Do you still have ex's that have an emotional effect on you?

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I haven't seen this girl in like 2 years probably. I used to see her driving around here and there. Well wouldn't you know it there she is pulling up at the same gas station as me. She was like one whole section of pumps over. Not right next to me. Guess she had a baby, was almost weak at the knees when I saw that. Amazing how some people can have such an effect on you. Most women I couldn't care less about, but it's probably been 4 years now and there she is still driving the same car and everything. I assumed she got a different car which was why I stopped noticing her. Anyways, I didn't bother saying anything to her and I'm not even sure she realized I was there. I'm sure she did though, she's very detail oriented. Most of the girls I seem to find to date should either belong in a mental institution or are total narcissists. Still to this day I'm upset by how things turned out, but obviously I carry on and worry about other things.

It's just sad how they just show up in your life one day, then when you least expect it they're gone as if they never existed. Anyways, my over excitement for her seemed to have gotten misconstrued as possessiveness, I guess. It's not until now that a couple mutual friends of hers are coming back around and I just make sure I keep my mouth shut about her. That whole possessiveness comment that was made was why I didn't walk over and say hi. She's welcome to come over and say hi to me, but sometimes it's just best to leave sleeping dogs lie for lack of a better word. It's just amazing how it's deja vu all over again, but hey that's life. I honestly hadn't thought about her for a long time until she showed up yesterday. Honestly as sad as it is that they do disappear out of your life, sometimes that's the best thing because it doesn't do you much good when they pop back up like that and you have those feelings all over again.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I had long term girlfriends from the time I was 16 and have fond memories of all but one.

I got together with that one when I was 34 and she was 31. I had actually known her in my mid teens and had a crush on her, but she was too young at the time. She was stunningly gorgeous.
We lost touch and I heard that she had gotten married and had kids.
One day, she contacted me out of the blue and said she was nearing the end of divorce proceedings with her husband.
Long story short, she came by. She was more gorgeous than ever and we hit it off. She had a crush on me back in the day, too.
Because she lived so far away, she suggested renting a house together. We lived together for almost a year.
That relationship ended very badly. She moved all her stuff out one day while I was at work and also owed me a lot of money.
I never want to hear about her ever again.

Then I met a 30 year old when I was 36. We wound up living together at her place for almost two years even though I still had an apartment.
I still think of her as my physical ideal, and I loved everything else about her. She is the first woman I ever loved with my heart and soul.
We eventually separated because we couldn't have made it as life-long partners. I can't explain why. It's too complicated but we still loved each other.
I felt like I was going to die without her. I have never experienced such pain in my life. It took me over a year to pull myself together.
She moved to another state.
About 18 years later, she found me on Facebook and we spoke on the phone a few times. Her voice made me melt. I was overjoyed to know what she was up to, and to know that she was happy.
Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was devastated.
I still love her so deeply that it hurts. I think about her a lot and will never forget her.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

Not bragging but... I'm going on 73 and in those since age 16, I've been blessed with the intimate companionship of 43 women. And... there are but three... whose memory s STILL 'rock mah world'. (TWO of those go back 30+ years) even today! <3 ;)

Style, passion & allure~ (Hopefully I'm also remembered as fondly!)

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Yes, after 3 years relationship my ex cheated on me. And he even physically abused me.

After a year broke up with him i I realized he got me too much trauma when i saw him walking passed me, i was on the car smoking with my boyfriend’s who is standing on the sidewalk. When i saw my ex behind my boyfriend’s friend i was freezing, my heart beating very fast Lol

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

Yes, in a good way. I will always carry him in my heart and I am a better person for having known him.

DishLady · Answer

Great question. That's classified information.

bobalife · Answer

Yes, I think there’s still something we are holding onto about them from that relationship, not completely over them or the situation, or still grieving. Your prompt sounded like the saying “so close yet so far” and I felt it. It’s always hard when a relationship ended and now we are like complete strangers. A part of you probably still need to do some healing to fully let go and accept that it ended.
Easier say than done, but we do gotta let go of people who’s not really good for us or not meant to be our person. So, we can find our next person who is right for us.

Anonymous · Answer

I may be a narcissist.. I fall hard but I’m heartless.. I ghosted someone that I had mad feelings for because it was just so overwhelming for me.. I know, I’m a horrible human being.

funny I literally found myself driving to work in the city exactly—3 days ago (when you posted this question, lol)—with him right in front of me.. both an hour away from where we live in opposite directions.. it’s like the universe is trying to bring us together..

He’s on my mind quite often. It drives me crazy.

Serkee · Answer

Yeah, I was with my ex for about a year and she lived with me for about six months. I thought things were going great, she kept telling me they were, but one day when I was at work she took my dog and left, and ghosted me. I was really worried for a while, until I eventually learned through her grandpa that she was with another guy. Come November it'll have been a year, and not a day has gone by that I haven't thought about her.

Redstang88 · Answer

Yup. Been over 2.5 years now and still can’t get her out of my head, never been the same since and doubt I ever will be
When you put everything you have into it and they rip your heart out and stomp all over it, the pieces just never go back together quite right

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't know and idc actually but nope i don't think that they have any feelings for me anymore, i think that i don't even exists for them, anyways i just have 2 ex, one ex girlfriend from an LDR and one ex wife, broke up from 10 years ago!

Now i don't have anyone, plus i think that i have no luck in love, their all bunch of liars and careless animals!

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Only one guy makes me feel like that but luckily he don't live in my city so I don't have to bump into him. It's shitty when some stuff online pops up from the past tho.

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Yeah but I've tried not letting any of what she does to me effect me but in the end of it all it still effects me emotionally and I do tend to fall for their bullshit when I've tried showing nobinter est in any of my exs

luvstoned4him · Answer

Nah I can happily say I am finally healed. Clean slate and thats the way I like it

avery58 · Answer

Yeah, there's one. That's all I'll say about that.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Yes but in a negative way, I run into my ex/bd when dropping off my daughter and just seeing him gives me anxiety and my stomach hurt.

Ria-xo · Answer

Actually yes I do, we were together a long time, but when we split we remained really close friends and so did our families. We will both always love one another and respect one another.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Sure! Since high school!! Still feelings there for both of us (so they said) with several different women!

Nikki1989 · Answer

All of them except one are still close friends, so there is that.

legalboxers · Answer

ex fiancee. and ex who used me. can't listen to music I think about her

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

Yes, my ex is like an spell over me.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, I do not.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Does it look like I have an ex?

Anonymous · Answer

*exes not ex's.

missindiana93 · Answer

Hell no

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