What do you do when you get the itch to text or call your ex?

[Anonymous]

He was more than my boyfriend but my best friend. We often talked every single day whether by phone or texting.

Today is my first official day of No Contact and it's fucking hard. I know he needs his space and time, but the habit is hard to break.

I know it's just been one day, but I miss him already. I miss his voice.

This song reminds me of him, All I wanted-Paramore:

https://youtu.be/W7nmB20qJv4?si=sV3u_f72ger69tIG

[Katelina99]

I know how you feel. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up badly to where he blocked me. I couldnt contact him. I only had his voice messages and broke my heart. My advice would be to spend as much time with friends, spend time on hobbies or projects, work or school. Focus on yourself - as clichè as it sounds, it helped me a lot. It took me a month to move past him, you will have memories of him but they will only be memories without the emotions attached. I promise!

[Asker]

Thank you! I will try my hardest to do that! And it would have been easier if he blocked me but he hasn't done that.

[Katelina99]

Take it as a blessing. I wish my ex did not block me because it told me he never wanted to talk nor see me ever again. It crushed me a lot. He probably didn't block you because he does not hold grudges against you at all, which a healthy sign of maturity! Definitely cry out all that pain and grief of losing him though. If you dont it gets trapped inside you and you dont fully recover enough to be with another person.

[Asker]

I've definitely been doing some crying. Yesterday I cried a lot and did something stupid. I wrote him a letter and sent it to him and it backfired. This is why I had to start the no contact because he needs a lot of space and time.

[DishLady]

I look at the last nasty text and remember not to reach out again.

[CuriousHubby]

Good luck! When ever I got the otch I'd write a long letter with my feelings and by the time I tried to mail it the urge would pass and I'd burn it!

Try it 6 pages long at least! Get it all out how you miss him and want him what you miss... Mourn the relationship

[Asker]

Ok I can do that. Thanks!

[CuriousHubby]

Your welcome and please hand written! It helps to not just type it

[Asker]

Ok I will!

[CuriousHubby]

Thanks for mho

[Asker]

You're welcome!