Why would a wife tell her teenage kids not to confront their father?

[Anonymous]

About his long term affair?

The wife herself never confronted. Living a charade of a marriage.

Money? Timing? Love? Making excuses? Telling the kids it's good enough to stay?

[Anonymous]

Because if your plan is to try to find a way to move on, it's probably not best to create that kind of drama. I wouldn't have told the kids at all if my plan was to try to make it work still. there's no need to poison them with that instability, esspecially at such a hormonal age

[Opinion Owner]

I do think, if they already know, it's definitely not good to bottle up all those emotions. Maybe a talk would be important in that scenario, if it's really hurting the children

[Asker]

But the affair is still going on and everyone knows it. For years. It's all hush hush dint tell dad we know

[Opinion Owner]

Thaaaaats really weird then... I wonder what's keeping them together

[Guy13]

Perhaps he is unstable in some way and she has personal experience with that. It is probably a safety measure. One can only assume, that from experience, she has more knowledge of his capabilities. I would be inclined to follow her leading.

[Asker]

Very perceptive of you. He's struggling with anxiety due to a business decision and has been depressed. I guess if things go bad, she will have no income at all

[Guy13]

Wow…”don’t bother him now, kids…we’ll talk to him later as he’s working through some things.” 🤷🏻‍♂️ I would get that as 15 year old

[Emiliamazing]

Fear of his response, what if he lies. Fear of how direct the questions may be. Whenever a question is asked, there’s an opportunity to lie and make the other person look like the bad guy/girl.