Is it normal to feel this way to see your ex in a pic with your friend at event?

[Anonymous]

today I saw social media tag pics of my recent ex boyfriend with a pic of my good friend and her other friends for her friend’s birthday it seemed. I feel weird and vulnerable… he looks kinda happy… and he’s wearing the dressshirt we bought together 😔it also makes me feel weird that my friend didn’t even tell me she ran into him.

he actually blocked me on social media so this is the first thing I’ve seen of him after our break up and I was only able to see this because he was with people I know. But yeah sigh.

before anyone say “move on” this is not about moving on question, I’m just genuinely curious if this is normal to feel this way… because I’m not sure how to cope.. it just doesn’t feel great tbh

[kylee2437]

Absolutely normal to feel this way. You aren’t ready to move on and it’s completely normal to feel off about your ex. Even moved on it still is. I have an ex that’s been an ex for 4 years and seeing him with the girl he cheated on me with still brings weird feelings especially bc he says similar things to her in posts that he said to me. It’s a grieving process. Grieving never really goes away , we just eventually move on.

[Oliverlogan263]

I can understand why seeing that picture would make you feel weird and upset. Breakups are always hard, even if you're the one who ended it. It's totally normal to still have feelings for an ex, especially if it was recent. And I'm sure seeing him look so happy and wearing that shirt you guys picked out together brought back all kinds of memories and hurt.

Your friend probably should have at least given you a heads up that she ran into him, so you didn't have to find out like that online. It would've been courteous of her to check in with you first. As for your ex, him blocking you everywhere just makes it seem like he's trying to avoid dealing with his own feelings too.

I think what you're feeling is normal for any breakup, whether it was mutual or not. It's gonna take time to fully move on, and little things are bound to come up that tug at your heartstrings. The best thing is to lean on your real friends for support. Maybe reach out to the friend you saw him with and just say how it made you feel - a good friend will understand.

In the end, try not to dwell on it too much. He's your ex for a reason, and you deserve someone who treats you better. Stay busy with your other friends and keep your chin up! In time these little reminders won't sting as much. You've got this!

[BetaBucks]

You're normal. Most of us would feel weird about seeing our recent ex hanging out with our current friends. It could even feel like your friends picked the ex over you.