Girls, Ladies why would you tell your daughters not to confront their father about his affair?

[Anonymous]

Dad's been cheating for years. Mom and teens found out. Dad is still cheating 3 years later. Noone ever confronted him.

Mom must have told kids to keep their mouths closed. 1 kid went to therapy.

Dad has occasional alcohol issues.

Why would a wife tolerate the affair and tell her kids to tolerate it also without ever confronting dad?

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1 y

It sounds like she's biding her time?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You sound like you’re talking about someone you don’t know well at all. You know nothing other than the fact that he’s cheating and they’re not divorced yet. I don’t think the mom told the kids to tolerate it anymore than the father told them he was having the affair. I wouldn’t make assumptions about people you heard about second hand

[Asker]

It's my daughters best friend mom that I was friends with.
Yes she did tell her daughters to not say anything to their father about his cheating.
We are no longer friends and my daughter is not allowed in that toxic home

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't but I imagine it's possible she's waiting for the kids to be adults and move out then leave him?

[Asker]

This is the only thing that makes sense unless she's waiting for more financial stability too. Probably told the kids to wait it out.
She did put a post up on her social media awhile ago that stated
One of my greatest accomplishment is keeping my mouth shut.

Except she lost her friendship with me because I couldn't take the toxicity and she refused to discuss her situation