Is it cheating if you aren't together yet?

Question

you are taking it slow with a girl to  be with her but you are trying to get with another girl. Is it cheating if you aren't together yet?

rdr005 · Accepted Answer

Lemme ask a question instead, then answer. Is it even a relationship if you can't wait and be patient with the girl you're taking it slow with, if you have to get ass from another girl? In any relationship, if you care, or love someone, you will respect that person. Put yourself in her shoes and pretend she was seeing other guys. Since this is merely a question, I won't assume that you are actually doing this, for the lack of looking like an ass... but any boy who does that should man up. If its an easy lay or ass a guy wants, just find a girl who wants a fling, or go to the club. Hell, there's websites for that kinda stuff.

By technicality, I'd say "yes" it is cheating, because I interpret "cheating" as "bending the rules." Everyone knows that if you're seeing more than one girl, you're being a player, so in order to show attraction to one person, you should be faithful to them and respect them, especially among others. Getting with another girl while talking to another, is like bending the rules of dating, hence, cheating.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Of course not!  If you're not exclusive with a girl you can't cheat on her.  You can't cheat on a relationship that doesn't exist.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I think it is if you are trying to get into a relationship with her, which by your explanation sounds like what you are trying to do.

If you have no intention of ever getting into a relationship with her and have not led her to believe that then it's not cheating.

But I just think that if you just want sex, then maybe you shouldn't pursue relationships. Sex is fun, but it's not everything. A girl will feel really hurt if she finds out that a guy she likes and was getting to know, is sleeping with someone else. It makes her feel bad and she won't want to see you anymore. so maybe think about that before you do anything with this other girl. If you are trying to forge a relationship, the original girl won't appreciate that you went and slept with someone else. She will think that you only want sex and never cared about her.

CurlyCurl · Accepted Answer

If you know that both of you for sure have a commitment towards each other and your trying to get with another girl then yes. If there is no commitment involved and you guys both see it as friends, then its not cheating.

but hey buddy, make sure you arnt playing around with any of the two.There's no rush to be with one of them. take your time, get to know them well and choose who. You don't want to be involved with bad consequences.

Scorpi · Accepted Answer

Its not cheating, but if the other girl finds out then their won't be much of a relationship left. If you can't stop hooking up BEFORE you get together, what hope do you have if you are actually in a relationship?

VintageTwalk · Answer

OF COURSE NOT but here's the thing. I'm out of my relationship now because I didn't practice being with just one person faithful BEFORE the relationship. You have to get in *practice* of being faithful like someone practicing to improve their skills with baseball, basketball, football etc. You can't be banging other women then just fall into a relationship! You're just going to continue doing the same thing you've been use too.

Aksel · Answer

It still is if you keep it as secret! If you're seeing another girl tell the current one about it, don't let her think that you're seeing only her!

You are supposed to tell her that you're seeing someone else at the same time, then it counts as multidating.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Technically no.  At least not yet.  However, you're still leading the other girl on and keeping secrets from her.  Why are you taking it slow with one girl and trying to get with another at the same time?  I agree with faidoeos.  That is just plain sleazy.

Yeahhbro · Answer

no f*** that man, its called keeping your options open what if this didn't work with this girl huh? you probably would have lost a lot of time and money for nothing. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, you have a right to also choose whoever you like the most to, girls do it too anyways why shouldn't you?

TurbulentDan12 · Answer

Yes. If you two are making a conscious effort to start a relationship, anything with another girl I would consider cheating even if you aren't official yet.

Iridescent47 · Answer

No, its not cheating, your just a mongo and justifying all the stereotypical questions on this site about how men are Co*k orientated women using retards.

fascination_streak · Answer

No. You both haven't agreed to be exclusive yet so you both can do as you please.  It's only cheating, once there is a commitment or the relationship has been defined as exclusive by the couple.

CindiluvsFriends · Answer

No  because you're not together yet. Heck I did the same thing last night-went out with a guy when I've been trying to go out with another(schedule conflicts). Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

It's not cheating, but it is kinda messed up. Someone is bound to get hurt.

faidoeos · Answer

it's not cheating, just sleazy

Anonymous · Answer

you're a jerk...

InMyHeart · Answer

yes.

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