What would you do if your ex texted you?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I had two exes text me over the Holidays.

Well, one of them texted both me and my wife, to wish us Happy Holidays and commented on our family photos on Facebook - things ended amicably with her and admittedly she's more a friend of my wife than an ex for me.

What about you?

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3 mo

The other ex who had sent me Holiday Wishes, I didn't reply to because it looked like a copy pasted message she had sent to all her contacts.

I didn't have her number anymore but understood whom it was thanks to the WhatsApp profile pic.
She's the ex who had sucker punched me when I told her to calm down, so our break up wasn't exactly amicable.

[crossdressingrihno]

If I have a wife that I loved dearly, then I chose her and her alone. If I have an ex who is a friend of my wife and they text us both wishing us a merry Christmas. I’ll just wish them a merry Christmas back.


If you truly choose your wife, then your ex isn’t special she’s just another woman and so you treat her as such.
If you’re friends with another woman, that’s OK good for you.
If there’s another woman who’s friends with your wife and she wishes you a merry Christmas that’s OK wish them a merry Christmas back because she’s friends with your wife.
If another woman flirts with you or does something suspicious block her, don’t talk to her and tell your wife because she’s just another woman and is nothing special, but your wife is more than that. She’s incredibly special and you don’t wanna give that up.


It’s as simple as that Once you married your wife, and you truly choose her, then Every woman who you’re not related to, or who your wife’s not related to is just another woman.
Obviously, your mom is still your mom your sister is still your sister your cousin is still your cousin your mother-in-law is still your mother-in-law your sister-in-law is still your sister-in-law your cousin in law is still your cousin in law. But your ex is just another woman every girl who is your friend can still be your friend, but they’re still just another woman. Even the most beautiful women in the world are just another woman.

[wysiwyg2525]

Don't text them back. In fact you should of blocked them there is no what if it is what is. You eneded it for a reason. This a reason why they call it history. But if you're desperate for attention by all means text them back for a hookup. That's why they are texting you anyways.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’d rather him not… I think he respects em enough not to disrupt my daily life due to his regrets or whatever.

I have no bad feelings towards him.

I feel thankful, for him to love me as much as he did and for making me feel in love for the first time in my life and I’ll always be thankful.

But , he’s in my past and I want it to stay that way.

Whatever we had, was beautiful and it had a beautiful ending in its own sentimental way. I’d not change anything.

[Anonymous]

I honestly would ignore it, we ended things amicably and even remained friends for a while but my new boyfriend is not comfortable with me staying in contact with my ex. I also found out that my ex was not over me just yet so it’s better for me to ignore him in order to not give him the wrong idea.

[TrueConfection]

I haven't heard from my ex since getting engaged to my husband (over 20 years ago). I would be surprised and concerned to hear from him.

I'd more likely hear from my husband's ex. If I did, I'd have to change all our numbers.

[Paris13]

The Current EX I Broke Off With back in 2022, We Stay in Touch But It's----Touch and Go. lolxxoo

[AviatorTom]

I'm still on good terms with my ex-wife. We texted each other Happy Holidays, and we also wish each other Happy Birthday.

[NathanDavis]

they all did...

two of them are very close friends today, and the other two... we've always been on friendly terms, so we do catch up from time to time... not just the holidays

so, not really a big deal...

[HawkPerception]

In your case, if your wife is cool with it and is a friend of hers, then I'd wish her Happy Holidays back. I would make sure to always communicate with my wife if or when she communicated with me and what she said. But I think it's honestly better to just move on with exes and leave get on with the next phase in your life.

[Becky316]

I've gotten texts from several of my ex's. I read them, think about them and remember why they're an ex. Usually not a good reason, then I send this response. "Thank you for your interest. I am not accepting applications for the position of asshole at this time. Good luck in your search!"

[AmeriRiver096]

If you are unsure of how to respond to your ex’s holiday wishes, I’d suggest advising you to keep it brief and positive. You could say something like, “Thanks for the holiday wishes! Wishing you a great holiday season as well.” This maintains a friendly tone without diving too deep into personal matters.

[Account]

I wouldn't do anything. I don't have the energy to entertain them anymore in any way.
I have already forgotten our shared history so to me it would be like replying to a complete stranger.

[Drumlin2001]

I'd be civil. I'd want to know what they wanted as we've not spoken in over 5 years and things didn't end great. I've moved on in life, am now engaged with 2 kids. Really don't have much to say to them.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Some random Indian dude pretending to be a chick started texting me last night... no ex's seem to bother me though.

[Fireguy17]

which one?
Some I would ignore, some we have moved on, one I keep in touch with we are friends, and a couple I wonder how they are doing and if they ever found what they were looking for.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't blame you at all. She doesn't deserve a response.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I would have replied with basic courtesy if it wasn't obviously something she just absent-mindledy sent to all her contacts.

As for the hitting, it's unforgivable and should not be tolerated.
The only exception I could make would be in a situation like one of my friends found himself in - his wife had lost her pregnancy and she lashed out at him in her grief and ended up slapping him. She was horrified right after and apologized, he forgave her because he saw she was blinded with grief. That's the only exception I could make, and even then only if it's a one-time incident.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sun_Kim-Ai I agree with you.

I just wouldn't have replied at all either way. Lol.

[KinkyKittycat]

probably cry from anger and sadness thinking about the emotional trauma i was put through knowing he's only hitting me up to try and do it all again. lmao

[Redstang88]

I’d be thrilled to at least know she’s still alive. Would be nice to know how she’s doing

[Nikki1989]

I don't text, but exes contact me all the time.

[red324]

They never text me. Over 200 different girls, you would think one would come back... nope never get more than a couple months out of one either, so you can hardly even call them an ex to begin with.

[serenalovesramen]

i would hit his ass with a left jab, right jab, left hook, right uppercut, round house kick him, stomp him, hit the Soulja boy on his ass, then walk away

[serenalovesramen]

oh shit I thought it said what would you do if you met your ex 💀

[SolitarySolace]

Ignore it. What the fuck else am I supposed to do? They all cheated on me I am not taking any of their shitty asses back

[IslaTheWitch]

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[Bella2423]

It depends on how it ended with him
If it was cruel, I will cut all ties

[MemeSupreme]

send them a meme bc i am meme supreme