What has helped you heal a broken heart?

[Anonymous]

A guy led me on for a year and half. He told me last night he doesn’t see it being more than what it’s been and is “passively looking” for a real relationship. He then said “the ball is in my court” if it is going to continue. I ended it. I know it won’t matter in 5 years, but I’m so heartbroken.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey sis, I'm so sorry you're going through this hurt right now. Breakups are the absolute worst, but I just want you to know you did the right thing by ending it since you both want different things. A year and a half is a long time to invest in someone for them to not see a real future with you - you deserve so much better than being someone's backup plan or just floating along in limbo!

Let yourself feel all the emotions for a bit. Curl up with some ice cream, throw on a sad playlist, and just have a nice cry. It'll feel cathartic to let it all out. Then after, try distracting yourself with friends. Have a movie night, go for drives with the windows down, anything to get out of your own head. Being around people who love you will lift your spirits.

In the next few weeks, focus on yourself. Take a yoga class, start a new hobby, pick up shifts at work - keeping busy will help heal your heart faster. Delete and block him from everything so you're not tempted to reach out or stalk his profiles. Out of sight is out of mind.

As time passes, reflect on red flags you may have ignored earlier on. Write out what you've learned from this experience. It'll help you see that this relationship probably wasn't right for your happiness in the long term. Don't dwell on the what ifs - focus on moving forward.

And girl, remind yourself DAILY how amazing you are! This guy's loss. You're strong, kind, talented and any guy would be lucky to call you theirs. Don't let this break your confidence or change who you are. You've got this!

Feel free to reach out if you ever want to vent or cry together. Having good friends makes heartbreak 100x easier to handle. You'll smile about this soon, I promise. Keep your chin up sis 💞

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

For my worst one, it helped me a lot to explore a lot of new hobbies and hang out with brand new friends. I also resurrected some of my old hobbies from childhood. Initially they just all served as distractions but at some point, they started to shape my goals and dreams, and I found myself one day waking up so excited to pursue those interests that I nearly forgot about my ex.

[rosemilk]

i'm glad you ended it. the dude wasted a lot of your time. just think of what a jerk he is and how much better off your future will be

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

When, I went through this I would match my thought w/my feelings and try t' talk to her. She would bad mouth me, y I "foresaw" soon recooperation. In the meanwhile, I would still see other girls. How lonG did it take me t' ( Heartthrobly ) release from'er?: 3 n' a half months! And, when the trick started t' call me ( I ) got my # changed!.
Yearz, later still askn' people about Me..30 years, later' send me friend requests on fb, that I just reject/ignore.

[Sonorous]

Tame Impala + Time = Healing

[ChicoFromThe305]

Only time heals that