Are you still “friends” with an ex or someone you’ve hooked up with?

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Or have you ever wanted to do a friend? Some significant others have been a bit paranoid about their partners friendships with the opposite sex. In all honesty, did they have reason to worry? Did you used to be friends with benefits/bang buds?  I have never dated someone I friendzoned because I was truly not into them like that. But yea my friend guys wanted to screw me. They knew I’d pop em where the sun don’t shine if they even tried to touch me.  Can you honestly admit right here right now to having banged or having wanted to bang your “friends” (mostly of the opposite sex, but I guess same if you’re into that)? And have/would you ever admit that to a significant other? Or only if they asked? Or do you take it to the grave? #FeelFreeToList

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I remained friends with my first two girlfriends even after I got together with my third one.

I was 16 when I got together with my first one. I was with her and the next one for close to a year each. We all hung out with the same circle of friends and those two girls became friends and even became friends with my third girlfriend when I was with her. They were all really good people.

I eventually lost track of the second two, but I stayed in touch with the first one. She married one of my best friends several years later and they had two baby girls. I used to visit them a lot until they moved away.

I followed what they were up to for a while but lost communication. Years later, I connected with her through another mutual friend. She was still as wonderful as ever. We became Facebook friends and still are today. She's a happy grandma now.

A girlfriend I had when I was 36 was 30 when we met. Petra is the first woman I ever loved with my heart and soul, and she loved me. We lived together for over a year but, for reasons I can't explain, we couldn't be partners for life and we separated. It had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean and we still loved each other.

I met my future wife about three years after that.

About 20 years after we separated, Petra found me on Facebook and we even spoke on the phone a few times. She was living out of state. I was overjoyed to hear her voice, to be in contact, and to know that she was happy and pursuing her dreams.

Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was shattered. My wife saw me crying and I simply told her that a good friend had died.

She knew I had girlfriends in my life, but I never reminisced about them or went in to any details. She had been in previous relationships, too, but I never asked about them.

She knows that I'm FB friends with my first girlfriend. I never bothered mentioning contact with Petra because it wasn't important information.
I never told her that I still love Petra and will never forget her, either. There is no reason to tell her. It's in the past. Even if Petra was still alive, it wouldn't be possible to reengage in romance with her. I'm loyal to my wonderful wife. And the fact that I will always love Petra doesn't detract from how much I love my wife.

So I did remain friends with a couple of exes. Nothing wrong with that.

Fabiloso · Accepted Answer

I'd rather die than cheat someone I loved so like I'd make myself cut it off officially before any other moves would be made. Dont even see it in myself to flirt elsewhere. And I'd only think of making other moves if the current relationship seemed like it was fading anyway. I couldn't be in it for just the meat of it, it'd be in for that possible whole meal and that same damn good food forever. But I'm rarely good with "vibing" so I imagine there's cracks in any relationship I have that could form. As in places where I know other dudes get it right, they got that rizz as kids say. I have rizz in spurts I think, still workin at it.

And as for doing my friends lol (the very few women ones), I mean it's not something I'd be fully apposed to, but definitely hesitant just from the worry of things changing too much after between us or it becoming a reoccurring thing without the romantic side and just gets too complicated for me and looks kinda stupid. doesn't matter the history we may have really to me. there's a few mental checks I'd make about them first before continuing any sexual acts. Dont F crazy as they say. And like I dont want my actions to hurt them mentally or physically, like I dont want them hurt if I kinda halfway leaned in and pivoted. I'd make sure if we were doin this, that it's happening. Cuz I'd try to be careful of feeling even if it was just a hookup scenerio. Also I couldn't intercourse a friend I dont think. Just to clearify that wasn't in my "to do" list there.

I'd have platonic relationships just fine though if I wanted it enough. To hang out with a girl and not have to think about flirting and whatever would be a decent change I'd say. I'm much better at being platonic I think than flirting anyway though which isn't exactly the case for someone like yourself in that area it seems. Nothin wrong with it, just a difference I notice in our social approach.

I think I answered your question somewhere in there lol

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

I'm trying to be friends with one of my exes. My latest ex and first exgf.

But unfortunately I think she's really not in a space where she can be friends with me.

Part of why I broke up was because she was just never able to engage in the relationship despite saying she wanted it. She kept trying to run away, so I finally let her go.

Maybe in a year or two she'll reach out, but I'm ok not being friends if it's easier for her.

While we have a lot of common interests, she is... Not as involved or intense in life as I am. Even as friends I don't think she'll be "on the level" I'm looking for to build myself up.

The friends I keep are people who challenge ourselves and each other. My ex seems too easily overwhelmed for that to be her speed.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Oh never. I’m too much of a spinning top. I always gotta go one way or the other and then lean in that direction lol

so if it’s going positive I wanna be with them like because why not? right? 😂

and then if it goes sour- which it usually does- I ghost/avoid them and all the above lol.

I never had anyone I could stay ‘just chill’ with. It sounds nice in theory, but I never mastered it lol.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not close friends but just acquaintances with some , If I am in a committed relationship with a girl , out of respect for our relationship I distance myself from my exes period , out of respect , If you truly love someone and like someone you shouldn’t bring unwanted fire into the relationship period , your exes are exes for a reason , exempt them out of your life if you want your partner to feel safe and secure with you and make it easier for them to trust you More than likely your partner will do the same. Just because you think something is innocent and you think you aren’t going to do something stupid you should always consider how your partner might feel about it as well, just don’t assume things are ok and make it about yourself. So many relationships fail because most people in general just think about themselves , they do what they feel is best for them leaving their partner feeling like they don’t matter , that you are just conveniently with them. You should always wear your partner’s shoes before Mike decisions , things won’t always be perfect but when you show respect in the relationship it makes it easier for your partner to respect and trust you. Love only grows when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and realizing you are both a team , you are no longer single period , If you can’t do that for your partner then you truly don’t value them you only value yourself

EricSummer · Answer

I'm still in contact with my ex wife as we are co-parenting our two teenagers one of which will be an adult this year. We are not "friends", though.

I have no contact to any of my previous girlfriends from before the marriage.

My current girlfriend is in regular contact with two of her exes, though. She considers them as friends. Anyway, while I know both of them would be with her if they could, I completely trust her. In fact, her friendzone is extremely solid and, like me, she cannot really have more than one partner at a time.

ohsheeT · Answer

I have a lot of friends that I wanted to
b a n g .

The thing is if you really know the person well her track record then you know it's just a matter of time and.

TADA
Your split up someone hate the other one. And it's just not worth it
I've had 4 friends like that. And I passed. I'm still really good friends with 3 of them don't know where the 4th one is sometimes when you weight it out pussy or friends. Pussy should always win. .. and then your good friends you don't see any more
No a couple of them and I we've talked about it before and we all agreed that we did the right things

BCRanger10 · Answer

No. My high school girlfriend and I were able to become, I guess we could say, "friends" some time after we broke up. We haven't talked for a while, but we didn't choose to stop talking. We just stopped talking.

The girl who, in a certain sense, was one of the reasons why I came to G@G to begin with? I choose not to speak to her. She was a certified manipulative drama queen. She had some bad relationships and I was sorry that she did, but I was a doormat and an emotional punching bag for her. I allowed myself to be. She sent me a friend request on Facebook some years ago. I ignored and eventually deleted it.

PartyHostSebastian · Answer

Because of the town I personally came out with no intention on sticking around because of the towns climate and maybe I got those happy easily looked up Google stereotypes by country (I'm we'll better off now by the way) and had to grow through multi-level-stigmatatizations off being cut off with an American so 'early-in-nightlife/dancehall) but still had so many options which were in pure fact made available because of them and was exploited during the warm weather months at the expense of procured or displayed newer hip-hop or dancehall talent at the risk of war through the gulf-war & other stemming then outlawed sex clinics because of the risks associated with sociopathy from both sides of the desk and yes as a result of expert opinion human resources may have to be consulted for comedic content.. hey there's always another memorial day through July 4th to start it over again 🎰 linktr. ee/wsac24

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Nope. All my previous partners are from high school and I haven’t spoken to them since then. But back then I did remain friends with a few exes/hook ups for a while.

do I have friends that I would fuck if I was single? yes lol. My friend Jared. He’s super cute. If I was single when we met then I think we definitely would have hooked up.
if I hypothetically became single, I still wouldn’t hook up with him at this point. We’re close friends and I wouldn’t want to ruin the friendship.
And no I would never tell me husband that lol. He already doesn’t like me hanging out with me cause he thinks he’s a bad influence. If he knew that I thinks he’s fuckable, he would not be happy

iron_ninjs · Answer

I'm not friends with none of my exes, but I stayed friends with a girl I hooked up a few times. Although, friends is stretch, more like an person I'm on friendly/good terms with, but I don't hang out with.
Concerning the " would you bang your friend" question. There were a few female friends, before, that I probably wanted to have sex with. But I think there were only 2, mostly 3. In the end I realized it wasn't gonna happen, and I gave up in the idea, and we became even better friends after that.

billmunch · Answer

Yes, seven years into a relationship, my SO started seeing a guy on the side. It eventually got serious, so she moved in with him, but kept me as her side guy. This went on for a couple of years until their relationship ended, so she came back to me. He moved away, but they still keep in contact. They go away on vaction once a year but that's about it. So, he's back to being the side guy. I know it sounds weird and the most other guys would have left, but not me. I won't leave a woman if she sees other guys on the side so long as she's good to me and doesn't get pregnant by the other guy, especially if we have a few years sunk into the relationship.

AlexEfron · Answer

"I’d pop em where the sun don’t shine if they even tried to touch me"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I dated my best friend. We moved to different cities and decided to break things off. But I did want to stay friends. It was bad after that. So bad that we stopped talking. It did affect me a lot. I've never really had any friend stay. I'm 24 and I still don't have a single person in my life who has stayed friends with me. Anyways, she started talking to me a few days back. Asking if we can still remain friends. 🙂 That's what I had asked for before you ruined the friendship.

We'll see how things progress. I don't hold grudges or have ill feelings towards her. But I am very much disturbed after all that happened. So I don't know if I can still be friends with her or not.

RobT312 · Answer

No it typically doesn’t work out, but I had it work out just once. I remained friends with girlfriend in college (my first and her first) . We were in similar friend circles, we shared a bond and the breakup was mutual and friendly. We used to meet for coffee and catch up, but now in other cities. We do still send birthday and holiday wishes to each other. She is married now, I’m engaged, it all worked out fine

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I have not viewed his profile in around 5 years but I think we are still mutual friends online and I still have his email address since every one in my school has a university address that matches their needs. I don't hate him and I do not believe he has any ill will towards me as a person or girlfriend either.

kylee2437 · Answer

I tried being friends with a guy that I hooked up with in the past and then he asked me to have sex , once I rejected him, he said “yeah I just see you more as a friend” so like? If you see me as a friend , why did you ask to hook up? Ever since then I’ve realized friendships between me and men don’t mix

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

My wife's best friend is actually one of my exes (she already knew that when we started dating since we were all part of the same friend group). But she is married now and her husband is also our good friend. It was also very short-lived relationship; we were only together for months, not years. We have been friends the entire time although I wasn't as close of a friend to her after we broke up, but it was easier to become closer friends again once she married.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Friends with a few exes. My first boyfriend is a part of my wider friends group so we still hang out and chat sometimes. Girl I dated is also a part of the group, so same thing. And someone I dated when I was 19 is one of my best friends and we talk almost daily.

DJB72 · Answer

I'm friends with my first girlfriend but after we split we had no contact for about 15 years.

Every guy has at least one "platonic" friendship they wish either they could jump or would jump them. Most of us have several. It's part of being human in a very screwed up world

RavVid · Answer

Yeah I have a platonic relationship with an ex. It isn't difficult as they were difficult and I have no desire to go back there. Nonetheless I still retain some protective feelings for her and she is a girl that needs a man to tell her what to do and I seem to still be it for the mo.

matchrestore · Answer

I'm friends with an ex but have no interest in her sexually anymore. My wife also has become good friends with her and we've even gone camping for a week with her and her wife, and she's babysat our 5 year old many times over the past few years.

ariadneR · Answer

Maybe my hs boyfriend if I saw him again.

One night stands, situationships, flings I'd probably just walk right on by them, wouldn't even remember.

I've only had 4 major relationships, including my current one. My highschool boyfriend, the guy I dated in my early 20s, but he's passed already and my dickhead ex, and he can have his asshole sewed shut and keep eating for all I care

Spade_01 · Answer

No, never. I am convinced that one can't be just 'simply friends' with an ex. Either one of the two parties involved is always prone to catching feelings back and might not even lose it in the first place. It can ruin your future as well.

My ex wanted to be friends with but I refused politely. It's something I'd never do. An ex has no role in your present life.

Pink2000 · Answer

Yes. So I've hooked up with a guy. He was my only hookup. He hits me up every now and then and we talk. I’m cool with him. Now with my ex boyfriend that beat my ass I am still friends with him eventhough I shouldn’t be. Trying to work on that.

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