Are you still “friends” with an ex or someone you’ve hooked up with?

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Or have you ever wanted to do a friend? Some significant others have been a bit paranoid about their partners friendships with the opposite sex. In all honesty, did they have reason to worry? Did you used to be friends with benefits/bang buds?  I have never dated someone I friendzoned because I was truly not into them like that. But yea my friend guys wanted to screw me. They knew I’d pop em where the sun don’t shine if they even tried to touch me.  Can you honestly admit right here right now to having banged or having wanted to bang your “friends” (mostly of the opposite sex, but I guess same if you’re into that)? And have/would you ever admit that to a significant other? Or only if they asked? Or do you take it to the grave? #FeelFreeToList

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I remained friends with my first two girlfriends even after I got together with my third one.

I was 16 when I got together with my first one. I was with her and the next one for close to a year each. We all hung out with the same circle of friends and those two girls became friends and even became friends with my third girlfriend when I was with her. They were all really good people.

I eventually lost track of the second two, but I stayed in touch with the first one. She married one of my best friends several years later and they had two baby girls. I used to visit them a lot until they moved away.

I followed what they were up to for a while but lost communication. Years later, I connected with her through another mutual friend. She was still as wonderful as ever. We became Facebook friends and still are today. She's a happy grandma now.

A girlfriend I had when I was 36 was 30 when we met. Petra is the first woman I ever loved with my heart and soul, and she loved me. We lived together for over a year but, for reasons I can't explain, we couldn't be partners for life and we separated. It had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean and we still loved each other.

I met my future wife about three years after that.

About 20 years after we separated, Petra found me on Facebook and we even spoke on the phone a few times. She was living out of state. I was overjoyed to hear her voice, to be in contact, and to know that she was happy and pursuing her dreams.

Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was shattered. My wife saw me crying and I simply told her that a good friend had died.

She knew I had girlfriends in my life, but I never reminisced about them or went in to any details. She had been in previous relationships, too, but I never asked about them.

She knows that I'm FB friends with my first girlfriend. I never bothered mentioning contact with Petra because it wasn't important information.
I never told her that I still love Petra and will never forget her, either. There is no reason to tell her. It's in the past. Even if Petra was still alive, it wouldn't be possible to reengage in romance with her. I'm loyal to my wonderful wife. And the fact that I will always love Petra doesn't detract from how much I love my wife.

So I did remain friends with a couple of exes. Nothing wrong with that.

Fabiloso · Accepted Answer

I'd rather die than cheat someone I loved so like I'd make myself cut it off officially before any other moves would be made. Dont even see it in myself to flirt elsewhere. And I'd only think of making other moves if the current relationship seemed like it was fading anyway. I couldn't be in it for just the meat of it, it'd be in for that possible whole meal and that same damn good food forever. But I'm rarely good with "vibing" so I imagine there's cracks in any relationship I have that could form. As in places where I know other dudes get it right, they got that rizz as kids say. I have rizz in spurts I think, still workin at it.

And as for doing my friends lol (the very few women ones), I mean it's not something I'd be fully apposed to, but definitely hesitant just from the worry of things changing too much after between us or it becoming a reoccurring thing without the romantic side and just gets too complicated for me and looks kinda stupid. doesn't matter the history we may have really to me. there's a few mental checks I'd make about them first before continuing any sexual acts. Dont F crazy as they say. And like I dont want my actions to hurt them mentally or physically, like I dont want them hurt if I kinda halfway leaned in and pivoted. I'd make sure if we were doin this, that it's happening. Cuz I'd try to be careful of feeling even if it was just a hookup scenerio. Also I couldn't intercourse a friend I dont think. Just to clearify that wasn't in my "to do" list there.

I'd have platonic relationships just fine though if I wanted it enough. To hang out with a girl and not have to think about flirting and whatever would be a decent change I'd say. I'm much better at being platonic I think than flirting anyway though which isn't exactly the case for someone like yourself in that area it seems. Nothin wrong with it, just a difference I notice in our social approach.

I think I answered your question somewhere in there lol

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

I'm trying to be friends with one of my exes. My latest ex and first exgf.

But unfortunately I think she's really not in a space where she can be friends with me.

Part of why I broke up was because she was just never able to engage in the relationship despite saying she wanted it. She kept trying to run away, so I finally let her go.

Maybe in a year or two she'll reach out, but I'm ok not being friends if it's easier for her.

While we have a lot of common interests, she is... Not as involved or intense in life as I am. Even as friends I don't think she'll be "on the level" I'm looking for to build myself up.

The friends I keep are people who challenge ourselves and each other. My ex seems too easily overwhelmed for that to be her speed.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Oh never. I’m too much of a spinning top. I always gotta go one way or the other and then lean in that direction lol

so if it’s going positive I wanna be with them like because why not? right? 😂

and then if it goes sour- which it usually does- I ghost/avoid them and all the above lol.

I never had anyone I could stay ‘just chill’ with. It sounds nice in theory, but I never mastered it lol.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not close friends but just acquaintances with some , If I am in a committed relationship with a girl , out of respect for our relationship I distance myself from my exes period , out of respect , If you truly love someone and like someone you shouldn’t bring unwanted fire into the relationship period , your exes are exes for a reason , exempt them out of your life if you want your partner to feel safe and secure with you and make it easier for them to trust you More than likely your partner will do the same. Just because you think something is innocent and you think you aren’t going to do something stupid you should always consider how your partner might feel about it as well, just don’t assume things are ok and make it about yourself. So many relationships fail because most people in general just think about themselves , they do what they feel is best for them leaving their partner feeling like they don’t matter , that you are just conveniently with them. You should always wear your partner’s shoes before Mike decisions , things won’t always be perfect but when you show respect in the relationship it makes it easier for your partner to respect and trust you. Love only grows when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and realizing you are both a team , you are no longer single period , If you can’t do that for your partner then you truly don’t value them you only value yourself

EricSummer · Answer

I'm still in contact with my ex wife as we are co-parenting our two teenagers one of which will be an adult this year. We are not "friends", though.

I have no contact to any of my previous girlfriends from before the marriage.

My current girlfriend is in regular contact with two of her exes, though. She considers them as friends. Anyway, while I know both of them would be with her if they could, I completely trust her. In fact, her friendzone is extremely solid and, like me, she cannot really have more than one partner at a time.

ohsheeT · Answer

I have a lot of friends that I wanted to
b a n g .

The thing is if you really know the person well her track record then you know it's just a matter of time and.

TADA
Your split up someone hate the other one. And it's just not worth it
I've had 4 friends like that. And I passed. I'm still really good friends with 3 of them don't know where the 4th one is sometimes when you weight it out pussy or friends. Pussy should always win. .. and then your good friends you don't see any more
No a couple of them and I we've talked about it before and we all agreed that we did the right things

BCRanger10 · Answer

No. My high school girlfriend and I were able to become, I guess we could say, "friends" some time after we broke up. We haven't talked for a while, but we didn't choose to stop talking. We just stopped talking.

The girl who, in a certain sense, was one of the reasons why I came to G@G to begin with? I choose not to speak to her. She was a certified manipulative drama queen. She had some bad relationships and I was sorry that she did, but I was a doormat and an emotional punching bag for her. I allowed myself to be. She sent me a friend request on Facebook some years ago. I ignored and eventually deleted it.

PartyHostSebastian · Answer

Because of the town I personally came out with no intention on sticking around because of the towns climate and maybe I got those happy easily looked up Google stereotypes by country (I'm we'll better off now by the way) and had to grow through multi-level-stigmatatizations off being cut off with an American so 'early-in-nightlife/dancehall) but still had so many options which were in pure fact made available because of them and was exploited during the warm weather months at the expense of procured or displayed newer hip-hop or dancehall talent at the risk of war through the gulf-war & other stemming then outlawed sex clinics because of the risks associated with sociopathy from both sides of the desk and yes as a result of expert opinion human resources may have to be consulted for comedic content.. hey there's always another memorial day through July 4th to start it over again 🎰 linktr. ee/wsac24

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Nope. All my previous partners are from high school and I haven’t spoken to them since then. But back then I did remain friends with a few exes/hook ups for a while.

do I have friends that I would fuck if I was single? yes lol. My friend Jared. He’s super cute. If I was single when we met then I think we definitely would have hooked up.
if I hypothetically became single, I still wouldn’t hook up with him at this point. We’re close friends and I wouldn’t want to ruin the friendship.
And no I would never tell me husband that lol. He already doesn’t like me hanging out with me cause he thinks he’s a bad influence. If he knew that I thinks he’s fuckable, he would not be happy

iron_ninjs · Answer

I'm not friends with none of my exes, but I stayed friends with a girl I hooked up a few times. Although, friends is stretch, more like an person I'm on friendly/good terms with, but I don't hang out with.
Concerning the " would you bang your friend" question. There were a few female friends, before, that I probably wanted to have sex with. But I think there were only 2, mostly 3. In the end I realized it wasn't gonna happen, and I gave up in the idea, and we became even better friends after that.

billmunch · Answer

Yes, seven years into a relationship, my SO started seeing a guy on the side. It eventually got serious, so she moved in with him, but kept me as her side guy. This went on for a couple of years until their relationship ended, so she came back to me. He moved away, but they still keep in contact. They go away on vaction once a year but that's about it. So, he's back to being the side guy. I know it sounds weird and the most other guys would have left, but not me. I won't leave a woman if she sees other guys on the side so long as she's good to me and doesn't get pregnant by the other guy, especially if we have a few years sunk into the relationship.

AlexEfron · Answer

"I’d pop em where the sun don’t shine if they even tried to touch me"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I dated my best friend. We moved to different cities and decided to break things off. But I did want to stay friends. It was bad after that. So bad that we stopped talking. It did affect me a lot. I've never really had any friend stay. I'm 24 and I still don't have a single person in my life who has stayed friends with me. Anyways, she started talking to me a few days back. Asking if we can still remain friends. 🙂 That's what I had asked for before you ruined the friendship.

We'll see how things progress. I don't hold grudges or have ill feelings towards her. But I am very much disturbed after all that happened. So I don't know if I can still be friends with her or not.

RobT312 · Answer

No it typically doesn’t work out, but I had it work out just once. I remained friends with girlfriend in college (my first and her first) . We were in similar friend circles, we shared a bond and the breakup was mutual and friendly. We used to meet for coffee and catch up, but now in other cities. We do still send birthday and holiday wishes to each other. She is married now, I’m engaged, it all worked out fine

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I have not viewed his profile in around 5 years but I think we are still mutual friends online and I still have his email address since every one in my school has a university address that matches their needs. I don't hate him and I do not believe he has any ill will towards me as a person or girlfriend either.

kylee2437 · Answer

I tried being friends with a guy that I hooked up with in the past and then he asked me to have sex , once I rejected him, he said “yeah I just see you more as a friend” so like? If you see me as a friend , why did you ask to hook up? Ever since then I’ve realized friendships between me and men don’t mix

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

My wife's best friend is actually one of my exes (she already knew that when we started dating since we were all part of the same friend group). But she is married now and her husband is also our good friend. It was also very short-lived relationship; we were only together for months, not years. We have been friends the entire time although I wasn't as close of a friend to her after we broke up, but it was easier to become closer friends again once she married.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Friends with a few exes. My first boyfriend is a part of my wider friends group so we still hang out and chat sometimes. Girl I dated is also a part of the group, so same thing. And someone I dated when I was 19 is one of my best friends and we talk almost daily.

RavVid · Answer

Yeah I have a platonic relationship with an ex. It isn't difficult as they were difficult and I have no desire to go back there. Nonetheless I still retain some protective feelings for her and she is a girl that needs a man to tell her what to do and I seem to still be it for the mo.

DJB72 · Answer

I'm friends with my first girlfriend but after we split we had no contact for about 15 years.

Every guy has at least one "platonic" friendship they wish either they could jump or would jump them. Most of us have several. It's part of being human in a very screwed up world

matchrestore · Answer

I'm friends with an ex but have no interest in her sexually anymore. My wife also has become good friends with her and we've even gone camping for a week with her and her wife, and she's babysat our 5 year old many times over the past few years.

ariadneR · Answer

Maybe my hs boyfriend if I saw him again.

One night stands, situationships, flings I'd probably just walk right on by them, wouldn't even remember.

I've only had 4 major relationships, including my current one. My highschool boyfriend, the guy I dated in my early 20s, but he's passed already and my dickhead ex, and he can have his asshole sewed shut and keep eating for all I care

Pink2000 · Answer

Yes. So I've hooked up with a guy. He was my only hookup. He hits me up every now and then and we talk. I’m cool with him. Now with my ex boyfriend that beat my ass I am still friends with him eventhough I shouldn’t be. Trying to work on that.

Spade_01 · Answer

No, never. I am convinced that one can't be just 'simply friends' with an ex. Either one of the two parties involved is always prone to catching feelings back and might not even lose it in the first place. It can ruin your future as well.

My ex wanted to be friends with but I refused politely. It's something I'd never do. An ex has no role in your present life.

SunnyRS · Answer

Absolutely not, I can never be friends with them cause my feelings are still there for them, so I just block them out.
As for hooking up I haven't hooked up with someone who is not my as ex (before they were my ex to be clear😅😅) so the above answer applies.
And friends? I don't have many and I just don't get that feeling of making there knees weak so I don't go for them.

nawtee_me · Answer

This past weekend I spent it with my ex-wife and her husband along with my step daughter and step grandson. My son who lives with me was also there. It was spent fishing on a lake in Arkansas. We all had a good time. we chose to stay friends after the divorce.

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I am! The very first guy I ever had any sexual relations with has been a friend all these years, although he now lives quite a distance away I only see him once or twice a year as he visits his family.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Yes. I am still in touch with my first boyfriend on and off. I met him when I was 15 so it is hard to get unattached. I don’t want to get back with him but I also don’t want to lose contact with him forever. 😩

lilyanony1 · Answer

I hooked up with someone. And after a brief pause after the encounter we became friends.
I think our friendship will slow down now he and his partner have had a baby which for me is a shame but that's life

coachTanthony · Answer

No. Do I have some in my phone in case I want a bootie call sure but friends... NO lol

Lauliss · Answer

I only have online exes (I've never dated in real life) and never had sex. And no, I'm not friends with my online ex because I still have feelings for him. Can't be friends with someone I have feelings for.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, Friends With My EX, We Have Been Friends Our Whole Lives… She And My Wife Became Friends When We Started Dating, My Ex Goes Out With Us Often, They Have Girls Night Out… My Wife Invited Her To Our Wedding… Both My Wife And EX Strongly Believe That Breakups Should Not Cause Two People To Become Enemies, You Started Off As Friends, Found Love, Decided To Breakup, Both Should Remain Friends…

sheikalana · Answer

Not friends. I'm follow to exes each other on social media. We don't talk to each other but we might occasionally comment on each other's stories but I wouldn't consider it a friendship.

TrueConfection · Answer

No. We stayed friends for a while after we split, but I ended all communication with him when I my husband and I were dating.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

I do with a few but it's not close friendship. We know where to draw the line. Certain exes are linked to you in certain circles for example.

Anpu23 · Answer

Yes I am still friends with a few of my ex's. And yes, in the past there have been a friend or two that I wouldn't have minded. Ad yes my wife knows. We don't have secrets like that.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

No, I am civil with them, but not their friend. Hard to be a friend when the dynamic centered around intimacy and banging.

kellytheman · Answer

Yes I am and sometimes we have had sex just to blow of steam or relieve some stress. I don't have sex with them right now cause I am in a relationship but I have had a threesome with my girl and one of my ex girlfriends recently.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

We don't dislike eachother, but we don't really talk anymore either. Just grown apart.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I have become friends with girls that I used to have a crush on. But generally the attraction ends at that point. I've moved on completely, so I genuinely don't feel that way about them anymore.

worldscolide · Answer

Just one. She was my friend since kindergarten, and we chose to date. It lasted literally 1 month, and we chose to reverse course. Out of the 7 ex's I have, she's the only one I still speak to.

Twalli · Answer

I won't date anyone who isn't a friend first. Yet all my friendships didn't come from me being attracted towards them. So most of my friendships are platonic because I don't care how attractive a girl is when I decide to be her friend.

Gochogirl · Answer

Me and my partners have fully admitted we wouldn't hesitate to bang our exes haha but that's also something we're into so... no harm no foul lol

mandyfire98 · Answer

I am friends with a couple of people I've dated or hooked up with in the past.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Except for one ex, I still maintained friendships with the rest.

electromagnetic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely not.  that’s not a thing I can understand.

PointTaken · Answer

I'm still friends with my last ex. Nothing wrong with it. I'm so hoping she finds another guy. There's one friend I have (a woman) that I so want to fuck badly. Trying to keep it down.

sheenagwapa · Answer

for sure they already bqnged and bj and all of that

ElvenMr · Answer

It's good to have friends from the opposite sex. If you get along with them without sexual stuff, then you have a cool friend. And if things turn into something more that's also cool.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I reached out to a girl I was in an ldr with in the past but I can’t say that we remained friends. I would never have sex with someone who is a friend

Jerre · Answer

Yes, I am still friends with my friends with benefits. WE DATE, go to beach, out to dinner, clubbing. They are some of my best friends and will help them anyway I can.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am good friends with all my exes except one.

Kathy1983 · Answer

Kinda weird they seen Me naked I don’t let anyone to see me that way unless your my doctor and wax lady.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Yeah I'm still friends with them. However I just away from them cuz shit happens. It's happened before.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Only one woman. We dated in high school. She used to live next door to me. We are still friends today

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope because once you cross that line you can't go backwards. There'll always be expectations and those kind of expectations I can't fulfill. So it's better to go our separate ways.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Yes, and no, not really there’s no point of contacting that person, especially if it was never really built on a friendship anyway

Goofy9009 · Answer

Yes , I am still friends with my very first ex girlfriend.

MysticDevice · Answer

Still friends with someone I hooked up with. And yes, its a little weird and tricky lol

Hardworkingguy · Answer

No I am not still friends with my ex-girlfriend we talked for the last time more than 3 years ago

msc545 · Answer

My female friends are friends for a reason. If I was into them sexually, I would be sleeping with them - I'm not.

Anonymous · Answer

I have had sex with many of my guy friends. I think that’s part of being close and intimate. Only when they’re between relationships.

justabuddy · Answer

Ooof... I am friends with an ex. It wasn't always that way tho. It took a bit of maturity. I manage it by putting people behind boundaries. Friendship is one boundary, relationship another.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. Why would I ignore someone whom I enjoy just because the romantic spark was not there?

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