Can you truly be friends with an ex you're screwing?

[Anonymous]

I'm currently about to have sex with an ex that I am friends with and just wondering if this is going to turn bad. We just broke up a few weeks ago.

We also both admitted to still being in love with each other.

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Update: you guys were right. It was a big mistake. I wish I never done it.

[Anonymous]

friends don't fuck each other. friends with benefits also just never works out. of course it will turn out bad! come on... why are you doing this? i can't think of any good reason why you'd be doing this.

[Opinion Owner]

i also think it's a bit odd that you two are just planning to have sex, instead of being like "hey, lets go to dinner and talk about our relationship". just... seems like someone is using someone for something.

[Asker]

We would have went out but the weather is super bad here, so we're just going to stay in. We plan to still talk about the relationship. But I'm not going to lie to say that there won't be sex. We always have sex when we see each other.

[Anonymous]

He's not an ex after a few weeks, it's an ongoing engagement if you still have sex.

Or it was never a relationship in the first place and you just hooked up every now and again.

[Wise4myage]

I say stick it out for as long as you feel its ok, but don't expect it to last long.

[Asker]

Why wouldn't it last long?

[Wise4myage]

Because he's already been an ex, right?

[Asker]

Yes... but we still love each other and I think have a good chance of getting back together in the future.

[Wise4myage]

Well I hope it works out for you. :)

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Sure, if you broke up on good terms. You can be Sexually Compatible, but not Emotionally Compatible.

[In_Trance]

It's already bad

[David4358]

why did you break up?

[Asker]

I did something. I don't want to go into specifics but it was bad enough that he broke up with me for it.

[David4358]

Hard to give advice without knowing what actually happened, I mean your anonymous so it's not like your secret will get out. Or you can pm if you want as well. But without knowing the reason for the breakup I have no idea if getting back together is a good idea or not

[Asker]

You would probably say it's not based on what I did. I broke his trust which is one of the worst things you can do in a relationship.

[Asker]

I'm ashamed for what I did and don't like talking about it.

[David4358]

Did you have sex with someone else?

[Asker]

No I didn't

[David4358]

worse then that or less?

[Asker]

About the same.

[David4358]

You - "I have a big problem i need help with can you give me advice"
me - "sure what the problem"
you - "i can't tell you"
me - " errr ok "

There is no way anyone can give you any meaningful advice without understanding what happened.

I might as well flip a coin heads you go back tails you dont..

it was tails

[Asker]

Well I'm sorry but it is too painful and shameful to tell.

[David4358]

I really don't care and have lost interest in helping you, it's like pulling teeth all to help..

If you are to immature to deal with the mistakes you have made them I'm going to say you're probably to immature to date anyway so my advice is to not go back with him

[Asker]

Well so be it then.