What's the best way for someone to get over a breakup where their partner cheated on them?

[Slim57]

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Thanks for the good responses so far everyone but just wanted to put a slight disclaimer I'm not talking about me even though it has happened, just wanted to bring light to trying to help others who have had to deal with the same thing. 🙏

[Finchie40]

Move on from them and realize you deserve better , focus on yourself and pretend they no longer exist to you , delete them off social media and move on with your life , understand they no longer deserve anymore of your time , they betrayed you , you didn’t betray them , so realize they are a POS and move on , start dating other girls’ when you feel ready , just don’t rush into anything right away with any of them until you feel you can give your heart completely to one of them , , just take it slow until you finally meet someone that treats you way better than your ex did. If you want to have sex with any of them , have sex , understand you are single now and you don’t have to answer to anyone , in time your ex will be really nothing to you anymore , because this will be a new chapter in your life and hopefully you will eventually meet someone way better than your ex. that you will be happy with , After my one ex cheated on me , i eventually met a girl that rocked my world , she was 100 times better than my ex , she treated me like Gold and she had an amazing heart , that made it easier for me to forget about my ex , to the point I felt like a dumbass for even getting into a relationship with my ex in the first place. Just look at your ex like it was a learning experience of what not to fall for ever again. So treat that new girl the way you want to be treated , not every girl cheats , just selfish ones do. Hang in there my
Man , I know you are hurting and I know it’s a shitty feeling but in time she will be nothing but a part of your past

[ohsheeT]

You can be hurt for a couple days but come on quit looking at the negative look at the positive that person just prove to you exactly who they are and exactly why they don't belong in your life because that's what they would do to you you have to thank her for not taking you deeper down the hole you don't want to be with somebody like that so think about that... We have been programmed to feel bad when somebody f**** us over that's not the way it is in real life when somebody screws you over and saves you from a bunch more heartache you have to just thank them and move on acknowledge it and move on when something like this happens that just means there's somebody better out there for you and you're not meant to be with that person

And it's not your fault that she cheated on you that's just who she is as a human being she thought she could get away with something and she probably did for a little while but the truth always comes out and what makes it even worse is when she's coming home every night acting as if nothing has happened you don't want a person like that in your life you can let that go start all over

[IslaTheWitch]

live your life... don't focus overly on the past... just let emotions go through you and acknowledge them, but don't focus on them

it's in the past now, so focusing on it won't change a thing

meet new people, or revive old acquaintances... simply live your life and enjoy it

[Account]

I have no idea because if that happened to me any care or affection I previously had for them would instantly disappear. It would be like we were never together. I don't know what is wrong with me.

[Slim57]

Nothing, sounds like a good way to handle it, and I can understand

[Account]

Nah something is broken within me, but that is how I mostly function. For other people such things take time. For me, it is an instant realization.

[Slim57]

I've heard of others being like that too

[Anonymous]

If this happened to you then you definitely got sympathy. Unless you were cheating too (and I doubt you were) she is zero excuse for that.

The problem is this is blunt force attack on your ego. You start questioning yourself with bs insecurities. Like it happened because you weren’t attractive enough, man enough, etc. But don’t listen to that lying voice. None of that is why.

Classy women don’t cheat on their men. Even if the guy did something to really turn them off. They might break up with the guy and then (and only then) get their needs met elsewhere.

Bottom line is your ex has no moral compass. Maybe she will repent later or maybe she won’t. But it’s a her problem not a you problem. Remember that.

[katiesmuff]

You just gotta move on and nobody will say it is easy.

[exitseven]

The only way to do it is allow yourself to feel the pain. After you feel it for a while you get used to it.

[Starrrboy]

You gotta always remember.. just because they went to someone else doesn't mean the other person is better than you..

[LiamJHayden]

Be thankful to be free of such a disloyal partner.

[worldscolide]

Time. There really isn't much beyond time. And living your best life. Also block her on everything.

[jahaims]

What is there to get over. You were tricked by a bad person. None of it was real

[StevenMcGarrett]

Hump her friends and make a video and send it to her.

[Shamalien]

Building yourself. Gym, hobbies, career

[In_Trance]

Go bang someone else