Husband has stopped all communication with me, can someone please offer some male perspective?

[Anonymous]

My H works away and unhappy, in the process of trying to find a new job closer to home. We got married a few months ago. He is always in regular contact all day. Everything was so completely normal, but then I could start see a change in his communication last Thursday morning, he sounded very off. He made no more contact.

Friday he messages accuses me of having something with one of the new starters where I work (absurd) I thought he trusted me and knew that I would never ever do that to him. This is not my character. Friday night he has gone into my social media platforms and has found that I am following a lot of males that are vey fit. Background:

6 months ago, I seen on H FB page he was following those half naked women with their bits out. He was liking their posts and it gave me the ick. It wasn't that he was looking at these women, it was my insecurities about my own body that took at absolute knock. I told him how I felt, I wasn't angry at him, but he quickly unfollowed them. But before I communicated to him, I went onto my TickTok and followed a heap of muscley men out of spite. The next day I realised how stupid and childish I was being and unfollowed them, I find it quite boring.

I honestly thought I had unfollowed them, as I don't watch my following page, I only watch my For You Page, none of that on it. My husband has gotten into my Following page and seen these men that I following. I honestly didn't know that I was, I went in to my Follow Page and there was a heaps of random pages my TickTok was following that I had no idea, not even Male Models, stupid stuff that I would never follow. I really did think I had unfollowed them, as they don't even pop up my feed. Now deleted.

He has not spoken to me for days now and won't reply to any of my messages at all. So I can't even explain to him, I won't do it over text either, I want to explain over a phone call, but he won't answer me. I feel like a total Hypocrite about it all.

[Tarifa]

Sorry to tell you, but this is an important crisis, and very early on in your marriage. Each relationship -- married or not -- is based on trust. There's little future without it.

You need to take action and talk about it. He clearly is hurt. Sometimes men don't want to talk about certain things, we need more time than you women. I'd give him some time, let's say a few more days, and make sure he gets that message. But set a time limit and make him understand that you need clarity. He's hiding in a shell and needs time, maybe even for something as basic as finding the right words. Make him understand that you want to save your marriage. Communicate directly and openly. There's no other way out.

[Anonymous]

When he's back, you can try to sit down with him and talk through it all. Don't tell any lies, even if you think you will get away with them. Just be honest and encourage his honesty in a non-judgemental way. You both seem like you're overly emotional (he's worse in my opinion) but its not the end of the world, because you guys haven't done anything truly wrong to each other. It can all be worked out if you both are willing to talk through it all. I know it's hard, but try to keep your emotions in check, even if he gets emotional. Sometimes you just have to be the rational one.

[jazzy34]

You don’t need a male perspective. You and your husband need to go to marital counseling. My goodness. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[Asker]

Oh I know, this is a conversation I am going to have with him. I can see both sides here, I really was being so childish, for my age, inexcusable. I know he is so unhappy at work, so he is taking it all out on me. I have told him to leave.

[ComingRightHere]

So you like fit man, but not your husband's body?

He might find it heartbreaking to see that u dont like his body.

Do you really like him tho?

[jahaims]

He is too immature for a relationship let alone marriage