Is me telling my boyfriend I don’t know if I’ll be with him in the future but I love him and I’m happy now an excuse for him to cheat?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend asked me if I would leave him for a Jewish man cuz I’m Jewish and he’s not. I said I don’t know maybe but in my head I love him and honestly don’t care it’s more of pressure from my family. I left to
Europe for a month after we were texting everyday and talking but he cheated on me and did sexual things with a girl. But he told me it was my fault cuz I made him sad about what I had said. But I reassured him like crazy and felt horrible after and he still cheated. I don’t know anymore am I wrong?

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You can't make someone else do something unless you hold a gun to his head, and I don't think that is what happened. No, he made a choice, and he is responsible for that choice.

2. Blaming you for his failure is an indication of his refusal to accept responsibility for his own actions. How will you ever resolve any relationship problems if he always says everything is your fault?

3. Break up. You may have some affection for the guy but he has given you the ultimate disrespect and any attempted relationship with him will ultimately fail. Cut your losses now and move forward.

4. Your response to his question could have been better. I assume you were dating exclusively. That should mean that you are committed to trying to make this relationship last forever, and that's what your partner wants to hear: "I'm with you because I love you and I am committed to trying to make our relationship last forever."

[Summeroflove]

If he cheated it’s time to leave immediately. Break it off.

[Anonymous]

No but at the same time does it matter as you've made it clear that you don't have a future together? If you want a nice Jewish boy you need to start looking now as you will only get older

[DrPepper12]

Bye bye fuckboi!! If anyone says "look what you made me do" you HAFTA get them out of your life asap

[strateguy632]

That is not an excuse.

[slatyb]

There is no excuse for cheating.

[Iron_Man]

Basically, you’re dumping him

[Asker]

But even if I told him I felt bad and I said I was sorry I never wanted to break up I just wanted to be honest I don’t know