say, good riddance to this intergalactic imposter!

So, dry those wet eyes, my dear. This break is a blessing in disguise, as sparkling as a unicorn's sneeze. It's time to shine like the star that you are and leave this old fart in the past, where he belongs. Go out, have some fun, and remember, you're worth more than a whiny, wishy-washy, older man-child.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It should be for you. Even if he changes his mind and wants to take you back you should say, "no"! He wants to shop around. Odds are he's ALREADY got another woman in mind. If he hasn't already made inroads to that end he's most likely about to. The point is you should NOT tolerate being put on the back burner while he does this. That doesn't mean you have to officially break up with him. But consider the relationship over and move forward with your life as though it were. If he comes back then you break up with him then. Or maybe if he comes back you've already found somebody else. The point is this is either way this is his punishment for not just breaking up with you like a man from the start. If he never comes back it's a non issue because you've likely already found somebody else.

The moral of the story is this. You should only be loyal to someone who's loyal to you. DON'T ALLOW somebody to play you like a fool. I don't care how deep my feelings are for someone. I'm ALWAYS ready to walk away over some f***ery like this. Because even if you lose the person, you really lost nothing. Because if a person loves you they do NOT do something like this.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Sadly, YES! I have a fiancé, whom I love with all of my heart. I don’t need any break to know I love him! My ex, on the other hand, I wanted a break from! A week later I broke up with him because I was SO much happier during that week. If you love someone, you don’t need to “think about it”.

I’m sorry about your relationship not working out.

Laura. 💔

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think breaks are just a way to segway into an actual break up. It’s basically the practice break up. So sadly, it’s more than likely to be over. If you truly love someone you wouldn’t need a break from them to rethink the relationship, you’d need some space (me time) at most…

Finchie40 · Answer

I’m sorry to tell you this , but yes it is more than likely over between you both , couples that take breaks from each other aren’t truly in love with each other , they just like the convenience of each other. So your boyfriend had no right telling you to not be bad while you are both apart , I guarantee he plans on being bad during his time away from you , he is clearly going to hit up other girls or he probably already has another girl lined up , that he wants to pursue and thinking if it doesn’t work out he will come back to you. Do yourself a favor and do not wait for his return , understand it’s over. If he truly valued you and cared about you he wouldn’t need this space from you period. Never wait for anyone to make up their mind , if he can’t choose you , you don’t choose him. Move on and find someone else

blueonblack22 · Answer

I hate to say it but most likely yes. He’s doing this because he most likely feels deeply conflicted about breaking up with you.

This is how I handled my last ex. She didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong but she had major issues that I was just need equipped to deal with (she was on three different types of anti depressant and anti psychotic drugs).

Truth was she was very oblivious that I was thinking about ending it. Most women have very strong intuition on that but she didn’t. I didn’t want her to get blindsided out of nowhere. I also seriously wanted to double check my own feelings with some time apart from her.

We took a “two week break”. Then I decided to end (face to face) and she went absolutely nuclear which actually confirmed I made the right choice. But that’s another story.

Lliam · Answer

He's using as a passive-aggressive form of coercion. He wants the power in the relationship and is hurting you to prove that he has the upper hand. That means he doesn't care about you. If he did, he wouldn't be able to be without you. He would do everything possible to stay together.

I don't think he is a good man.
Find a new boyfriend and then watch try to backtrack. Fuck him.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

A man who loves you will never put themselves in a position to lose you. A "break" is an excuse to cheat, or to check if there are better options out there. If he doesn't see options, he knows he can come back to you.

Find someone who is sure about you. Hugs! 💗 Moving on is painful, but believe that everything will be alright, in time.

SphynxUK · Answer

You don’t sound compatible. He may like it love you, but sometimes that’s not enough. I would guess that it’s over. He’s given you some feedback so I would try and learn from
It. Heartbreak is painful, but it does get better and you can learn things from it.

DishLady · Answer

Well... if you're not compatible, don't you WANT it to be over? He sounds like a party guy and you sound like a chatty homebody... So if this guy wants to let you go... it sounds like his loss, but he has to live his life and make his own mistakes... and you have to learn not to pick fights with the guy.

waterliliestxt · Answer

I would say a break is yes it’s over if there is not a set timeline or guidelines. From what I read it seems that you both have some growing to do, I don’t see a villain in either of you. Just improvements that honestly all of us could make.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

It's over. The moment one asks for a break it's over. A healthy couple, two people who love eachbother shouldn't need breaks.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Better now than after you are married and have 2 kids…  take care of your self and move on.  learn from it and make a better relationship next time.

JTinSC1981 · Answer

This guy sounds like a dick. You're better off without him.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

You should tell him you don’t believe in taking a break so let’s just end things.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

its over. breaks are "lets get comfy with living apart before its official"

Radiate143 · Answer

Break haha. If he cim3s back it's just for a warm place for his... until he monkey branches.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Breaks are death sentences to relationships Sorry

dudeinohio · Answer

Breaks are admitting you can't be in a committed relationship. You may as well break. up. it's over.

Wolf_Thunderspirit · Answer

No - but it's on the edge.

OddBeMe · Answer

It means he’s planning on fcking someone.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

He is done with your bullshit.

Joshgag2000 · Answer

It’s a break up

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Probably

In_Trance · Answer

Dump him

My boyfriend asked for a break to rethink about the relationship coz we don’t seem compatible does it mean its over?

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