She was my only friend, we talked every day, sunrise to sunset for many months, she's the only non family member I've exchanged "I love you" with, but today, she said goodbye. I tried very hard not to cry, but I couldn't help it. I've been fighting 6 severe mental illnesses, I've been in and out of the hospital a lot the past few months, and I was the loneliest and saddest I'd ever been before I met her. I was nothing before, and she turned me into something by giving me a purpose, my ability to heal someone else, it brought me higher and higher, and turned me into a man, but then she said it has to end. I moved last summer, and nobody likes me here, people are absolutely repulsed by me because I'm very different and not what they're used to, hence why I have no other friends and I really did love her and this keeps my record alive of my heart being broken everytime I give it to someone I thought cared about me. How do I deal with this?
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this... it is tough. You can't do much to get her back, but you can focus on yourself. She might have her own reasons for leaving, reasons you might not even be aware of. Some people come into our lifes for a certain purpose. They do what they have to do and then leave. It seems like your friend was one of those people. I have experienced this before and although it seemed like the world end at that time, you will come to see it differently after a while.
So now you have to focus on you. You said she turned you into something, turned you into a man. Now it is time to take the nurture of this man into your own hands. Equip yourself with confidence and positive thoughts. Take your time to heal, cry if it makes you feel better and release tension. There's nothing wrong with it. But you shouldn't just stay there. Try to get out more, try to find things to do, like a hobby. Try to mingle with people. Maybe they were quick to judge because you are from a different area but if they get to know you better they might change their mind. Find a job... getting more interaction with people will certainly help you. And you can never know where you will find a friend.
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I do have a job, but it's a night job and it always demands that I work weekends at night. I occasionally get Thursday off which is a popular time for people to go out, but people still seem to dislike me and make me feel unwelcome. There's not many places to meet people as most people will either ignore me, or look at me like I'm crazy and ask why I'm talking to them.
I see. So not that much interaction either. 🤔 this one guy you mentioned, have you tried to ask him to hang out? Like go and watch a game together, or whatever it is you guys do...
Ok... let's see. How about you approach him at a slow pace. Start with saying hello when you see him. You know the usual stuff "Hi (name), how are you?" In a casual manner... talk about the weather, or when you see he has his hands full and you can help offer to help (eg open the door for him or get a chair out of the way so he can pass)
Focus on something else, drown your life with so many other things, surround yourself with all kinds of people, learn to be social, fit in, sign up for courses, learn to do a new job, read books, play video games, go to the gym, follow a healthy food diet, get closer with your family, re-initiate contact with old friends, work out at home, set many short-term goals and some long-term ones, chase your dreams, follow your passion, what you like, and what you wanna do, fill up your life with awesome things! Things that'll distract you from the past and make you forget it because you gotta keep up with what's coming! All of those challenges you put yourself into will make you a more awesome person, and the harder you work on them the sooner you'll be a superstar!
I hope this helped, best of luck my friend 😊❤
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It didn't, because I've tried all of those things for years, and none of it helped at all
I am So Sorry... She was really then, No Real Friend. Get back on the Right Track, Think of You now so One day the Right girl will come Along with a Special Song. xx
Well first of all I’m sorry to hear this. I honestly don’t know what to say since I don’t know the complete story. I know this is going to sound very cliche but you will find friends at some point please believe me. Everything will become better.
But if you feel lonely or you just want to talk to someone please send me a private message. You don’t have to do things on your own and sometimes it can help to get help from a complete stranger. It’s all up to you
She said she felt like she was hindering me from getting a girlfriend (which wasn't the case, I was just taking that at my own pace and not rushing it, like I've tried to in the past), and she called herself a piece of shit because she felt like she was using me, and I didn't deserve it. I told her that I didn't feel used by her and she's brought out the best in me and turned me from a boy into a man and that I loved her. She hardly listened and told me she loved me, too, but she "couldn't be on my back and call anymore", she then said goodbye, blocked me everywhere, wrote stupid stuff about me, and that's the last I've heard of her.
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