Girls, Ladies why would u tell ur kids not to confront their father for cheating?

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows except the cheater. Been going on for a few years. Kids are late teens.

Why is it a secret that everyone knows except dad?

[DishLady]

Because no matter WHAT kind of bastard he is he’s still their father.

[Asker]

Even if it hurts the kids up and 1 had to go to therapy? Still no confronting the father by his mom. Matter of fact the mom put a post up on Facebook for everyone to see stating my greatest achievement has been keeping my mouth shut.

[DishLady]

You're not making sense.
1. Do they already KNOW he's cheated?
2. How is not talking negatively about their dad going to land one of his kids in therapy?
3. Looks like a public social media lashing was involved -- always a mistake.
4. Who are YOU if you're not the mom? Why tf are you involved in this drama?

[Asker]

1) Yes wife and his kids know. For like 3 years.

2) One teenager was acting out because dad is cheating. So parents sent kid to therapy but Noone told dad it's because they know he's cheating!

3) I'm a best friend for 15 years but I ended our friendship. I couldn't take her allowing him to abuse her by having an affair. She refuses to discuss it so I told her then she's not my friend and I can't deal with the toxic family anymore.

[DishLady]

If they KNOW about it already, then they need to go to therapy and talk this out -- not with their mom, who is insane for pouring her drama out on social media. I was in her exact situation and never talked to my kids about it or plastered it all over my media to family and friends. My God... Does she really think that her kids wouldn't hear/see what she's been posting?

[Asker]

This is exactly why I asked the question here.
The kid did go to therapy to talk about her cheating father.
But I'm just mind blown why does Noone tell the father they know and to stop cheating or just kick him out!
SO the kids in therapy while dad is still cheating.

I can only think of maybe she's planning to do something to him In the future and wants to keep it a secret. She's very submissive maybe she's just taking it.
Either way it ruined our friendship and she is accepting our friendship loss also.

[dustybiker2]

You sound less concerned for the children's welfare and more interested in stirring. How about ripping the bandaid so the kids don't have to feel compelled to. Allow them what little is left of childhood.

[Asker]

I sure as heck am not going to be the person to confront him. I think that's his wife's responsibility. But she hasn't in years and her kids know. I asked why not but it's like thos big secret Noone will say why don't they throw him out.

[Jessikaah91]

Why bring the kids into adult problems. Thats between the parents not the kids.

[Asker]

Yes but if the teenagers know dad is cheating and it effects them, why would they be told not to confrint dad? As dad continues to cheat.