Jack will deaden the initial pain, but it's not a cure. The best cure for a broken heart is moving in, putting the past behind you. It's not easy, we al know that, but taking the future small steps, one after the other, will get you there.
I know. I just hate it. I was broken hearted over my boyfriend and I ending in may. But I loved this guy even before that relationship so this hurts too. But worse is he's just ghosted so I've no idea what's happened or why! So closure is hard. I mean. I don't think so but for all I know his phone broke and he will pop back up in a few days. But either way... it really is something I need to move on from. I resisted the pull of Jack tonight...
A night (or more) with a buxom blonde !!!
Burying yourself in something that's going to take up all your attention while you're doing it. Sports have always helped my breakups but if you are not into that things like art or video games are always good.
I mean it kinda counts! A hockey club is a great idea, it is great for improving yourself a lot and meeting new people. I wouldn't mind talking if you had any questions/concerns about it :))
Mainly I haven't played hockey since my school days!! But i did enjoy it and compared to football, netball, rugby, I think hockey I defo like more.
There's a hockey club near me so I thought I could go start by hanging out and watch the teams. There's a women's and a mens team. Don't know if there's an age limit or groupings based on age? But guess if I hang out I can find out...
I will research when I have time soon. Actually.. I think the hockey club is open tonight. Maybe I'll be brave! But yeah... I was wondering basic rules? Other than chase and hit puck into goal lol. Do u play on ice? I don't think this here is..
Personally I play on ice! I think it is also easier to skate on ice because the transitions in power skating are more lenient, you have to be very precise with wheels in roller hockey -- And a roller hockey league would not pay me to play like my current ice hockey league does.
In terms of rules it's hard to touch on them all without a long comprehensive book, but I will try to outline some of the most important things to know for a first game:
Here are some common penalties: Tripping, Slashing, Spearing, Roughing, Fighting.
Most penalties will put you in the penalty box for 2 minutes and your team will be down one player. If your team has a penalty, your team will be on the "PK" or Penalty Kill. The opposing team will be on "PP" or Power Play. The rest are self explanatory but you will draw a Roughing penalty if you check or hit any player who does not have the puck. If they have the puck, it is fair play mostly. But... Don't draw penalties because your team will hate you.
Speaking of PP and PK; Every player apart from the goalie has a Plus/Minus. This is how many even-strength goals (Normal play when nobody is on a penalty) the player was on the ice for. You want your plus minus to be as high as possible. There is more to being a good player than scoring goals. Make sure your assists are also high and your plus minus is always in the positives.
You'll start the game in the faceoff circle. If you are the one facing off the other team, if you try to hit the puck before the ref drops the puck you will reset or the ref will switch you out with one of your teammates. The 4 sub-faceoff circles around the rink are also used depending on where the stoppage of play happened. You don't want this to be on your defensive side.
In short: Make sure you aren't icing the puck or skating offsides, because this will stop play and you will have to have another faceoff.
Icing: Sending the puck to the other team's defensive zone while nobody is there to catch the pass.
Offsides: Both of your skates cross the blue line before the puck does. You may have one skate in the offensive zone before the puck, but if you have 2, the play is offsides and the whistle will be blown.
Miscellaneous: Listen for your teammates and coach VERY closely, or you won't know when to switch out with another player or who is around you when you are on the ice. -- Keep your eyes up when you stick handle. You will get hit by other players and checked to the boards if you don't stay aware of your surroundings. -- There has to be white space between the puck and the red line for a goal to count. Just because it went past the goal post doesn't mean it is a good goal. -- Be prepared to take hits that hurt, this is a full contact sport. -- do NOT touch the other team's goalie. AT ALL. If you do, you are willingly volunteering to have a problem. It is an unspoken rule. Not with your stick, or your body. You will be universally hated, even if it doesn't count as "Goalie interference."
Words to live by for hockey: "You go til you can't go no more." and "Do it tired" Whether you are hurting or tired, you keep going. That is the way of the sport.
But have fun! Because it is tough, and it hurts, but it is the best thing about being alive in my opinion. I would not trade it for the world.
Hockey is great for adrenaline! I would hope I'm passionate about it haha, I play for a living. I hope you end up enjoying it as much as I do! Who knows, you might find you want to do it more often
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I don't know if the things I do will help you :) I watch girls dance on youtube it calms me down and I play video games and watch movies and shows. I do this pretty much all the time though when I'm resting. I need to do something that I don't need energy for and I'm alone because just being around someone else takes away energy from me. Being online is the easiest solution :).
But with emotional things I usually just accept it and move on. Like it sucks now but i just need to deal with it and live my life and it'll pass. basically I just continue my life like nothing's changed and wait for it to pass. Sometimes I do have some times where I'm online too much or just my balance in life is off and then I try and fix it. Like right now my sleep schedule is fucked up because I'm stressed out from all the things I need to get done after moving. But I'm trying to fix it slowly.
Good luck to you :)
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Thank you and haha haven't heard mention of Kpop in some while!!
I can't watch tv much. Can't seem to sit through more than ten mins. I tend to come here to feel my loneliness void.
Its kind of been a blessing in disguise at mo as I have a few urgent things needing my attention and I got a lot done yesterday without the distraction of my crush guy.
I don't know what normal day to day is anymore... well I do. But it seems so dull and boring. I'm scared of getting depressed again. Had a couple of serious episodes of depression in my life.
But... what can we do except acceptance of the situation and move forward! I'm trying!
Believe it or not, it's a bit of self isolation without the jack, there's a lot of self improvement you can do by processing everything and then finding ways to make yourself better, self improvement always helps with a heartbreak because a heartbreak makes you feel like shit but self improving makes you feel good, just process how your life will change after this heartbreak and how you can move on without this person and you'll slowly realize you are getting better.
That's the problem missy, you are holding onto something that is just not there anymore, it just leaves you missing it with no hope of it returning which leaves you unhappy, the truth is that there's really no such thing as being ready to move on, if you are waiting to be ready, it will never happen, you just have to choose to move on and let go of the idea of it.
As long as you know that you have too, I'm sure the pain will eventually force you to move on at some point, either ways, sorry it didn't work out and best of luck on the moving on process.
Thank you. Yeah I was gonna grieve tonight then move on. But bottle and tunes called my name as a nice distraction. He might not even be gone. I just wish he had told me if he had to go forva while cos things getting tricky his end... we were fuck buddies but he's got a girlfriend now yet our connection is (was) strong... hate this! I need to move on. But I need closure
He had a girlfriend? That would make you the side piece, never a good spot to be on cause normally their girl is still number one and you are just there for sexual purposes, I wouldn't be surprised if his way to get you to have sex with him is to make you feel special, if that was the case he would've broken it off with his girlfriend but it seems that when he gets home, he wants to come home to her, it would've been the other way around if his emotions for you were strong, normally when people fall for someone else they are falling off with the other, but he still wants to be with the other which makes me think he is emotionally attached to her and only sexually attracted to you, this is just a guess but sometimes closure can be more painful than the truth being hidden, you've got a lot to think about, whatever you decide I hope you heal from it all.
It's actually other way round. We have an amazing emotional connection he doesn't get with his girlfriend. It hurt but I did try to give him advise about building that connection with her. We had a physical connection for three months before they got back together and i had a boyfriend for three months. So we totally disconnected. Now I'm single but hrs back with her. But i full a void he has. It's complicated for sure. Side piece? Yh. I got upset Friday when a comment he made highlighted this fact. Another reason I need to move on. Butwjen a guy gives you 17hours a day of their attention (instead of their girlfriend) its damn hard to suddenly feel a massive void.
I see, it seems like you've made the right choice and you sacrificed your own happiness for the right choice, this is a strength not everyone wields and I'm sure it feels like the bad choice but you motivated him to not give up on his relationship, it was definitely the right thing to do, even tho it doesn't feel like it, natural justice doesn't just work one way, it works both, your reward might be more than what you'll expect and it seems like this decision you made might have helped you out in two ways meanwhile you are thinking it's a mistake, the results of how he treated you haven't changed, he had all the time to break off the relationship he had (which he was supposedly unhappy in) and gotten with you, as a mature person you gave him the best advice and that was to work on his relationship even if it costed u your happiness, apart from my family you are the only person I've seen with such strength, the results of how he treated you didn't change and I'm thinking of your future and I think the results will be much better when you find someone else, from what you've shown, you deserve more than what he was offering, you deserve commitment, not sure if you admitted that you cheated on your other partner but I'm going to assume u didn't and I'm going to at that apart from giving your body without proper commitment, you've made good choices, you should accept the next step in order to get better results and move on.
Nooo I'd never cheat! Reason he fully broke off with me was because when I got a boyfriend I tried just to be his friend in a much more basic sense. Cos he was upset about his girlfriend situation then and I cared deeply about him and said let's just be friends and I'd stick by him. Anyways I know you are right. Big age gap means we would never be like together. I wouldn't do that to him even if he wanted it. Cos ultimately he wants kids and I don't want more kids. Plus haha I think he would make a pretty terrible boyfriend. Tho I also think if I was his age but still me in wisdom... I would be able to sort him out and handle him lol... but anyways I know. I miss the time, attention and feeling of an amazing almost spiritual bond we have. But it will fill a thousand times better if I can find it in someone worthy!!! And available. I've been searching but... so far I only seem to find guys wanting sex. And they don't see the real me.
Well you know what they say, all the good things of worth are never easy to get, when you do tho it will be worth it, you'll feel better tho, it's still fresh and it's not expected for anyone to fully get over it within a few days, its important that you are aware of the importance of moving on, if you know that then the time you take is all a matter of time.
Adopt Pets?
I love being a 'family guy', so when I lost it all there was a big void to fill up because there was no longer anyone to look after (I don't care about myself).
Last year August I have adopted 2 Ferrets and they fill that void; they give me a purpose again.
I have my dog...
Amd we have another dog and a cat but they're my daughters pets more than "mine" cos my dog wants to be everywhere with me. I do take him work and put his bed under my desk sometimes.
I used to have lots of pets. And i rescue wildlife sometimes. Pigeons and hedgehogs usually. Once a duck lol.
I don't have enough consistent time for more pets anymore tho. I used to hatch quails and chickens and we've had rats, rabbits, guinea pigs, mice, hamsters, Japanese fighting fish, bearded dragon and others. Not ferrets tho cos they sound quite difficult to feed and have a vet that will see them. And my kids were small then so figured dangerous if they bit a finger!
Yes, Ferrets are not for everyone. I thought I had prepared myself well enough, but they have driven me up the walls a few times. They are very difficult and stubborn when they are young. Mine, I've got 2, can be quite nippy. My boy not so much anymore, only when he is grumpy... my girl sometimes doesn't know when to stop. I still have to wear 'body armour''; getting undressed and going under the shower can be challenging.
They are very smart though... and mine certainly know when they are doing something 'wrong'.
Cats are my preferred Pets though. I've had very strong bonds with a couple of them. My best friend has been Cleo, but I was forced to leave her behind with my ex... and eventually I received a rather odd message from my daughter (I don't think it was her, but my ex) that Cleo had become ill and that she had been put down.
I had to leave Cleo behind because my landlord said I was not allowed to have Pets or Dogs in my flat, so when I felt ready to adopt a Pet I went looking for a different Pet; that's how I came out on Ferrets. Ferrets are really affectionate, and it is important to me that Pets show affection.
For me, getting out in nature and exploring has been amazing. Also just talking to people about it.
Sorry!
Games can help too, but they shorten your attention span
Drinking always made me feel worse when dealing with grief. I suggest hanging out with friends, maybe volunteering. Helping someone worse off than yourself makes you feel a lot better about your own mess.
I don't have friends to hang with. That's why I go pub, club, cafe, gym, movies etc solo...
I don't mind being strong and independent. But I get damn lonely. And this guy talked to me so much everyday it really filled that void.
Anyways lol I survived my half bottle of Jack. Feel a little rough around the edges. Has a little cry lol. Just wish I had proper closure.
When you're in a relationship, that person shouldn't be your "only friend" it creates a massive burden of that one person taking care of all your social and emotional needs. That's why you should have multiple friends to help distribute the load of your need for social interaction without resorting to alcohol to cope with a lack. Get a new hobby that isn't just sex, where you can develop intimacy without getting naked. I'm not your dad, but that's my advice.
Find someone who's able to fix your heart and never let it break again!
Hope you will find someone who will truly appreciates you
Focus on what else you want for yourself out of life besides relationship/sex related stuff.
Or just find a good long (100 to 200+ hour) RPG to play.
How do you mend a broken heart.
Al Green
Hang out with your friends and have fun with them, be active and do things. Doing stuff helps you get over it faster.
I don't know where you live but try having a picnic with some friends/family, or try a new hobby.
Time and meeting someone else. Life is what you make of it.
Get up off your rump and go live. Why waste a day or youthful health wallowing in the bottom of alcohol?
*bless* I know!!! It just hurts. I'm going at Saturday night so I'm looking forward to that.
Have fun! And screw that guy.. just not literally.
Yup socializing with friends then maybe try to get back into your hobbies or try to get new ones and focus on that. this stuff has always helped me out when i was really down about things
Best way to get over a guy is to get under another.
I've never had a broken heart, but I would imagine finding someone who appreciates and loves you for you would do the trick.
Tbh nothing helps. You just have to go through it
Go out with friends have a laugh with them
Happy that he's back with you but just dont let him upset you like that again
Some wild crazy sex
that sure is not the way to go
A buxom blonde !!!
That'd work !!!
New sex toy,
Just saying...
The cure for a broken heart is me
A right good f**k
Go for it girl I'm ready when you are lol
get some good rounds of sex!
Oh no :/
You know the cure already, but maybe... Not ready to put the cure in motion?
Hold my beer!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGgMZpGYiy8
Its been a while I didn't pay the cure a visit, I don't know if you like them, regardless, the message they bring is here for you 😊 Though it would be much better received if your ear was pleased at the same time, I reckon
haha, well then, it's already something 😆
Enjoy the cure as it is presented then !
Thank you, the feeling of accomplishing something today is great ☺️
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