Can you cheat if you're not in a relationship?

[rolangaros]

I mean, is it cheating if you've been dating with a few people at the same time to know each other? I do not ask it trying to be cool, I just want to know your exact opinions...

[Finchie40]

No , if you are dating , then dating means you are open to seeing other people , you haven’t made a commitment to anyone so you are still playing the field until you match with someone that you feel amazing chemistry and connection with to the point you eventually want to commit to settle down and commit to someone. Now if if your running around having sex with all the girls you are dating and lying about it , then that can easily backfire on you that you are just a player and using girls for sex and you could gain a reputation of being a whore or a player , so the best thing to do is find a FWB’s that you can fulfill your sexual wants with but make it clear to your FWB’s that if you meet someone else and have sex with them then immediately end the benefits part and remain friends , I won’t get into anFWB’s if the girl is jumping from cock to cock , to me that is dirty and degrading , if she is just dating and not sleeping with other guys and just having sex with me then her and I are on the same page , that’s the most logical way a FWB’s will work and the only way I will put myself on one , I do not want STD’s period , A girl that can have sex with a bunch of guys is a whore to me and she can’t be trusted

[OfMiceandMen]

If you haven't made it known to one of the individuals you are not seeing anyone else, then you are fine.

However, I find it way easier to actually get to know someone dating one person at a time. At least if they ask if I am seeing anyone else, I can honestly say no!

I guess you can lie and ditch other girls, if you finally decide to get involved with one of them, but it just seems like dog thing to do bc you just put the other girls lives on hold while you make a decision as to who you like.

[Alessa13]

Heck no, y'all think that dating multiple people at once is cheating, it is not. Dating means you are trying to see if anyone gets your fancy. Soon as one does and you both agree to make things official then it would be.

Dating to me is like hanging out as friends getting to know each other, you aren't doing passionate kissing. You aren't having sex, you might so a light gentle quick kiss at the end of a date but nothing major.

[Paul_in_Indy]

What if I am single and I am going out with a married woman? Am I cheating, then?

[Alessa13]

@Paul_in_Indy Technically no, she is but I wouldn't recommend it. Nor would I date a married or committed man, even though I would not be the one cheating he would be but I don't want to be in that.

[Msputiton]

Depends.

Have you made it clear that this is what you are doing, or are you hiding them from eachother.

It's not cheating but it can have the same effect as cheating if the others feel betrayed and mislead.

Because most people don't start talking to someone with the expectation that they are a back up

[MrOracle]

If you are dating more than one person at a time, you are obligated to disclose that to any new people that you date. The default societal expectation is that it's one at a time, but many people would accept you dating other people as long as they knew up-front and were able to decide for themselves if they were okay with it. Many would feel upset and wouldn't want to proceed, but some would only care once things got serious.

[AviatorTom]

If you're tin a relationship, there's no one to cheat on... except maybe yourself

[serious]

Well, if you are not in a committed relationship and you are not exclusive then it is not cheating.

However, dating people many people at the same time means you are leading them on and that itself is very unethical, immoral and inappropriate behavior.

[Sleeper07]

Yes, it is. If the goal is to have exclusivity and establish a close monogamous bond with an individual you want to respect and value their company than any other person's.

If you are simultaneously dating multiple women at the same time, it shows you don't actually value the time you're investing into creating a close bond with someone.

[ElGato31]

Well, sometimes even if you don't put a label on it, you're in a relationship.

For me it's simple. If the other/s know about it beforehand, it's not cheating by definition.

[Luopio27]

Leading people on is a dangerous line to be crossed. Like being in tinder, going on dates, ending up in bed without official confirmation of whats going on. Both genders are guilty of this. Not all people, not most but many.

[BagoH]

No cheating unless you promised a commitment as a monogamous partner. You can datw how many you like doesn't make you a cheater.

[genericname85]

You're not cheating until your break a promise. If someone expects you to see them exclusively and assumes you're doing that without ever articulating that expectation, you're not cheating.

[Keishio]

You're not obligated to tell anyone anything if you don't want to because you're not involved with anyone, you're just dating and yes, if you have multiple options you are allowed to see which suits you best

[Ms_Facesitter]

Maybe, I mean what if I let him know that I'm just seeing him, but I'm dating others behind his back. Kind of feels like it.

[itsalyssaagain]

Generally speaking no. But it also depends on the situation. If you’ve made it seem like you’re not seeing anyone also then that’s weird.

[lovenonstop]

If you are just talking and never committed to each other to be exclusive then no it’s not cheating.

[MikeTheBartender]

Dating has to be stated and committed. Otherwise it's not cheating.

[Nikki1989]

No, people can and should date as many people as possible when looking for a suitable partner.

[Anonymous]

no, that's called dating lmao. you are allowed to go on a date with a few people to see which one fits you best... in no way is that cheating.

[MountAverage]

How do you not understand the concept of "cheating"? It's pretty straight forward, what's confusing about it?

[gorydetails]

If there’s no expectation of exclusivity then there’s no cheating.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I would feel disrespected, but no, it's not cheating if it's not a relationship.

[peedy]

If you are not with someone you can't cheat on them you can only cheat on yourself

[najekim]

Not cheating if you have not made an exclusive commitment with any of them.