Going through a break up whilst in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

So I know I’m going 2 gt lots of hate, honestly don’t waste your tym I’ve neva been the type to care wht others think so unless it’s helpful 2 my recovery I won’t be acknowledging. I’m currently in a 15 year marriage& have recently ended a 8 year affair. i don’t feel bad for what I took part in, I know it was wrong but I don’t regret a second of it, I love my affair partner and I always will. We have a long history & I have known him since I was a young teenager. Yes I know I took vouls, but I’m not religious anyway and I was just young and dumb, and gettin married seemed the thing to do. I don’t have much respect for my husband, & I long for the day he finds out all, becus he has put me through hell. The beginning years of our marriage I was the perfect girlfriend, I never so much as kissed another man before him but he took me for granted and was unappreciative over and over, I feel I was pushed to find comfort in another man and I will never apologise for the good I found in someone else. My husband was previously violent and aggressive, and I was scared to leave. He stopped the drugs he was addicted too 2 years ago and hasn’t been violent since,& his temper has almost disappeared. He’s now everything I ever wanted,& so have packed in my other rship. I won’t wish away what I took part in, as I stayed in a relationship I should have walked away from. I am 8 weeks into no contact and I physically hurt. It’s the longest I’ve ever gone without speaking with him for 8 years, I’m miserable without him, I have no appetite, I can’t sleep, I can’t focus on work, I have 0 sex drive, every thought it of him. Frm first thing in the mornin until the last thought before bed. I love him, and he loves me bt we will never be 2gva, before those comments come. Has anyone been in this situation before? How long roughly until I can feel some sense of peace without him. Currently it’s torture, and I’m not sure how much longer I can stop myself reaching out.

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation in my last relationship. I was in a relationship but I fell for someone else and had a 1 yr affair. I wished that my ex would find out so that he’ll finally agree to break up, I’ve asked to break up multiple times but he refused. Eventually, I decided to end it with my other man bcs his girlfriend at the time found out about us. He still reached out to me but I told him that I had to walk away. It was painful. I cried a lot and I had to hide it from my ex. I had to grief in secret. My ex and I ended up breaking up and it gave me a lot of relief. I can’t really give you any advice on how to move on from this but all I can say is that you just have to ride out the pain. You’ve made your bed so now you gotta lie on it.

[Asker]

That’s similar. In the past I have begging him to leave me, I have told him I don’t love him, and I’m not happy but he has always said whether I like it or not I have to stay with him, and he’d kill me if I ever left. He’s been the best he’s been the past year or so so it’s been a pleasant relationship but I have put up with a lot of shit I should have walked away from, and if it was possible I would have ended the relationship years ago.

[Opinion Owner]

In my case tho, I’m glad that my ex broke up with me. I don’t think I could’ve stayed with him knowing that I cheated. I had to deal with both the grief of losing my “lover” and the guilt of cheating on my ex. It only got better after months of heart break. But in your case, you had an 8 yr long affair, I don't know how long it’s gonna take you to heal but I know that at least coming clean to your partner will help you heal

[kylee2437]

Your grammar is diabolical for someone that is in their 30s. What the hell is going on?

[Asker]

Clearly I have shortened words so I can fit as much as possible, isn’t that hard to work out surely?

[melnc]

Why did you do all that?
Wasn't there a decent way to handle things?

[Anonymous]

What is that picture for?

[Asker]

It told me to post a photo before I unloaded so I just clicked my most recent, it’s not related to anything

[jahaims]

Trash. You deserve nothing

[DannyUk2017]

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