What are some of the best breakup activities?

[DishLady]

So a BUNCH of questions on here are about what to do when you breakup or how to get over a breakup... blah blah blah... but I haven't seen a question about what folks actually go out and do to get over a breakup?

Personally, I remember feeling like I was ready to scale a wall... so I headed out to my local (indoor) rock climbing spot and scaled as many walls as I wanted till I got it out of my system... Then a friend suggested golf... and I picked up some weekly lessons; golf helps force you to focus and prioritize one thing at a time... to set one goal at a time... so I loved it and learned a lot from that experience. Stuff along these lines, along with a few more physical and social activities -- including dancing, walking/hiking, traveling and such, which you can do with a group without too much fuss -- helped bring me back to a physically and emotionally happy and healthy state of being.

What activities have you guys and gals taken on to get over an ex (or perhaps a major crush, loss, etc.)?

[Mwolf]

Regular stuff. I normally keep busy anyways. Normal stuff and stuff I would do would be: rsearching for fun whatever weird interesting topic I have that time (MBTI Enneagrams, criminal psychology, why people commit n*cr*philia or c*nnib*lism, diseases that have no cure yet, deadly things and places dumb people do and go knowing the risks and end up losing their life, cause and effect). Shooting guns, four wheeling, swimming, archery, dirt biking rough terrain, alcohol ink, resin, drawing, tattooing, planning and budgeting and narrowing things down on lists and notes for future life stuff, finishing stuff I couldn't get done at work at home in my P. J.'s, cleaning, taking care of and interacting with my pets, etc.

[Anonymous]

I usually give myself an elaborate mani pedi regimen at home, I also take my dog out more often, visiting new trails or dog parks. After my last heartbreak, I picked up a new hobby (knitting) and I knitted a beanie for every single one of my family member!

[OfMiceandMen]

I typically take some time off and go kayaking, maybe head to the coast or one of the Great Lake and see some new territory. Seeing and doing new things helps me processes it slower as I am busy taking things in, so I don't dwell on just the break-up.

[DishLady]

Good call there. Agreed.

[HawkPerception]

I won't even bother posting an opinion. @OfMiceandMen pretty much stated my opinion.

[HawkPerception]

Just stuff related to nature and disconnecting

[DishLady]

@HawkPerception Yeah, fresh air is the best cure for it.

[OfMiceandMen]

Nature has a way of improving your disposition.

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks 😊

[DishLady]

True!

[RetroReviews]

Retro fighting video games I would recommend Street fighter 2 or Final Fight, take your anger and aggression out on the digital punks lol but I can be a release of the emotions and the endorphins not good to hold it in

[DishLady]

I get it. Thanks for posting. :)

[RetroReviews]

You're welcome 👍

[OlderAndWiser]

I once went camping solo for three days. After three days alone in the swamp, i was actually excited to re-enter civilization.

[Finchie40]

Spend more time with friends , drink beer and go fishing

[sawno]

I have none, literally anything that distracts me or helps me vent. Nothing worked better than anything else the pain was to immense for that, it was all about how much i'd normally enjoy the activity and how good it is at cheering me up / distracting me in usual times.

[DishLady]

Fair enough.

[ArrowheadSW]

Whatever your hobbies and sports are, enjoy those! I remember when I was 33 I finally got out of a long term relationship that I was NOT happy with, and the first thing I did was to enjoy outdoors activities like hiking. It was like having my life back.

[provokeesmokee]

Physical activities for sure. Rock climbing is a fave of mine too, but I also climb with my partners, lol.

I like to take a road trip and recently got everything I need to do some pretty epic camping.

Recently broke up with my girlfriend and went camping for 4 days and it was lovely.

[adventurous-1]

get away for some alone time in the country to sort out my head and feelings, playing music and reflecting on what went wrong and what I learned. Then when ready get with a few of my friends and have a few beers together to ease back into going out and associate with people in public again, see what's changed in the landscape sense I was gone. Just start having fun and living again.

[Bety23]

I guess it depends on how long you guys been together and how serious it was if it wasn’t that serious then it would be a little bit more easier to get over, but if it was a long time and you put a lot of effort into it, it will hurt it’s like grieving Over somebody

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve done it all….
All of these things helped distract me until I was over it.




Going to the gym
Working extra hours
Listening to music I enjoy
Hooking up
Sleeping in… lol




Doing outdoor activities I enjoy
Shooting ranges
Camping trips
Going to the beach

[KrakenAttackin]

The key is to completely delete her from your life. Delete photos, block on all social media delete contact information, etc.

When she inevitably texts you in the future, you reply with "I'm sorry, who is this"?

[DishLady]

Is that enough? I hav to say, the blocking thing has never seemed particularly helpful, esp if you share mutual contacts anyway, which in a relationship you usually do. The physical activities seemed to get me way further in the self-healing process.

[KrakenAttackin]

@DishLady Agreed. If you were married the friends will split very quickly. When I worked I. The financial world there was a saying, 'the friends go with the wife, the professionals go with the husband".

[DishLady]

Interesting. When I split with my hubbie he happened to take the loyalty of several women I’d considered friends in the past, so I won’t comment on that too much. And he didn’t care to work — kept making excuses — so I actually held most of the professional contacts with only one or two exceptions of divorced dads feeling they had to “back their boy” …. That’s all I’m going to say about that bc the rest gets rude.

[KrakenAttackin]

@DishLady Losing friends was much harder for me than losing the wife. I guess she implied "him or me" and their wives enforced that dictum.

[DishLady]

True. When the spouse is toxic it’s more of a surprise that the friends either don’t see it or contributed to the toxicity.

[KrakenAttackin]

@DishLady. Very true.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It works even better if you stick your ex's face on the golf ball.. FOUR!!! Lol

[TommyMountainFigure]

Or is it FORE.. I'm never sure.

[DishLady]

😂😂😂

Fore… You’re ok. I knew what you meant.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You laughed :D I consider that job done!!

[DishLady]

<3 Thanks, Tommy.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're very welcome Dishy : I can't do all those emote thingies on my pc so here's an old Yahoo Hug for ya >:D<

[DishLady]

LOL. Thank you.

[TonyMetal___86]

Tried everything but nothing can replace what i missed except if i bring someone instead, sometime nothing can beat the loneliness and the love feeling that you miss and having someone at home to cheer you up...

If i was younger it would of been a lot easier to get over things but from now on and in future it gets harder but still a lot better than being with the wrong person!

[DishLady]

Yeah, but you can't just lock yourself up like that... It's not healthy. It's good to go outside, get some fresh air, take a class in something you've always wanted to learn and didn't have the time... Perhaps try a new sporting activity to enjoy with your son also... It's not all about the girl, my friend.

[TonyMetal___86]

I know and i did it all but nothing can replace the void that is left behind!

If i didn't care about love and family or have such a lifestyle than i would of never chose to get married in the 1st place like many other guys!

I can have sex anytime i want with any random woman for free and if not, i can pay for a model but i don't want all this fake sh*t because they don't last, also to me sex means nothing without love, that's why there will be no sex till marriage no matter how much i crave for it!

I'm not like other men, i'm not an animal who just wanna hop and bang than leave!

[DishLady]

Hmm. Ok, I agree there isn't a thing to replace romantic love completely, however it's possible to shrink the void by making room in your heart and mind for other types of love (love of your family, love of an activity, general values, etc.) so that your live is a healthy and happy one in general. Don't give into depression just because one quadrant of your life isn't 100% satisfied because that will impact your capacity to appreciate and enjoy the other parts of your life.

[TonyMetal___86]

That is true but you know sometimes when you sit alone and start thinking, it's not in your hand these thoughts starts trafficing your mind...

[DishLady]

True.

[Alli112]

Long walks, writing, paint by numbers (the act of creating without any of the planning or skill lol)

[ryanrhino]

I read self improvement books, mostly for emotional intelligence, but also for meditation and stress relief.

[CieloAzul]

Try to occupy your time, not just doing one thing all the time because you’ll get bored and that’s will lead to thinking again.
Do sports, go out with friends, volunteer in something in your community.

[MicahRaine]

For me, anything fast-paced. If I can't think about it for a period of time then I have a clean mental space once I think about it again.

[NathanDavis]

live normally, move on...

[DishLady]

In many cases "normally" has gone up in flames and a person needs to regroup and rebuild.

[NathanDavis]

can't put down a fire by starting another... lol

[NathanDavis]

well, actually...

[DishLady]

😂 😂 😂

[NathanDavis]

my break-ups were more like mutual agreements, and in very good terms, so... not exactly breaking that much, so I guess I just did it a bit differently... which is fortunate to say, I realize

[DishLady]

Ok, true. One of my two long-term relationships was a calm, mutual agreement and honestly there wasn't a grieving period, but the first one (my marriage) was very bad and in my case the physical activities were the perfect way to pull myself back to who I was before marriage. It was a big deal.

[NathanDavis]

yes, I see what you mean... and maybe not after break ups, but a few other struggles in life, stress, anxiety and all that

sports has also been a way for more to distract myself, and also let out a lot of that energy, and to let it out in a much more positive and healthier way too

[Juxtapose]

I introspect a lot, cry, talk with my friends about it and then go do something physical and fun to get the serotonin flowing and whatnot.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Get out of the house and stay active maybe get a tattoo or piercing

[Wallythewalrus2]

Get drunk and naked, go online and talk dirty to girls.

[sage2021]

I stayed home and wrote poetry.

Went down to the Nightclub and did some dancin'.

[Dongie]

You gave all mine. Well miniature golf.

[DishLady]

Sorry! It's why I was trying to keep it to only a couple. Which is your fave? Miniature golf or one of the ones I listed?

[Dongie]

Well, you said golf. I played once and threw my opponent out of the cart, turning to sharp. Heh, he went rolling. I sucked and we gave it up on hole 4. But miniature golf, I used to like that. Still would, but they closed ours down a few decades ago.

[DishLady]

OMG! Hahaha.

Yeah, they've closed down a bunch of them. I can't even tell you where the one nearest me is anymore. :(

[Dongie]

If I get my money for getting runover, I may check into that. I was talking with a friend who has a 13 - and 8-year-old. He said we don't even have a skating rink. I would like to have both of those and go carts.

[DishLady]

They started setting up a little makeshift rink in the winter. It's like a collapsable ramp and a little patch of flooring that they ice over from December to February. It's cute. Just enough for 20-40 people.

[Dongie]

You're way up north. Near the Monkee man?

[DishLady]

(?) DM me, I'm not sure.

[Dongie]

I can't

[Dongie]

You can me I think.

[avery58]

Watching series, hitting the gym

[xavid9]

After getting over your ex try to be busy in life and earn money
Eventually they'll come to you one day not you

[moneymagnet24]

I always have backup plan if she go someone will replace her in a Day...

[DishLady]

I know, I know... within the hour. But I mean something to take your mind off the girl thing completely. Sports or gaming or something like this.

[moneymagnet24]

I do trading making money I kept my self busy in getting rich...

[DishLady]

There you go... Thank you.

[moneymagnet24]

Are you married?

[DishLady]

Nope.

[moneymagnet24]

I see.. single?

[DishLady]

Yeah, but happily so and not looking for trouble, you know?

[moneymagnet24]

Hehe yeah
Maam y9ur age is correct Here? If I yes then I want to asked you something

[DishLady]

You can ask me. Just keep it PG13.

[RavVid]

A bottle of vodka is my go to.

[DishLady]

Ooof!

[RavVid]

it does the job in terms of numbing up the emotions!

[exitseven]

I used to drink heavily.

[dudeinohio]

I got on a dating site and started looking.

[DishLady]

Fighting a fire with more fire? Didn’t you need a mental break from it?

[dudeinohio]

No. The best cure for a breakup is a new relationship.

[DishLady]

Ooof.

[dudeinohio]

It works.

[Tstrbrainer]

You should have tried rebound 👉👌

[DishLady]

No thank you... That's like jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

[legalboxers]

meditation