“Is It Toxic to Express Pain especially when you express to someone that you love?

[Anonymous]

I dated a girl for almost three months. We saw each other daily, exchanged texts, laughed, dined out, and she often stayed over at my place. I developed deep feelings and fell in love, which she knew.

Initially, my honesty about my feelings annoyed her, and she hurt me so bad at first but she later came back, and I gave her a second chance. I was deeply in love she held my hand, kissed me, and told me she had feelings for me. She even said, “You know that I love you, right?”

However after one week she suddenly said she wasn’t sure about if she wants to be with me! and needed space. I respected her request and agreed to wait for her, believing in second chances. Despite this, she continued to visit and stay over. One day, she said she needed to stop talking because her mind was “fried” and left. I was heartbroken and texted her, expressing my pain.

Her response was blunt: “What I chose to do is what I want. If I don’t want to talk or be together, I don’t want to.” I asked why she had expressed feelings if unsure about me. She replied, “You clearly don’t live in the same reality. If you don’t stop texting, I’ll block you.”

I was devastated and cried my eyes out I tried to explain my pain, but she called my reactions “childish” and said I was “toxic.” And she even said that I need help and I’m mentally unstable, She blocked me, leaving me confused and hurt. I wonder if expressing pain is truly toxic. the situation still doesn’t make sense. She hurt me so bad why do we have to go through this? I have so much pain and it’s literally killing me. I understand that I have to move on but I mean what the actual F!

[melnc]

If I were you, I wouldn't exhaust myself with overthinking. Let her go. Even if both of you decide to come back, that relationship won't last long. Move forward with grace and self respect.