Do I ruin my chances to get my ex back by screwing his friend?

[Anonymous]

Couple days ago I hanged out with my ex-boyfriend’s friend and I got drunk and he sorta raped me. I told him not to tell anybody and did a pinky promise.
the next day. He blocked me and told everybody in town that he screwed me and how easy was it.
It hurt my feelings a bit but I’m worried that, what my ex-boyfriend will think about it. Would it ruin my chances for him ever coming back to me or he might feel jealous or I don't know

[Investigator]

This post falls under "WTF did I just read?"

Let's review the timeline of events
>hang out at ex-boyfriend's place (why?)
>got drunk
>his friend "sorta raped" you
>you told him not to tell anyone (why?)
>he blocked you, then told everyone you're a floozy
>you're worried your ex won't take you back because his friend potentially violated you
Did I get all of that?

Are you hanging out with your ex, in order to make him want you again? Is that why you were there? If your ex gets angry because his friend "sorta raped" you, then tells you what his priorities are. Ask yourself what motived you, to put yourself in this situation. Do some reflecting and have some self-respect, and above all else...

[RyanK9b]

Why did u asked why he shouldn't tell others?
Isn't that obvious? She did slut things and don't want to be one. Thats the absolute basic behaviour of women

[Finchie40]

Why do you want your ex back anyways? And he is more than likely going to find out the truth that you screwed his friend , so you are best to move on period

[DishLady]

"HE SORTA RAPED ME"? Girl, either this is a fake post or you've gone out of your mind and are typing rather than reporting this to the cops. THE LEAST of your problems is his blocking you... or hurt feelings... OR chances with your old guy.

[Alli112]

You do realize that rape is a crime and you can call the police right? Your ex really is not the biggest issue here.

[AviatorTom]

There's no "sorta". If he did, tell your ex about it. He may or may not believe you, but what's to lose?

[Serkee]

What does "sorta raped me" mean? Rape is a hell of an accusation. Did he rape you, or did you just get drunk and regret your choices later? If he was drunk too, did you rape each other? You say you screwed him, and that you two casually did a pinky promise to not tell anyone afterward. That doesn't sound an awful lot like rape to me.

[BetaBucks]

Great points. Some people just don't realize how much we can diminish the value of serious words by misusing them.

[meepmeeperton]

I think you realized you made a mistake getting drunk around a guy and screwing him and now you want to call it “sorta rape” because you realized the consequences.

To add to the immaturity, you thought a “pinky promise” could protect you LOL.

If the guy is telling everyone your ex is bound to find out. Even if he somehow never found out, would it feel right to you to get back together with him and lie by omission about it?

[loveslongnails]

There's no such thing as being "sorta raped"; he either raped you or you were a consenting party, or you were incapacitated due to your drinking. Your ex isn't coming back, and you shouldn't care what he's going to think anyway. Better question is what do you think of YOURSELF after all this. Pinky swear? Seriously?

[Twalli]

He won't ever want you back unless he knows you were unwilling to have sex with his friend, that his friend raped you. Even then he may not want you back, bit as long as he doesn't know you didn't want to have sex with your friend, there is a 100% chance he won't want you back.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Did you screw your ex's friend? Or did he rape you? Which is it?
The words you use are extremely important, especially in this context.

He sounds like an asshat no matter what though.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Firstly, you never ruined your chances of getting him back because there was likely zero chance anyway. Now, if you are being truthful and he raped you, as opposed to 'sorta' raped you, then you should go to the police and have him arrested!

[CuriousHubby]

Sounds like you can just say her lied! What are your friends saying?

Depends how much he believes the guy either he will feel bad u got raped or just hate you more!

If his friend did that how bad is your ex?

[Purpleronnie]

Your ex-boyfriend’s friend “ sorta raped “ you and this is what you want to know. Whether your we will take you back?


Sorry , can’t take this question seriously at all… I’m out

[Anonymous]

please don't mess around with the "rape" word. that is more concerning than the question itself. trolling or not, this is not what a rape victim would be acting like or the question that would be running through their mind.

[dustybiker2]

Being light hearted about rape isn't right. Either he did or didn't and stick with it. Your rep tarnished from not rape and bad choices, maybe move?

[SugarSugarplum]

Revenge sex. Just don't. Be a better person than this.

[Peridot25]

I’m honestly confused. Your question says you screwed his friend, but you’re saying he sorta raped you. Which one is it? If he truly raped you, then you need to report him immediately.

[Nikki1989]

Exes are exes for a reason. Keep it that way.

[BTigers96]

Yes, there's a 99% chance of it. That's pretty much a guarantee.

[Billlewis]

Maybe, but he might find it very exciting, as well.

[Sevenpointfive]

to me i get the feeling you're playing down the rape because it was somewhat consensual?

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him the truth, that his friend raped you

[nawtee_me]

If he feels jealousy then he would take it out on the other guy. Coming back to you was never an option either way. The friend just got him some and now it is over…. Better to just move on…

[Makeushiver]

What an asshole. He sounds like an insecure chickens hit and I'd advise ignoring him.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Why people ever want their ex back is beyond me

YOU REALIZED YOU WERENT GOOD FOR EACH OTHER, MOVE THE FUCK ON

[FarmBoy13]

In most cases yes you ruined your chances. But if he is willing to listen you can try to explain to him the situation

[noohair]

A best friend would not do what he did. He is a pig. If it was rape, report it to the police.

[Sharkstealth]

Most girls I know fuck all the friends after break up.

[RyanK9b]

First of all its not rape if you enjoy or allowed it.
Second , ofc yes
What did u expect?

[valentina25]

You say he raped you but the title says you screwing him, you should tell this first

[Asker]

I was under the influence of alcohol and I don’t membernuch so I think it’s rape but I think think he’ll tell my ex that I screwed him so..

[valentina25]

I think there is something said for this but don't remember

[Anonymous]

If your ex-boyfriend finds out about it just ask him if he wants to do a threesome with this other guy. Maybe that'll help.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Did he actually rape you or not?

[HelpfulWoman]

if he did rape you, police.

[RavVid]

I think your chances are a snowflakes in hell.

[laly520]

u need to report to the cops

[DrPepper12]

You dont need GaG you need a cop

[Pterodon]

Sorta raped you? There is no sorta in court

[Fuentes]

Your ex is never coming back after this

[İronclaw_]

I think it would not be appropriate

[jahaims]

Lmfao trash

[In_Trance]

This is gnarly

[Anonymous]

He deserves better